Well, it's me.

Must have taken the wrong door, for I was going to get to bed. But since I am right here right now anyways...

Some person asked me, how to get better with women. Yeah good question. The truth is, after having been here for two years, after two years of applying material, dating women, getting in touch with my inner Don Juan, I still can't answer this question. At least not in one sentence. Not in 10 sentences either. Not even in 100 sentences.

When I came here, I was in fantasy land. I only read the DJ bible back then. All those posts... THey really had a depth and a certain kind of inside in them. Because everyone started from scratch. Noone could just memorize the whole DJ bible and then go: Oh, I'm a super Don Juan, I sit at home all day and never dated a woman in my life, but in THEORY (were everything is right) I know everything about being a DJ!

There was noone who just postet tips because he wanted to get into the DJ bible. Look at me, I am the master, for I am in the bible!

Yeah, well... They say, don't complain, make things better. But I'm not here to try and change an internetsite. What do I care about sosuave? All it is is endless strings of zeros and ones after all.

I mean, that goes for every computer program. Still... Most people divide their life nowadays into two: Their virtual life and their real life (RL). How ridiculous is this? We only live in this real world, after all a computer is also real.

Of course, people aren't trapped in a computer or virtual world, they are trapped in their own mind. I used to daydream a lot and people told me to be more aware. Yet, when you daydream, your creativity is still involved. Watching TV or playing computer is daydreaming without using your imagination. You are trapped in your head while the TV/PC feeds you with thoughts and pictures and sounds, not your imagination.

So when you are trapped in your own head, in your own fantasy land, in a prison that you can not see or smell or touch, something happens. I still don't know what exactly, let's just say it's not very good for you. Hey, I'm not a psychologist!

Here is another one for you: Life is all about feelings right? So everyone wants to experience certain emotions, especially the good ones. So riddle me this: Couldn't you live in fantasyland all day and feel great? Just be that hero in your computer game all day long. Everyone wants to be a hero. You can actually change things. It's easy. Because after all you have heroic powers. I might be a badass rouge in world of warcraft with my super weapons. I might be a "master don juan" on an internet forum who is really "wise" (after all I can quote the whole DJ bible). Still, I have superpowers.

What a wonderful world! Everyone can become whatever he or she wants to be and with our computer, it's so easy! And now that we start to behave like heros all day long, we actually start to believe we are! And we feel good about it! That's all we ever wanted right? And then, feminism is right, isn't it? People can reprogram themselves. PLay a woman all day long in an internet game and you'll start to act like one. Gender is just a state of mind!



Well, of course it doesn't work that way. We don't live in that "paradise". There is something in the way. It's called "the body".

Yeah, imagine you would be some buddist monk who managed to cut his mind free from his body completely. You might then set of to be the world of warcraft hero you always wanted to be, and everything will be great and you will live happily ever after.

Those of us who aren't that fortunate to be awise buddist monk have to do something else.


So here are the basics: Mind and body work together. Emotions are the link between our mind and our body, after all they effect both in a radical way.

"I'm thinking about a girl. Still thinking about her. Yeah she's cute... (one hours later) I'm still thinking about her! I think she's not just cute but really attractive! (another hour later) I'm still thinking about her! She's the one for me, I finally came to that conclusion! Oh I'm so in love..."

You didn't get that one? Don't worry, if you continue down the path the DJism you'll eventually understand.

Oh right, I was going to talk about being a Don Juan. Right, so after we've established that our body and mind work together, and I actually think that's a good thing (sorry Platon...), here is the reason why we can't sit in front the computer all day and be happy: Because our body craves other things. Some kind of physical activity. Touch. Sex. Etc.

Big problem. Here comes the solution. Listen to it. Listen to your gut.

"But, but but... I did and I failed terribly, that's why I came here!"

No you didn't! You ignored your gut out of fear and tried to rationalize your way into the girls heart.

Most guys here have a problem. It's not that they don't know how to use neg-hits. It's no that they have a bad sense of humor, It's not that they aren't good looking. It's that they don't have faith. Not a bit!

"Bohooo, I'm a looser!"

Yeah right. No confidence. But I'm talking about other types of faith as well. Riddle me this: 99% of the people on this forum know, that one of their biggest problems in their AFC days was, that they thought to much, that they tried to rationalize their way into a girls pants. Then why the hell are 95% of this community spending most of their time on an internet board thinking about seduction??? All you did was changing your perspective a little and teaming up to think together and not alone anymore. But still, most are just THINKING.

I like examples. Let's take two guys who just suck with women. Alright, at some point both realize, that they are to problem. They decide to change.

Let's send one to sosuave. The other one will just try something.

Let's look at the first one. He starts reading articles. He reads on and on. After some time, he's now a i-DJ. Which is not a new apple product, but a person I call intellectual Don Juan. He just invents philosophies about women all day long.

