Hello men,
In the past fortnight I've had two chicks at work say something like: "Yeah, right, but you're just a player."
When the first girl said it, I laughed and gave a non-committal answer.
Then when the second girl said it, I got a bit defensive and shot her down.
I've been single for more than two years and almost all the chicks at work say crap like: "Why don't you have a girlfriend?", "You deserve a really nice girl" and all that.
So they obviously think I've got something good to offer (and I will as soon as I can get them alone to work my angles), but I get the impression the 'player' impression is something that's holding them back from having sex with me.
What are your thoughts? Should I act the part and tell them what they already suspect (you know, the 'bad boy' routine) or should I act a bit more innocent, mysterious and NOT a player? What would be more effective?

tell them "ya I love playing football"

Ive found that a lot of woman I attract will comment on this. Think about it, you are making a woman feel something she doesnt feel with many other men, she of course is going to think you must have this affect on every woman.

if you deny it your AFC, if you confirm it, you are her worst fear.

Chromeo said:

if you deny it your AFC, if you confirm it, you are her worst fear.

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So basically just play coy and keep em guessing then?

Greasy Pig said:

Hello men,
In the past fortnight I've had two chicks at work say something like: "Yeah, right, but you're just a player."
When the first girl said it, I laughed and gave a non-committal answer.
Then when the second girl said it, I got a bit defensive and shot her down.
I've been single for more than two years and almost all the chicks at work say crap like: "Why don't you have a girlfriend?", "You deserve a really nice girl" and all that.
So they obviously think I've got something good to offer (and I will as soon as I can get them alone to work my angles), but I get the impression the 'player' impression is something that's holding them back from having sex with me.
What are your thoughts? Should I act the part and tell them what they already suspect (you know, the 'bad boy' routine) or should I act a bit more innocent, mysterious and NOT a player? What would be more effective?

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If a girl calls you a playa, it's a very good sign.

It means she is interested in you, that is unless she is coc* blocking.

But mostly if your with a chick you and her and she calls you a playa', it's because her interest level has peeked, she is simply trying to find a way to reject you, to put it another way, she is looking at you as a sexual creature.

The best response is to either smile at her and dont say anything, or simply make a joke of it.

The worst thing you can do is for it to affect you and to go on the defensive, or to try to explain yourself.

You could also ramp it up, find fun and cool ways to ramp up the interaction.

Things personal to you.

This is a form of compliment, same has a girl your with asking you if your gay.

If a girl says you need a really nice girl, dont agree like your a 'really nice guy', simply turn round and say "i'd prefer a freaky one" and give her a smile.

It sounds like to me though these girls are busting on you, because your a nice guy, it wouldn't suprise me if they haven't said "Your too nice", to you at some stage.

jonwon said:

If a girl says you need a really nice girl, dont agree like your a 'really nice guy', simply turn round and say "i'd prefer a freaky one" and give her a smile.

It sounds like to me though these girls are busting on you, because your a nice guy, it wouldn't suprise me if they haven't said "Your too nice", to you at some stage.

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I love that 'freaky' angle and will use it. Thanks.
Interestingly, I have been called 'too nice' in the past but not by these chicks and not for about 15 years.
I'm getting on the drink with them on Wednesday night after work and I'm considerably more confident now if, in fact, it is a compliment. That's how I'll treat it at least.

Not only with this, but I find that it's always good to be very vague with women in general. They love it when you fvck with their heads.

It's not something that mandates an answer.

HER: "You're just a player."
YOU: <chuckle> "A player??"

Say it in a way that says, "I'm surprised you said it, but I'll go along with it just for fun." As if the title itself was a "joke".

Because really, that's what it is.

Then go about doing whatever you were doing.