MikeYikes122 said:

I come back to SoSuave about once a month, take a look around, see a post like this, then remember why I don't post here anymore and why it is I don't have much to do with "the community" anymore. Simply put, "the community" is a euphemism for a group of nerds who sit on the Internet and theorize about women they have no chance of having sex with. I quit posting here when I realized that there was no discussion about women or getting laid, only arguments with nerds.

When I was active on these forums, I always maintained that I could tell the guys who get laid and the guys who don't. It's simple, the ones who are getting ass don't ***** about this kind sh!t because they are too busy getting laid and living normal, healthy lifestyles. Every natural I've ever known does not think about any of this crap, not even for a second.

I guarantee you, if you log off YouPorn for a few days and leave your house to meet some women, you won't think about this sh!t for even two seconds. You'll see that there are way too many options out there; your scarcity mentality will be gone in no time.

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Guy 1--Is gung ho about stuff community stuff, then later on realizes there is more to life then women, and lives his life to the fullest. Typically he becomes successful and leaves ASAP before he becomes nuts I.E. Pook/Sheez/Master of the Universe/SexPdx

Guy 2-- Is also gung ho about this stuff but doesn't leave and becomes enthralled in this, he is in it for the ego, and loves to theorize all the time, the funny part is no one ever sees proof of this guy's success and he always brags about the chicks he bangs or could have banged I.E. 1 out 3 Community guy's maybe more, typically becomes a bootleg Guru who cries like a ***** when someone doesn't agree with his "method"

Guy 3--Is gung ho about this Community stuff, but he learns there is more to life then this, he might do stuff here and there but once he drops off he realizes It's not that serious enjoys life etc I.E. Mikeyyikes/DonS/TheBatman
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Need=Needs=Needy=AFCish I.E. I need her in my life or I can't live

Solomon said:

Intro:

Not to long ago, I remember I could flip up my phone and decide "mmmh, which breezy will I text today?" I had women coming in left and right and I could decide which one I wanted to kick it with or not, I had so many options that women got mad at me for not having enough time to hang out with them. Fast Forward now, I'm in a slump can't get no one to pick up, so what happened? This posts explains perfectly

Community Guys​

I was reading this post, and I thought about what the author said. There is lot of negativity about women in the community, and guys don't realize how it can affect your inner game,next thing you know you in a dry streak and you keep reading posts on theories/KBJ stuff/ and how negative women are mix it in with you being in your head in the field and your swagger is of kilter
The community strives to be Natural, not just with women but in life. I have noticed that there three types of community guys (I'm generalizing)

Guy 1--Is gung ho about stuff community stuff, then later on realizes there is more to life then women, and lives his life to the fullest. Typically he becomes successful and leaves ASAP before he becomes nuts I.E. Pook/Sheez/Master of the Universe/SexPdx

Guy 2-- Is also gung ho about this stuff but doesn't leave and becomes enthralled in this, he is in it for the ego, and loves to theorize all the time, the funny part is no one ever sees proof of this guy's success and he always brags about the chicks he bangs or could have banged I.E. 1 out 3 Community guy's maybe more, typically becomes a bootleg Guru who cries like a ***** when someone doesn't agree with his "method"

Guy 3--Is gung ho about this Community stuff, but he learns there is more to life then this, he might do stuff here and there but once he drops off he realizes It's not that serious enjoys life etc I.E. Mikeyyikes/DonS/TheBatman
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The reason why I post this is cause most of the guy's I've met are in the Guy 1 and 3 category. I met one Guy, in the Guy 2, and I'm not trying to bad mouth him but this guy has been in the community for over 2 years. Has paid $1,500 for Guru "consultation" has done various methods. The sad part is all of that didn't help his game, because he truly didn't believe in himself.

Long story short I had to cut the guy of once I found out he was doing crap like this

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=162367

and also running around to married womens houses trying to get their phone number and giving girls invitation cards and a bunch of other crap. I saw him literally revered from Abundance to Scarcity!

Kill Scarcity and Live in abundance
I love what the OP said because he used the word "scarcity" what's the opposite of scarcity? Abundance, if you have Abundance you won't worry about

• If she will call you back
• If she flaked on you
• If she likes you

One of my buddies is what I call going thorough the "Midas Streak" right now. His game is fire, he is a natural. I've been going through a slump and I can't figure out why, and then I see him and all these girls and I'm thinking what the **** am i doing wrong? Then I realize he has three key components going for him which I have forgotten about. Sky high Confidence which is fueled by his Positive mindset and now because of this he has infinite amount of Abundance

Positive mindset+Confidence=Kills Outcome dependency= Abundance!

