PIPE-DJ2002
Don Juan
A NEW WAY TO LOOK AT REJECTIONS!
hello djs, we cant deny it, rejection hurts sometimes, no matter how much confidence we have, it will touch our insecurities inside.
I read a quote that says:
ONLY THOSE WHO DARE TO FAIL WILL ACHIEVE GREATLY"
this made me think, that in order to become a master dj, i had to learn how to get rejections handled.
so after a whole day of critical thinking with a friend of mine, we came up with an awesome game. wich makes me look at rejections as a funny game, in which i always get to win.
if u do nothing else, u need to learn how to handle every possible way in which u have been rejected!
if u are an intermediate dj, i hope that u like me have been rejected a lot.
if u havent... horrors!, go out now! u need to get rejected at least 10 times in a row in order to fill ur score card!
RULES FOR THE GAME!
RULE #1
1) take out a nice sheet of paper (score
card) and be 100% honest with yourself
be very realistic, write down all the
possible ways that u have been rejected
be specific on each different situation.
for instance:
here is my list from experience:
i say hi and she:
- pretends she isnt looking at me
- says " i dont know u"
- says " i have a boyfriend"
- walks away
- says "u are ugly" ..lol
- puts a discusting face and turns around
- says " stop ****ing looking at me"
- says " what do u want"
AMEN!....lol
ok we have the first step, my score card, u guys have to create ur own rejection list. it has a set of different ways i have been rejected, its purpose:
ADD POINTS WHENEVER U GET REJECTED!
everytime u get rejected u have u add a point in ur score depending in the situation that it belongs...
familiarize urself with each situation, remember ur own failures. i bet u handled them all, and i hope u didnt take them personally. and if u did u need to learn how to handle each of these situations.
RULE # 2
LEARNING HOW TO HANDLE EACH SITUATION IN UR LIST.
ask yourself:
if one of these situations ever happens to me:
am i going to let it hurt me?
how would i feel?
how can i react in each case?
NOW CREATE UR OWN WAY TO HANDLE EACH SITUATIONS.
u can use ****y/funny lines or whatever. U LL FIND ITS NOT BIG DEAL.
u can even laugh whenever you are in such situations.
why?
because now u are aware of it, u no longer have to worry about possible outcomes, because u know how to handle them all.
so to begin!
- i suggest you read each of the ones in ur list and repeat to yourself the following affirmation.
" if that ever happens, it will be for my highest good, and know i know how to handle it.: ....... ILL HANDLE IT!
YES!... YOU WILL HANDLE IT"
for the next month keep saying it to yourself
when u are ready to take action, and u want to create a no-lose decision. say to yourself
" i cant lose now, i've studied every possible way of getting rejected, so whatever happens, i know ill handle it"
say it to yourself before the approach.
but how do u know u will handle it?
1) well... Duh!, if u keep repeating it to
yourself enough times, your subconscious
mind will start to believe it... remember
"as u think u shall become."
2) you made a list, if one of them ever
happens, ull feel happy and relieved, cuz
now u are aware of the situation, u are
prepared to handle it, and u wont take it
personally.
3) what would u possible have to fear if
u knew u could handle whatever came ur
way?
YES... the answer is NOTHING!
so meditate on each of the rejections u made in ur list, and make ur own ways to handle them.
for instance:
if now i go and say "hi", and she pretends she isnt looking at me, now am ready to say.
" u cant hide ur impulses, so stop acting as if u are not interested"
RULE # 3
if u get rejected, go back to ur list as fast as u can and add a point in the one it belongs.. that should give the rejection a funny meaning.
and if sometime u get rejected in a new uneccpected way, tell her "have a nice day"
and start jumping up with joy to know you discovered a new way of being rejected and add it to your list... and oh yes!
YOU WILL HANDLE IT
so whats my point here?.. who knows!
but now you know that
- if she rejects u" u get to use ur new skill in handling situations and laugh about it and adding points to ur list
- if she doesnt reject u" ... well u know what to do...lol but im sure by now ull prefer to get rejected.
