So there you are you, at the pub with your mates. You notice the pub is full of hot girls and you think to yourself that today is the day that i will score with one of these girls.
But of course, you think this everyday and you always end up leaving alone, disappointed and angry.
You sit at home every night, planning what you will do different tomorrow.
You discuss with your friends (who happen to be just like you) about why you can't score with any girls and yet, that fatter, uglier looking guy can!
You ask each othere,
What could his secret be?
What do those girls see in him?
What is that not me with those girl instead of him?
You discuss this all day and think about it all night.
This cycle repeats over and over again.
UNTIL...one fateful day when you decide enough is enough.
You notices that you have placed all your attention on impressing these girls. You have been sacrificing your life, your hobbies and your interests for these girls.
You comment to your friends that they should just relax and enjoy approaching girls, make it a laugh whether you succeed or fail.
They all agree with you but they don't change their ways. Instead they continue to hundle in the corner of the pub away from human contact and stare intensely at every pretty girl that walks by.
You however weren't gonna let today be like every other day. Today was gonna be the day you asked that girl for her number. You keep reminding yourself on the approach that the outcome didn't matter and it was all just a laugh. But as this was your first approach, you couldn't help but be nervous and when you did ask her, you were rejected.
But as you walked back to your friends, you smiled. You are happy that you have finally approached that girl.
Within a week, you have approached another 11 girls and 6 of them have given you their numbers.
Your friends are shocked, they ask you how did you do it?
You tell them
"Everytime i approach a girl, i never worry about whether i'll succeed or fail. I just want to enjoy the approach. I want to have stories about my successes and laugh with you guys about my failures."
So if you place the success of the approach on the approach itself and not on the outcome, then you will NEVER fail. So enjoy the approach, it shouldn't feel like a job that you are dreading to do and NEVER worry about the outcome.
But of course, you think this everyday and you always end up leaving alone, disappointed and angry.
You sit at home every night, planning what you will do different tomorrow.
You discuss with your friends (who happen to be just like you) about why you can't score with any girls and yet, that fatter, uglier looking guy can!
You ask each othere,
What could his secret be?
What do those girls see in him?
What is that not me with those girl instead of him?
You discuss this all day and think about it all night.
This cycle repeats over and over again.
UNTIL...one fateful day when you decide enough is enough.
You notices that you have placed all your attention on impressing these girls. You have been sacrificing your life, your hobbies and your interests for these girls.
You comment to your friends that they should just relax and enjoy approaching girls, make it a laugh whether you succeed or fail.
They all agree with you but they don't change their ways. Instead they continue to hundle in the corner of the pub away from human contact and stare intensely at every pretty girl that walks by.
You however weren't gonna let today be like every other day. Today was gonna be the day you asked that girl for her number. You keep reminding yourself on the approach that the outcome didn't matter and it was all just a laugh. But as this was your first approach, you couldn't help but be nervous and when you did ask her, you were rejected.
But as you walked back to your friends, you smiled. You are happy that you have finally approached that girl.
Within a week, you have approached another 11 girls and 6 of them have given you their numbers.
Your friends are shocked, they ask you how did you do it?
You tell them
"Everytime i approach a girl, i never worry about whether i'll succeed or fail. I just want to enjoy the approach. I want to have stories about my successes and laugh with you guys about my failures."
So if you place the success of the approach on the approach itself and not on the outcome, then you will NEVER fail. So enjoy the approach, it shouldn't feel like a job that you are dreading to do and NEVER worry about the outcome.