One of my biggest challenges is getting in state when I'm out. Last night I went out with a couple of my friends and the whole time I was in my head and couldn't get out of it. Usually, I'm either in a great state when going out or in my head...one or the other and I don't know how to get in state once I'm out. I need some advice here.

For example, I was talking to some cute girl last night and was in my head the whole time, so I was trying to think of something to say to her and went into chode mode: asked her where she's from. If I was in state, I would've been playful and made the conversation more unique and enjoyable.

So gimme some tips on how you guys get yourselves into state.

This is a challenge for me also, so I'd like to hear some tips. Usually the answer I've seen here is play some loud music that gets you going. I'm not sure I find that helpful actually.

They say "be yourself" and I know that if I be my BEST self I can do well. But sometimes I am just not in a chatty mood, and these are often the times when opportunites arise. Sometimes I feel kind of tired and irritatable, or just not in the mood to talk, and it's hard to break out of that. Most people say you just have to push through it, and I suppose that's all you can do - hope to gain some energy and enthusiasm from the interaction. Sometimes that works. The alternative is to wait until you're in a better mood, but that seems like a form of quitting.

Okay again, if anyone is reading my journal you know I'm not Don Juan himself yet, but I do know about how to just feel confident/good walking into a place.

I read a book preview of the game by Strauss, and at one point Mystery says that as soon as you walk into a bar/club to put on a big smile, because the game has begun. I DISAGREE ENTIRELY.

The game starts way before you get into that bar. To be honest the game starts for me when I'm in my car. When I'm in my car, what I do is I pop in a CD full of songs that make me feel like I'm in the zone. And then if I'm going to a place where I know there will be tons of chicks I imagine myself being the F-ING MAN around them and everybody in general. I imagine all the dudes think I'm cool, and all the chicks just want to be around me, and just visualize this in my head.

That's what I do anyways. Yesterday before I went out I was thinking about a girl I have oneitis for, and it was hurting my mood. So I just followed those instructions and by the time I got to the place, BOOM I was feeling in the zone.

You're in the wrong place asking that question. Go to RSD and ask there, or better yet, do a search.

I energize myself by eliminating all negative thoughts from my head. Just think positive thoughts about you and about whats ahead, and be thankfull for how much you've progressed in your game. You will feel a positive energy putting you in a great social mood and giving you confidence. This works as a self fullfilling prophecy too because it creates a positive aura and this will make people react postive to you.

To be in state, you must get out of your head. You can stop by dropping all thoughts of the past and future results and outcomes of what's going to happen. Focus on your breathing, do this long enough and you should be relaxed. It's kinda of a premeditation thing but the point is yo get ou of your mind and be in the body and grounded. Once you feel energize, lifted or solid you won't need to worry about what to say cuz you will feel good about yourself random crap will come out of your mouth, which should work. If it fails it's doesn't matter you feel good and your mind is not there to make u feel like a chump cuz u weren't attached to the outcome.