When you have abundance you realize you have everything you need, and that women are just there to enhance your life. You can live your life the way you want it. Abundance is when you can scroll through your phone and decide which girl you wanna hang out with or more. Abundance is when you wake up and you can do whatever you wanna do with your day and still be productive, Abundance is simple having options(that you want). So how does one gain abundance?

You already have it!

You don't need women, you want them. Anytime you "need" women that's a scarcity mentality, for my "geeks" let me break it down mathematicaly

Need=Needs=Needy=AFCish I.E. I need her in my life or I can't live
I want a girl but if I don't get her it's ok cause I'm living my life=DJ!

How to get women or Abundance
So you want them, tons of them, then like the OP said log off and go out there and get them. A couple nights ago I was going to the grocery store shopping late at night(around midnight). I was looking raggedy because I just got of work(Du rag on, tummy puffin out after a nice meal). I had some stuff in my hands. I walk down an aisle and notice this fine ass light skinned sister. I smiled at her and said "hey how's it going?" she looked surprised and said "hi back" now I could have escalated and such but I felt so self-conscious about my appearance I kept walking. Now I learned two things from this

Number one, always be prepared cause women are everywhere, and number two My limited beliefs about my appearance held me back.

Limited beliefs=Scarcity mindset​

I had reverted to my old beliefs that my appearance mattered, when that's bull! (to the hataz please read my old field reports Abundance kills limited beliefs!)
Look I'm not trying to mental masturbate with this thread but I think it's time that guys evolve, don't become that lame guy online always talking about. How women suck or how wack women are. Instead become that guy you see that has so many options with women(and life) that even if encounters a negative one, it doesn't phase him because he has abundance.

The game isn't for the fainthearted but to become good with women you have to actually go meet them and talk to them.

And with that said I'll leave you with this quote

"You can learn more just meeting and talking to woman than you can talking to men about women"--Luke Dlow

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cola said:

To
Solomon:
I don't think I have ever seen you make a bad thread or reply. Your one of the biggest assets to this forum. Hopefully this isn't the prelude to you leaving this forum, we need more guys like you here.

Furthermore:

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Indeed, this forum can be very negative to your life with females.
I do truly believe that there are guys that are so wrapped up in this seduction community that they lose touch of themselves, and instead of individuals we're left with little Mystery's and little Tyler Durden's.

It's like the ultimate oxymoron. We all came to this community because in some way or another, the advice
"Just be yourself" wasn't working.

But ultimately, as we dwelve into this community at a certain level of realization we start to see that it was the best most simplistic advice we could have possibly received. The key was being the BEST you, you could be.

I came to this forum a few months ago, trying to preach a similar mentality, and my reception wasn't really all that pleasant. What I was trying to say, but wasn't literate enough to illustrate was basically what you said in this post.

Naturals don't need this forum. And some of you are already naturals, just need a self esteem boost to push out your potential.

However, everyone can't be naturals or the word naturals wouldn't exist.
Which is why I stick around.. To help bring the naturals out of people..

I consider myself a jeet kune doe practitioner in the community. Realizing that no all women are NOT the same and what worked on Sally won't work on Mary. Adaptation is key, or better yet, finding women that don't require you to adapt.
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Oh yeah, I want to touch on something here. Looks mean crap. You hear me? All these dudes on here saying looks are important, this is FALSE. Another persons trash is another persons treasure. The only way they matter is if your noticeably obese or have an EXTREMELY non symmetrical face. I know plenty of dudes who are unattractive and get layed. Its all swagger. This isn't speculation this is stuff i've seen. I've SEEN with my eyes a friend whos 5'2 get out there and pull/lay. I've SEEN a guy with sweaty construction clothes on pull a girl with her best nightlife outfit on, I've SEEN a 270 lb guy with 10-15 girls on his roster to bone ANYTIME, I've SEEN a chick who makes six figures dating a guy who is lucky to make 15,000.. OFCOURSE there are going to be girls who will find you unattractive, even if you look like Jude Law, but thats there DIVINE right, and no matter how chizzled your abs are, or how attractive your face is, there WILL be girls who's type your a NOT. <-- Hopefully this ends that argument for good, but I doubt it.

Goodluck Solo,
Great post.

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kingy said:

dont post too much because in your mind it will make u think picking up women is a big deal and make u more nervous.

bad things in this world seem to only happen when there isn't abundance

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