Hey guys, Long story short, basically I met this 16 year old mexican chick that I thought was really sexy, but I knew she was VERY shy and insecure, through my family. Her mom babysits my little bro so its my little sisters b day party and I meet her. I flirt with her a little bit during an intense game of hungry hungry hippos haha. I throw a marble down her shirt and she is really turned on by that. haha, anyway I get her number low key and I call her when I get home that night. We talk for a little bit then I cut it off. We hit it off really well and I can tell she is one those girls that if you can break her shyness she will trust you with everything. She has really High IL. I talk, to her again a few days later and tell her we are going out to the movies on friday. We meet up, have a great time, we go to the movies and walk around the mall, take pictures at those photo booths, I broke her out of her shell and we made out A LOT. It was one of those kisses where you really enjoy kissing her cuz you like this chick just cuz she has really high interest for me. That doesnt happen often with me. I usually end up meeting girls who are medium IL and it makes kissing her not that fun for me, more like a chore to get to sex. So it was a fresh breath of air to date a girl who likes me for me. Anyway, as I mentioned she is very insecure, she seems like she doesnt date much, but I know she gets attention from guys cuz she is very attractive and will only get hotter as she ages. My problem is, I got a new cell this past sunday, a few days after I went out with her, and I texted her hey baby its me Don Jaime, save my number so you know its me calling. I call her later that night cuz I was in the area visting my friend and I wanted to visit her at her house later on after I am done chillen with my buddy. She didnt answer. She still has not called me back and that is really wierd coming from a girl who's IL is thru the roof and all of a sudden she is not returning my phone calls. Is she expecting me to chase, should I call her from my house phone to which she knows the number. IDK, or should I just stick to no contact. I mean usually I have this thing where if a chick does not return my call, I dont return her next 2 calls, but seeing how this girl is insecure and young, should I call her again, so she feels validated that I do want to continue seeing her. What do you guys think.

Buyers remorse. Similar to when a chick makes out heavily with a guy at a club, then the guy calls thinking it's high IL, but she's no longer in the same frame of mind, so she avoids, and rather not see him anymore, one reason being that what they did, the makeout, is just a situational thing, but doesn't mean much.

Now, you start macking this insecure teenage girl, and off course she will feel weird and not know how you see her and what you think of her. More importantly she doesn't know what to make out of your time together. Given the dynamics of your relationship, it probably feels very weird to her. She might be thinking you are putting too much stock into all that making out combined with your "hey baby its me Don Jaime, save my number so you know its me calling" text, has her thinking you think both of you are together now. You might have been acting and carrying yourself too much like a "boyfriend" while you were together. She most likely felt you got too close, too soon. Inexperienced, shy girls will often feel their boundaries are being violated. Yes, even if she kissed back. What was she to do? She was somewhat obligated as she accepted you take her to the movies. You don't see yourself this way. I wasn't there to confirm this, but she will definitely be sensitive to that type of stuff, if it was happening. All perception.

The fact that you are posting about it and they way you are communicating, says you put too much into having kissed her that much. When you say stuff like how much you enjoyed it and how much you like it, etc. She could feel that neediness energy.

Either way, it really doesn't matter. High IL is situational, meaning, she had high interest in you at the time you were together, but it doesn't mean she has high interest in you, in general.

Stop texting and give her a call. If she doesn't return your call, just back off a little, and let it play out for a week or two.

Thanks gangster, maybe I did try to act too much like her boyfriend too soon. I thought our date was a great date and everything was great, but maybe it could have been buyers remorse, IDK. Yous suggested I call her again, now I called her on sunday a few hours after I left the text and she didnt answer. I didnt leave a VM or anything. When is the right time to call her. Would it appear too needy to call her tonight or tomorrow?

Anytime you call a broad, LEAVE a message. Why call and not leave a message? She knows you called, and by not leaving a message you communicate that you realize you shouldn't have called, and you regret it, and she'll know you chickened out. Makes you look like you are keeping a close eye and checking up on her. Very creepy, actually. Early, with a new girl, never call without leaving a message, it comes across as needy and sneaky.

Call her tonight, that's fine. Tomorrow is good too. When you do, DO NOT call her out on her not answering or not calling back. You will only come across as needy and demanding, the very thing that probably made her feel pressured. You don't have the experience yet to pull that whole "I'm gonna call her on her bs" card at this stage, specially with a girl who's looking for more evidence as to why she feels slightly unconfortable. Wait until you're further along to keep them on check.

Just go along, as if this didn't happen, and proceed to invite her to get together again. Keep it positive and keep it moving along. Now, her response should tell you how to proceed.

If she doesn't answer nor return your phone call, then you need to leave her alone until she does, but don't count on hearing from her. You move on.

Ok. so I called her and she didnt answer again, so I am assuming she doesnt want to talk. **** it. Move on. I start college in next month, so there will be plenty of women to choose from. Maybe she got her phone taken away by her parents, IDK, but anyway I am over it.