Let's look at the second one. He still crashes and burns. Eventually he decides to lower his standarts, grabs a fat and ugly chick and they live happily ever af...

Okay, I'm just playing . Se the point is, there is still no faith. Faith in nature and sexuality! You don't need any philosophies! Trust nature. When you gut says kiss her, then kiss her. When it say compliment her, then compliment her. And if you screw up, then you'll learn somthing. That why m...

"Making mistakes is good!"

Oh yeah, you knew that one already...

I know, some people on this board aren't very religious, but I think it's very helpfull to be in touch with your spiritual side, as you can transform your faith in god in faith in yourself, other people and the world around you. Some "wise" queen in some science-fiction movie you might have heard about once said: "The day we loose faith in democracy, we will loose it." I say: The day you loose faith in the world and other people, you'll see ghosts everywhere and loose your ability to make close friends. And the day you loose faith in yourself, you loose yourself. Which is cool, because now your get to be the hero in WoW...


Anyways. Body and mind, mind and body, faith...

Let's have a little talk about sexuality. I think the odds are in my favor when I make a wild guess and say that you, the guy reading this incredibly long article, are probably male. If you are lucky, you are a man. I will not go into the detail of how a man should act, there is another guy with the letters k, o, p and again o in his name, who does a great job defining what a man is. But here is the great thing about acting like a man: Not just will you automatically like the things that are also good for your body (as your body and mind are now in tune), your gut will be much better in choosing the right actions to get ahead in life. That's a great deal I think.

We might measure sexuality in testosteron. I don't know if you've heard about sexual transmutation, if not, I suggest you take a look into it (for example, read Napoleon Hill and the k, o, p, o - guy). It's worth the effort, as it has given me the ability to use it on some any kind of action I'm performing (wheather it be writing, thinking, running, talking, whatever) and become much better at it instantly. And a general level of high testosteron will make you more manly, charismatic, and all those other cool things that get you ahead in life, not just with the ladies.

So now that you have faith in yourself and show your sexual side, you'll hopefully begin to realize, that it is NOT ABOUT LOOKS. Once and for all, discussing looks is useless. When you are a real man and act like a man you go to a clothing store and buy the clothes you like. No need to discuss that with Mr. i-DJ. And you will love to do some sports which will make you more groomed. Etc.


So now to the last but not least: Love and happiness. Okay, so you might not love your life. Because it sucks. And you don't love yourself. Because you look like *insert bad word here*. Yeah but now, that you have faith in yourself (I'm the great catch, I can do it!!!) and you are not afraid of your sexuality anymore (mack attackkk!!!! *insert "charge music" here*), you will feel the improvements in your life and that will make you happier. And you will start to love life.


"I can't I suck and I'll never love my li..."

Shut up! All this negativety! Everyone can do it. EVERYONE can change their life. EVERYNONE!!! I don't care who you are or what you look like or how many women have smashed your heart to the music "Everybody was kung fu fighting", I know you can do it, because you are human, and humans can, period. YOu just have to start to believe that it is possible. THrought away all excuses and just make it happen.


Allright then, instead of rambling on and on, we'll wrap this up. Balance body and mind, have faith, live your sexuality, have fun and love your life. And probably other people. Falling in love with one girl (at least before you are together) is bad. Falling on love with noone is good. Falling in love with just yourself is better. Falling in love with everyone is by far the best.


Make it happen. Everything is possible. OH and don't missunderstand me, I'm not saying everything on this board is bad. The bible is good. Some posts nowadays also are, but it's very difficult for a newby to know what is good and bad. So just stick to the bible until you've got some EXPERIENCE.

What? Oh yeah, I basically just told you not to take this post seriously, which takes us to a paradox: If you don't follow this advice, you have to take this seriously and if you do, you shouldn't... Whatever, I can only give you my word. After all it's your journey. I'm just kicking around stones. Maybe it'll cause a landslide in your brain. Maybe not.

I'll go to bed. So where is the ****ing door???

I love you. I shouldn't be here. I should've read the Book of Pook ad never visited the internet again. But here I am, some how addicted. It's exactly as you say. I'm a dreamer, I think the whole day long, my study is heavily emphasised on philosophy and the computer is feeding my thoughts too. Somehow, it would be great not to think about anything. Just live in the moment, like when you lift heavy weights. But the internet, computers, all this information is so addictive.

Solid. I've always been a relationship oriented guy up until recently. now i'm more of a "let's be a crazy college guy and get laid all the time" oriented guy.

but i've been waiting for opportunities. sitting on my ass till an invitation to a party, or a club, or whatever.

yea, all this knowledge brings me success at those venues.

but fvck it. im gonna go MAKE something happen. good post man. :rockon:

Obviously, there is nothing wrong with coming onto this site and read what other users have from their experiences. But of course, coming to this site to ask simple questions like what to do in a situation like that etc.. ain't gonna help you. You need to follow your instincts and try if you wanna really learn.