Hey all. Well I've been with my girl for about 2 years. Just recently her exhusband has been startin crapola with her about takin care of their child. Yeah I know single mother crap but she was married for 7 years and it just didnt work out. She called me complaining about it. The whole situation is between them and I by no means want to get involved with the problem but it's urking me now. I mean she's my girl and all and I hate ta see this crapola happening to her. Should I just let them deal with their problem or step in and have a say? The guy is such an ******* pos. I just wanna beat his ass over this crapola but that is just crossing the line isn't it?

stay away from it,

be there for your gf with assurance but dont give advice unless she asks for it.

My first thoughts would be to not get involved, but you haven't really explained what their problem is. What's the ex's beef with her?

From what Ive heard he just gives her a hard time cuz she left after getting sick of his mentally abusive attitude. So he feels abliged to run her through hell for some reason. I've talked to him and he is a grade a *******. Ya know the type ya just wanna knock out because of their king nothing attitude.

Dummy said:

Yeah I know single mother crap

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Obviously you DON'T know, despite giving it lip-service. But as for how to salvage this disaster, since you don't seem intent on making what *I* would call the right decision...

What kind of crap? Does she have custody and he wants it, or does he have custody and he wants her to "do her part"? Or does he just object to the way she behaves?

Unless you feel like the kid will be somehow harmed by his actions, it's really none of your business.

A little advice from my own hard and painful experience. Never become drawn into a woman's problems which had their origins BEFORE you and she met, or which you did not directly create.

She chose that azzhole, and she chose to become a mother by him. He did not turn ugly after they became parents. His attitude is NOT your business and her reaction to him is not your problem.

Stay out and stay away from him. It may be hard to do so but at least ONE of you need to remain unaffected by his treatment of her.

Never try to handle a woman's problems for her because they start looking at you like you're putting pressure on them or treating them like children. If she wants to be out of the situation, she will do it. Just listen to her from time to time, tell her you have her back, and let her sort it out unless he gets violent.

My .02cents, be there, listen to her problems etc, but she does not want you to fix things or solve things. Women are strange, like if I told you my truck is making a weird noise, you would say its blah blah blah I will come over and help you. Women just want you to listen and say oh that sucks dear etc..

Vitor nails it. Me ex was exactly the same-she just wants to ***** and let off steam,she doesn't want you to actually DO anything. Besides, how do you KNOW he's an azz? Her word means squat-she may be saying the same about you in a year.