Guys,

I have been going through DJ Bible... The game is all about not showing your desperation, attitude, self-esteem, confidence and a lot more...

I am a bit confused on desperation part...

I am very close with a gal... She likes me pretty much and we have been hanging around from a long time... I did have sex with her once... Also I have been a bit desperate with her for couple of days and may be she didn't like it and started avoiding me...

Now I suddenly stopped everything because I knew I was desperate... and the result was like she started calling me 3-4 times a day and I didn't reply at all...
I did once saying I am very busy and will call you later... and than I called her up late night but she didn't answer.... So I dropped a text saying "Gal I am free tomorrow and wanna meet you in the noon, so make yourself available".

What will happen now? what should I do?


This is confusing... what would've happened? Why didn't she answer my call? Will she meet me tomorrow? Shall I call her tomorrow just to confirm or what?
And if she won't call me tomorrow than??

I am very much confused with this one and this is a bit hard thing for me... From inside I wanna meet her and I am very desperate...

Please advise me on how to handle this issue....

Well... I don't know how to explain it. I mean, I used to be the most needy, desperate guy on the planet, right now, I could care less what any girl thinks or whether I'll get one or not, my thinking is more in terms of... will the qualify enough to get me.

I have no idea how to explain how I got here. I think part of it is age... and a lot of experience. The more girls you deal with, the more you will understand its all an illusion and they have really overblown value.

You're going through the idealization stage... in a few years, you'll be laughing back at yourself now... going... Wow, I can't believe what I thought about this one girl. You care too much dude.

What does it matter what will or won't happen? I mean really? What's the big deal? Happens, doesn't happen, she calls, you call... it rains tommorow, it doesn't rain. Why does it matter? Will you end up on the street broke if she doesn't call? No? then why does it matter... at all...

3 and... a... half... billion women on this planet. Most of them horny and desperate And you're like spending time and energy thinking about this one chick, that's like 0.000000000000000000000000000000000000000000001% of the total population. What for?

Lol... That was funny and interesting... Yes you are right...

vivek59234 said:

Lol... That was funny and interesting... Yes you are right...

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Yes, I always am So what you gonna do about this? Are you ditching this chick or not?

Pretend you don't have the option of this girl. Make some opportunities to chat to some other girls, sound's like you are fixated on this girl and have a severe case of oneitis.

Start lining up a backup plan now, this will cover you if she bails and will cause your desperation mentality to naturally simmer down. Stay strong.

Yup surely I am gonna see a different gal... will ditch her... and what if she calls me again and just talks normally? Shall I fix a date or what?

Why not? Keep your options open, let HER know when YOU are available, she has to work around your schedule. If you can fit her in then that's great.

vivek59234 said:

Yup surely I am gonna see a different gal... will ditch her... and what if she calls me again and just talks normally? Shall I fix a date or what?

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You still care dude. What does it matter what you'll do IF whatever happens. Would you be asking "what do I do if x calls me, and do I talk normally"? if you had a 100 chicks lined up? no... Just kill that caring. It doesn't matter.

Yup cool... I'll do that... Thanks a lot Cory....

1 simple question... from next time if I see a girl... How to be in her mind by not showing any desperation?

How often should I call her? And how often should I be available?

You guys say "wait for 3-4 days to fix the date" , won't it be too late? Won't she forget it?

And if we talk over phone, and she's totally over me than how should I talk? Shall I show her that I care for her?


This is damn confusing...

You can't control what she thinks, you are over-thinking things. Get some other plates spinning and things will fall into place, with other plates spinning you will be nonchalant on the phone. You shouldn't need to analyze things at this level.

P.S. If she were to forget you after 3-4 days it would just show that her interest level is way too low and save you wasting your time.

This chick just called me up...

her: "I just saw your missed call and text".
Me: "M a bit sleepy... So what time are we meeting today?"
her: "I can't meet you today as it's Sunday".
Me: "Fine than I'll let you know next week if I am free".
She: "Ok, I am studying as exams are going on".
Me: "ya 5ne(in a sleepy tone)".
She: "even I'm sleepy now".
Me: "5ne than sleep bye"
She: "we'll talk in the evening".
Me: "lets c. bye".


Have I done the right thing? Now I am sure she is in to me and she might had a genuine prob. She doesnt want to leave me and she has few problems back at home...

Shall I talk to her normally when she calls? or shall I avoid her?

vivek59234 said:

Yup cool... I'll do that... Thanks a lot Cory....

1 simple question... from next time if I see a girl... How to be in her mind by not showing any desperation?

How often should I call her? And how often should I be available?

You guys say "wait for 3-4 days to fix the date" , won't it be too late? Won't she forget it?

And if we talk over phone, and she's totally over me than how should I talk? Shall I show her that I care for her?


This is damn confusing...

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Like kane says: you're overthinking. Your desperation IS in the overthinking. If you stop thinking, you'll automatically be cool, calm and do and say the right things with her.

Here's the point dude. You will meet thousands of girls just like her, and your odds with each one of those is the same as with this chick.

So WHY would you care if it succeeds or not? Stop trying to care or think what to say, when to call, when not to call. It doesn't matter... at all dude. Do whatever you feel like at the moment, go with the flow, because that always brings better results than trying to do/say/call the right way.

vivek59234 said:

This chick just called me up...

her: "I just saw your missed call and text".
Me: "M a bit sleepy... So what time are we meeting today?"
her: "I can't meet you today as it's Sunday".
Me: "Fine than I'll let you know next week if I am free".
She: "Ok, I am studying as exams are going on".
Me: "ya 5ne(in a sleepy tone)".
She: "even I'm sleepy now".
Me: "5ne than sleep bye"
She: "we'll talk in the evening".
Me: "lets c. bye".


Have I done the right thing? Now I am sure she is in to me and she might had a genuine prob. She doesnt want to leave me and she has few problems back at home...

Shall I talk to her normally when she calls? or shall I avoid her?

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Is this topic so interesting that you needed to create 2 different threads about it? It seems like high school nonsense. You're WAY TOO INTERESTED in a girl who shows you zero interest. Move on, and find something new in your life.