Eye contact is way underrated. It's more important than kino. Why? Because you can go without kino and still attract the chick if you still give great eye contact. Kino a girl without eye contact and it's just fkin creepy.

The eyes communicate so many things. They can say anything from "get away from me" to "I'm interested in you" to "fvck me right now". Most girls know how to talk with their eyes, most guys don't. Learning how to communicate with your eyes is extremely important for a DJ.

First of all, NEVER be afraid of eye contact! Guys that are awkward with eye contact have a belief that their eye contact is going to offend the girl or make them feel uncomfortable. Girls will only feel uncomfortable with eye contact if you are. So chill out, relax and smile because girls are mirrors and they will do the same thing. If you ever start to feel awkward and feel the need to look down, DON'T, instead look anywhere but down. Best would be to look above her or somewhere beyond her. This shows indifference and is gonna make her want you. This or give her a quick check out and look her in her eyes again.

Use eye contact as a reward. If she says something inciteful or does something you like give her a smile and strong eye contact. Show your approval through your eyes. If she does something you don't like switch your eye contact to somewhere else. This is very powerful. The more she does things you like the stronger your eye contact gets and it soon changes to "I like you" to "I want you".

Use sticky eyes. Sticky eyes are awesome. I owe this to a book I read by Gillian Butler. When she is saying something always look straight into her eyes. When she is done saying what she has to say keep that eye contact on her for about 3 extra seconds without saying anything and soak her in. If you like what she said give her a hint of a smile and start on your response after those 3 seconds. This is such a small thing but it is SO powerful. You will literally see girls melt.

Great post.

Girls are pretty skilled at eye contact, well flirting in general. Better than guys I think. They can literally stare at you inflinchlingy for a long time. You have to be able to do the same.

Its about the "eye of the tiger". Its unabashadly saying mentally to her "Yeah, what's up, I like you (too)". Thats the mental state to have, and it helps in not looking away so much.

If you look away and look back quickly or your eyes are darting around, it indicates your unconfident and it will be difficult to re-establish eye contact. Because in that little time youv'e revealed something unattractive about yourself.

I like the fact you mentioned you must look away look up or around her her. It does indicate indifference I think.

This is wrong on so many levels.

Nothing is more important than kino!

If you don't touch her, how do you expect to work your way to having sex with her?!

Eye contact is easy. Doing kino properly isn't. Until you are very comfortable doing kino, good luck on getting any action.

Actually, EYE contact and KINO should both be executed.

It's all about the context of usage. Obviously, you wouldn't EYE contact when you're enraged at a woman.

EYE contact translates as giving the attention and respect.

KINO elevates the sexual tension when executed at right moments during rapport-building.

BOTH are equally as important.

this is BS, although eye contact is somewhat important, KINO is way more important. I got a girl who was NEVER interested in me in bed because of KINO!

and to make sure you don't land in the LJBF zone, the minute you see here showing some IOIs, start KINOing immediately!

Something's wrong with my eye contact, I think I just look kind of wierd when I make eye contact with a girl, because my usual insinct is to not make it, but I make it anyways, so it looks wierd. It's like it's not natural, and I get the feeling that the other person is like "Wow he's playing a game with me, he must want me to look away first, I'm not going to do that". Does anyone understand? Because I want to look away I don't think it looks very confident, I end up either looking away first or it seems sort of wierd. Some tips? I think if I do it more often I'll get the hang of it, I suspect that if I have a bolder look or try to look more relaxed it would work better. But anyways kino and eye contact make unbelievable results, most guys don't know that hehe.

Allurre said:

Actually, EYE contact and KINO should both be executed.

It's all about the context of usage. Obviously, you wouldn't EYE contact when you're enraged at a woman.

EYE contact translates as giving the attention and respect.

KINO elevates the sexual tension when executed at right moments during rapport-building.

BOTH are equally as important.

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I agree with you totally. Perhaps I was a little off saying eye contact is MORE important. I definitely am going to stick with my point about eye contact being under rated and under appreciated. I think they are equally important. I still think that eye contact is essential and when used along with kino is extremely powerful. Like I said before kino without eye contact just doesn't work.

Maxtro I think kino is actually easier than good eye contact. For some people like me kino is natural, and eye contact is hard. I never had a problem with kino. Learning great eye contact was the key.

Maxtro said:

This is wrong on so many levels.

Nothing is more important than kino!

If you don't touch her, how do you expect to work your way to having sex with her?!

Eye contact is easy. Doing kino properly isn't. Until you are very comfortable doing kino, good luck on getting any action.

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I totallly agree. Not only that, but the OP doesnt realize that too much eye contact will be a COMLETE turn off, cuz chicks are going to think its extremely creepy and weird. Too much eye contact will really screw you over, trust me, and the last thing you want is to be labeled as that "weird creepy kid that stares at everyone"

I don't know where I said to stare at everyone. It's about communicating with your eyes not "just staring at every girl you see". Just like kino, you have to feel out when to do it or not. This is the difference. If you haven't noticed girl are extremely attracted to nice eyes. When a girl is interested, one of the first things she will do is constantly look you straight in your eyes.

I'm sure unnecessary kino is just as if not more creepy than a guy that stares at people. You don't want to be the "weird creepy kid that touches everyone" either.

This is really confusing. Some people say to hold eye contact and dont let up but then there are people who thinks it is creepy to do that. And what is a person supposed to think you aren't exactly highly confident. You pretty much said that makes a person a "creep" to execute kino, Voice.

That is one of my gripes with this site. EVERYTHING has to be so contradicting, especially the Health and Fitness forum. No one can seem to agree on anything.

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This is really confusing. Some people say to hold eye contact and dont let up but then there are people who thinks it is creepy to do that. And what is a person supposed to think you aren't exactly highly confident. You pretty much said that makes a person a "creep" to execute kino, Voice.

That is one of my gripes with this site. EVERYTHING has to be so contradicting, especially the Health and Fitness forum. No one can seem to agree on anything.

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I don't think many people are saying don't EVER let up. Obviously if you never break eye contact it looks creepy. I don't like being formulaic, but one rule of thumb is to break EC once for every 2 times she does.

They say that the eyes are the window to the soul. Well then, don't be afraid to gaze into her soul!

If you break EC less than she does, it indicates confidence and conveys dominance. To stare in the eyes can be a very aggressive act in certain contexts. There are species of monkeys that basically hold staring contests to establish dominance.

By staring her right in the eyes, you demonstrate confidence and confidence, as we know, is one of the most desirable qualities for women. It allows you to take charge of the interaction and subtly assert your leadership role. That turns girls on.

If she's holding eye contact longer than you are and you're afraid to look her in the eye, you are demonstrating insecurity and low value.

But what if you're making eye contact and the girl doesn't look away, you're supposed to look until she does, even if it is a long time? That wouldn't feel very natural to me I guess, because I would think "Wow we're making a lot of eye contact", i would be consious of it. I guess practice is the only way to improve your eye contact and make it more natural and all.