8. Never go direct, especially not in bar or club game
This is a STUPID myth that all the crazy MM followers propagate. They argue that if you give a direct compliment at ANY TIME, you become an "AFC" and the girl loses interest. NOT TRUE, if you approach with REAL confidence. They don't get that all these cheesy and unnecessarily long Mystery opinion openers or indirect openers are NOTHING MORE THAN A COVER for guys that don't have real confidence (yet.....)
Does Mystery use the jealous girlfriend opener in field on his own time? NOT AT ALL. He just wings it like a natural, because he's already got the confidence. He acts like Zan Parrion's students even though he teaches a totally different method! Do you need Mystery's scripted routines to generate interest in women? NO, you just need to know how to trigger and hold a DAMN CONVERSATION and make it FUN! For that you need DIRECT experience and rejections, not a bunch of armchair theory and routines.
Will you get shot down? YES. But direct game will IMMEDIATELY weed out the flakes, gold-diggers, and hood-rats from the quality women - which is more than I can say for all the confusion and nervous anticipation that arises from using those gay indirect "girly talk" openers.
9. Always answer their calls to show you're interested/always promise to call them and call them on time
This BS is so dumb, it's not even really part of the community! Yet I ALWAYS see guys doing this sh!t! Don't do it! So WHAT if you miss a call. You can always call her back a few minutes, and you actually look less needy because YOU WERE BUSY WITH SOMETHING.
Chicks do this to guys all the time, you look TOO available if you don't do it to them at least once. Of course, if you really DO have a lot of chicks you won't be able to return the call until the next day! Phone game is NOT meant to be desperate. Phone game by itself does not lead to a lay, all it does it prime the stage for your "date" which hopefully leads to the end-game.
And NEVER promise when to call them. Just say TTYL and then bye, and then hang UP! Guys get all nervous when the call's about to end and TRY to get the chick all "guaranteed" for next time they CALL. Not kiss, not date, but just CALL! Talk about desperate, I'm ashamed these guys even
call themselves macks and players. Keep the chick in suspense, never be predictable. That's the MINIMUM requirement of being a real man who's got his life together.
10. ALWAYS make your phone calls super short, even if the vibe is good.
A LOT of "pickup artists" assume that since you don't want to make your phone game too long and dragged out for fear of becoming her "nice guy friend", it follows that you should keep all your calls under 5 minutes, always ask the chick if she's "busy", etc.
This nervous mindset is largely thanks to Mehow and followers of his "get the girl" school which should really be called "lose the girl".
Sure Mehow has some good tips, but he still operates from the Mystery Method framework - which assumes there is a universal formula for every problem that works the same in EVERY situation. This simply goes against everything that experience teaches us about women and seduction. There IS NO 100% PERFECT FORMULA!
*Mehow's formula for phone game involves asking the chick if she's busy before you actually start the conversation (he CLAIMS to do this because high-value guys don't waste time on busy girls - ACTUALLY, high-value guys don't waste time ASKING PERMISSION to talk to a chick who's so far given no hint of being busy - and this is precisely Mehow's mistake).
*Next he loads up the convo with false time constraints. This is great if you ACTUALLY are so busy 24/7 that you can't find a less hectic minute to call her, but it also makes you look nervous and shy if you are faking it. Plus, for the first call you DO want to keep it short, but don't act like "I've got almost no time for you, why the heck am I calling you anyway, my life is OH so busy...." You will come across as bragging and unsure about how interest you even ARE in this girl - which is a sign of SUPPLICATION AND WUSSINESS!!!
Usually I find that using false time constraints actually makes you MORE nervous about what to say during the call (because now you're on a DEADLINE!), and it makes the LESS interested in you, because you called her at a "busy" time in your day, you can only call for five minutes and THAT already makes you look desperate to get through to her - through all the mucky business of your day, which doesn't even exist! Will a chick call YOU when she's busy? HELL NO. Don't act more desperate than the chick. Don't act super busy if you're not. Otherwise she'll only be ALL TOO HAPPY to get rid of this nervous, uber-busy dork! She may even ask you "didn't you have to go somewhere..."
Call her between 8 and 10 pm on a weekday and your only universal false time constraint should be HUNGER and eating dinner. Don't say "I gotta go to a business meeting" if there's no such meeting. She'll see right through it most of the time. If you were so busy, you would have called her earlier or the next day (which reminds me... NEVER believe those idiots who tell you "wait a week before you call"... don't let too much time pass... she's not yours yet!)
Sometimes you have to see the logical FINAL conclusion of so-called "high value" pickup artist behavior, a LOT of it is phoney and try-hard and the exact OPPOSITE of Alpha.
*Finally Mehow method says to cut the convo short after 5 minutes or so.
Well that's FINE if you're low on confidence or material, but if you're really serious about stepping up your game, you can simply continue talking and spontaneously bring up any new convo topic you want WITHOUT awkward transitions. And women LOVE it when you're spontaneous and don't NEED an excuse to talk about whatever you feel like. More rapport on the phone is a GOOD thing, especially if you can work some innuendo into it. The trick is NOT to exhaust all of it in one night!
When I'm feeling a good vibe from a chick I can talk to her for half an hour before hanging up, and I never end up "beta-ing" myself because usually SHE is the one doing most of the talking! Let the girl talk about herself. Let her be a woman for goodness sake! Only change the subject if she's getting into negative territory or "nice guy friend" subjects. Don't go above 30 mins, but also don't cut it off at 5 mins is the vibe is good. Lead the convo, but don't micromanage it. Be a cool fun guy with power. A powerful guy doesn't interrupt or try to steal the convo but he DOES know when to put his foot down and steer it away from boring subjects.
Verdict: call 'em like you see 'em. Treat phone game on a case-by-case basis. Don't get EITHER desperate OR shy. Talk slow and smooth... and you don't ALWAYS have to cut it super short. Cut it when YOU feel like it. Be smart. Don't talk for hours with one chick, but don't give her a nervous, false-time-constraint-filled 5 minutes either!