backbreaker
02-07-2010, 07:22 PM
I was watching the john adams miniseries last night and the potrayl of abaigal adams I found is very refeshing for few reasons.
First of all, the woman was brilliant, espically so for a woman in the 1700's.
Bringing this into this forum in the issues we deal with today, we talk about marriage statistics, and she we or should we not get married.
My goal of getting married is quite simple; to improve my life.
I think this is a very simple litmus test.
Does the woman you fancy bring out the better qualtiies in you? or is she just cute or good in bed and can half ass cook? Does she make you an overall better person or do you spend alot of your time quirrling over silly and stupid agendas with her?
Watch the show. Their dreams and goals and amibitions were all one. She wanted him to be successful more than he wanted it it seemed. He trusted her more than anyone else, and she had no problem doing what she had to do when the times were rough.
She knew shen he needed to be built up, she knew she had to put his ego in check. John Adams always had an infurority complex and felt like he had something to prove becuase of where he came from, and with his cousin (Sam adams) being well..rich. he would often in court try moreso prove how smart he was versues trying to actually win cases.
Mrs. Adams had alot to do with taking this guy who she could see the potential in, she saw the man he could become, and she had a great hand in making him that man.
She also virtually single handily raised another president, John Quincy Adams by herself as her husband did not play a large part in his kids life.
Not a bad wife huh?
What I'm getting at is and the point of this thread is, we talk about what is and what is not wife matierial. Mrs. Adams was definatly wife material and it had nothing to do with how good she looked or how well she cooked. She as a wife was devoted to her husband.
that's not a word you here used very often anymore dealing with marriage.
How many women today do you know are DEVOTED to their husbands?
I am a better person with my fiancee around.. I am more focused, she wants what I want for me just as much as I want it. She sees the "chinks" in my armor and does a good job of offsetting them. She holds me accountable when other people won't. She speaks her mind even when it's **** I don't want to hear. In the game of life, where me reaching my ulatimate goals in life, my adding my fiancee to the equation is like me using up down left right a b a b select start.
Friday night I got an onslought of potential proposals that had to be done. I have found that I like propoals sitting in clients email box first thing moday morning, it's how you start a business week.
By the time I got them friday I was too tipsy to do anything and saturday I had a headache. So I put them off until today. So I get up in the morning and I really.. just dont' wanna. point blank. I wanted to lay back and watch TV. it was my non workout day in the gym...
so my Fiancee looks at me point blank and says in her cute british accent "I guessyou were just bull****ting when you told me where you wanted to take your company, because today you are acting like you don't give a ****. Get your ass up and get to work." and kissed me on the cheek.
She knows my biggest flaw is probablty keeping to task with any one thing. I'm extremely scatterbrained and I get easily distracted (hence wy i'm writting a 2 page post in the middle of the super bowl).
Most girls I've dated in the past would have been happy I wanted to "cuddle" with them on a sunday.
No one else would have the balls to look at me and say something like that. she knew she was right, and I knew she was right, got my ass in the shower and did the proposals. Hell she's probably more of the reason I'm in the shape I'm in now than anything else lol, she wont' LET me miss a day in the gym.
I create a list of **** I need to do every week, and we usually actually go over it together now and she will help me add stuff and then she is on my ass like white on rice for the entire week.
Even with that said, she knows when I'm throwing myself in my work because I'm trying to avoid something (like her) and she's not so much where she doesn't want her personal time with me. WE have a very spcial reltionship.
The problem is, there are very little quality women out there. Actually there are very few quality men as well. by qualtiy I mean constantly working to achieve a greater good, not settling, having ambitions other than fvcking and drinking and enduring work.\
A good woman is worth her weight in gold and is more than worth locking up.
First of all, the woman was brilliant, espically so for a woman in the 1700's.
Bringing this into this forum in the issues we deal with today, we talk about marriage statistics, and she we or should we not get married.
My goal of getting married is quite simple; to improve my life.
I think this is a very simple litmus test.
Does the woman you fancy bring out the better qualtiies in you? or is she just cute or good in bed and can half ass cook? Does she make you an overall better person or do you spend alot of your time quirrling over silly and stupid agendas with her?
Watch the show. Their dreams and goals and amibitions were all one. She wanted him to be successful more than he wanted it it seemed. He trusted her more than anyone else, and she had no problem doing what she had to do when the times were rough.
She knew shen he needed to be built up, she knew she had to put his ego in check. John Adams always had an infurority complex and felt like he had something to prove becuase of where he came from, and with his cousin (Sam adams) being well..rich. he would often in court try moreso prove how smart he was versues trying to actually win cases.
Mrs. Adams had alot to do with taking this guy who she could see the potential in, she saw the man he could become, and she had a great hand in making him that man.
She also virtually single handily raised another president, John Quincy Adams by herself as her husband did not play a large part in his kids life.
Not a bad wife huh?
What I'm getting at is and the point of this thread is, we talk about what is and what is not wife matierial. Mrs. Adams was definatly wife material and it had nothing to do with how good she looked or how well she cooked. She as a wife was devoted to her husband.
that's not a word you here used very often anymore dealing with marriage.
How many women today do you know are DEVOTED to their husbands?
I am a better person with my fiancee around.. I am more focused, she wants what I want for me just as much as I want it. She sees the "chinks" in my armor and does a good job of offsetting them. She holds me accountable when other people won't. She speaks her mind even when it's **** I don't want to hear. In the game of life, where me reaching my ulatimate goals in life, my adding my fiancee to the equation is like me using up down left right a b a b select start.
Friday night I got an onslought of potential proposals that had to be done. I have found that I like propoals sitting in clients email box first thing moday morning, it's how you start a business week.
By the time I got them friday I was too tipsy to do anything and saturday I had a headache. So I put them off until today. So I get up in the morning and I really.. just dont' wanna. point blank. I wanted to lay back and watch TV. it was my non workout day in the gym...
so my Fiancee looks at me point blank and says in her cute british accent "I guessyou were just bull****ting when you told me where you wanted to take your company, because today you are acting like you don't give a ****. Get your ass up and get to work." and kissed me on the cheek.
She knows my biggest flaw is probablty keeping to task with any one thing. I'm extremely scatterbrained and I get easily distracted (hence wy i'm writting a 2 page post in the middle of the super bowl).
Most girls I've dated in the past would have been happy I wanted to "cuddle" with them on a sunday.
No one else would have the balls to look at me and say something like that. she knew she was right, and I knew she was right, got my ass in the shower and did the proposals. Hell she's probably more of the reason I'm in the shape I'm in now than anything else lol, she wont' LET me miss a day in the gym.
I create a list of **** I need to do every week, and we usually actually go over it together now and she will help me add stuff and then she is on my ass like white on rice for the entire week.
Even with that said, she knows when I'm throwing myself in my work because I'm trying to avoid something (like her) and she's not so much where she doesn't want her personal time with me. WE have a very spcial reltionship.
The problem is, there are very little quality women out there. Actually there are very few quality men as well. by qualtiy I mean constantly working to achieve a greater good, not settling, having ambitions other than fvcking and drinking and enduring work.\
A good woman is worth her weight in gold and is more than worth locking up.