- if u dont do ur homework... ull get a free date with rose palm and her 5 sisters..
there u have it, if u did the steps correctly, ull be exited to know how she is going to react, and how u are going to handle the situation..
have fun!
hello djs, we cant deny it, rejection hurts sometimes, no matter how much confidence we have, it will touch our insecurities inside.
I read a quote that says:
ONLY THOSE WHO DARE TO FAIL WILL ACHIEVE GREATLY"
this made me think, that in order to become a master dj, i had to learn how to get rejections handled.
so after a whole day of critical thinking with a friend of mine, we came up with an awesome game. wich makes me look at rejections as a funny game, in which i always get to win.
if u do nothing else, u need to learn how to handle every possible way in which u have been rejected!
if u are an intermediate dj, i hope that u like me have been rejected a lot.
if u havent... horrors!, go out now! u need to get rejected at least 10 times in a row in order to fill ur score card!
RULES FOR THE GAME!
RULE #1
1) take out a nice sheet of paper (score
card) and be 100% honest with yourself
be very realistic, write down all the
possible ways that u have been rejected
be specific on each different situation.
for instance:
here is my list from experience:
i say hi and she:
- pretends she isnt looking at me
- says " i dont know u"
- says " i have a boyfriend"
- walks away
- says "u are ugly" ..lol
- puts a discusting face and turns around
- says " stop ****ing looking at me"
- says " what do u want"
AMEN!....lol
ok we have the first step, my score card, u guys have to create ur own rejection list. it has a set of different ways i have been rejected, its purpose:
ADD POINTS WHENEVER U GET REJECTED!
everytime u get rejected u have u add a point in ur score depending in the situation that it belongs...
familiarize urself with each situation, remember ur own failures. i bet u handled them all, and i hope u didnt take them personally. and if u did u need to learn how to handle each of these situations.
RULE # 2
LEARNING HOW TO HANDLE EACH SITUATION IN UR LIST.
ask yourself:
if one of these situations ever happens to me:
am i going to let it hurt me?
how would i feel?
how can i react in each case?
NOW CREATE UR OWN WAY TO HANDLE EACH SITUATIONS.
u can use ****y/funny lines or whatever. U LL FIND ITS NOT BIG DEAL.
u can even laugh whenever you are in such situations.
why?
because now u are aware of it, u no longer have to worry about possible outcomes, because u know how to handle them all.
so to begin!
- i suggest you read each of the ones in ur list and repeat to yourself the following affirmation.
" if that ever happens, it will be for my highest good, and know i know how to handle it.: ....... ILL HANDLE IT!
YES!... YOU WILL HANDLE IT"
for the next month keep saying it to yourself
when u are ready to take action, and u want to create a no-lose decision. say to yourself
" i cant lose now, i've studied every possible way of getting rejected, so whatever happens, i know ill handle it"
say it to yourself before the approach.
but how do u know u will handle it?
1) well... Duh!, if u keep repeating it to
yourself enough times, your subconscious
mind will start to believe it... remember
"as u think u shall become."
2) you made a list, if one of them ever
happens, ull feel happy and relieved, cuz
now u are aware of the situation, u are
prepared to handle it, and u wont take it
personally.
3) what would u possible have to fear if
u knew u could handle whatever came ur
way?
YES... the answer is NOTHING!
so meditate on each of the rejections u made in ur list, and make ur own ways to handle them.
for instance:
if now i go and say "hi", and she pretends she isnt looking at me, now am ready to say.
" u cant hide ur impulses, so stop acting as if u are not interested"
RULE # 3
if u get rejected, go back to ur list as fast as u can and add a point in the one it belongs.. that should give the rejection a funny meaning.
and if sometime u get rejected in a new uneccpected way, tell her "have a nice day"
and start jumping up with joy to know you discovered a new way of being rejected and add it to your list... and oh yes!
YOU WILL HANDLE IT
so whats my point here?.. who knows!
but now you know that
- if she rejects u" u get to use ur new skill in handling situations and laugh about it and adding points to ur list
- if she doesnt reject u" ... well u know what to do...lol but im sure by now ull prefer to get rejected.
- if u dont do ur homework... ull get a free date with rose palm and her 5 sisters..
there u have it, if u did the steps correctly, ull be exited to know how she is going to react, and how u are going to handle the situation..
have fun!
