The World Wants to Make You an AFC...Don't Let Them

[trickynick]

Okay fellas, it's time for a wake up call here. Many of us had been AFC's our entire life when we found this forum. The fact that we came here implies that we were all in search of answers. We wanted to know just what was standing between us and having the kinds of lives we really wanted. We refused to accept that we were destined to spend our entire lives in an unwinable game. I have learned a number of other things in the process, one of which is that dating and seduction is a game that cannot be won, only played.

For anyone who has not noticed, I would like to bring to your attention that the fact that we were all at one time AFC's was the direct product of someone else's agenda. More people's agenda than I even care to think about. The fact is that many people in the world around us have made a decision (conciously or not) that it is in their best interest for you to be an AFC. And they have taken actions to ensure that you always will be. I am going to present to you a summary of who these people are who want you to be an AFC and why.

Your Friends/Acquaintences Want You to be an AFC

Hopefully you have a few good friends for whom this not apply but for a great many of them it does. If you've read The 48 Laws of Power or been around the block a few times with fake friends, you understand that you don't always know your friends as well as you think you do. Some of them are probably AFC's themselves and feel threatened by you. You are potentially going to be able to have sex with women who they think they can have sex with. You are a competitor for the postion of alpha male in the social circles you share with them. They would just as soon you be a person who will serve to make them look good and appeal to their needs to be someone important. For you to appeal to their needs above yours would require you to be an AFC.

You will hopefully run across some people with whom you can have real friendships who you won't have to worry about. Consequently, the best friends you have will be others like you who are confident enough to view you as a friend and not a threat. They will share your success with women and understand that being friends with a Don Juan of a high caliber will result in positive energy being absorbed by them.

Your Teachers Want You to be an AFC

This begins in elementary school and continues through college. A kid who is is Don Jaun material will be confident enough to challenge the teacher possibly exposing their lack of knowledge. AFC kids are so much less threatening. At the college level the tension between a student who actively strives for the position of the alpha male of the class can be mind-blowing. You'll never hear from most of the students (hmmm...I wonder what terminology we could apply to those guys). For you high school Dons, what kind of guys get chicks at your school? Are they the kind of guys who never cause any kind of trouble or at least contraversy among the teachers or adminstrators?...I thought not.

The Nightlife Wants You to be an AFC

I used to go to the bars and clubs every night I could, including weekdays. As an AFC I would go to the club dumping out my money hoping that I would meet a woman I could have sex with. Even flying solo on nights when I really had better things to do or needed sleep for the next day. Seriously guys, what kind of guy other than an AFC puts his own interests and his wealth in an unfavorable position in the name of women?

The club and bar ownership makes money off of your failed attempts to get laid. The less time you spend actually getting laid and the more time (money) you spend there trying unsuccessfuly to do so, the more money that means for them. Also, the girls who frequent these places love the attention and free drinks they get from AFC's so they will be more likey to frequent that establishment in the future.

I still club, but not in the AFC context that I once did. It is now 10:45 on a Friday where I am and I am at home relaxing, watching TV and sharing some insights with you guys. All of my wingies are busy with dates, so if I did go out it would have to be solo. I have decided to go out less and spend some of the huge percentage of my disposable income that I once spent on clubbing on my investments instead of clubbing whenever I have the chance. Plus, I have 3 booty call possiblities if I decide to collect on one of them later tonight. It's in my best interest to hold off on clubbing tonight and a Don Juan always looks out for his best interest, making life work for him.

The Corporate World Wants You to be an AFC

The CEO of your corporation is the consumate alpha male. He has a lot of people shmoozed over into believing that he will be the guy who makes everything alright. He talks to everyone the way they individually need to be talked to in order to accomplish his agenda whatever that may be. He even has an amazing number of people believing he can predict the future of the company they work at. Truth be told, if this guy could predict things like that he would not be working at that company himself.

Knowledge is power, he will not share. Of course the people who will always supplicate him and recognize him as being above them in anything other than a corporate sense will mostly be AFC's.

Another thing you should always keep in mind is that most people who make money off of you have a vested interest in your AFCism, which leads nicely into our next group...

The Media Wants You be an AFC

WELL, DUH!!!

Anyone who puts Matt Damon or Leonardo DeCaprio on your TV screen in front of a beautiful woman telling her that he'd be willing to die for her even though he just met her and he'd give to her or do anything for her that she asked is screaming for you to be an AFC. This is what they want you to believe will get you a woman! Are you going to put up with that shhit? Women love this crap just for the purpose of fantasy but to say that the behavior reflected here is what women need is so far from the truth it's crazy. The same thing goes for the endless array of AFC songs we poke fun at continually in the Anything Else forum.

About the only person making money off of you right now in any form of media who doesn't have a vested in your being an AFC is Allen. Your ceasing to become an AFC as result of you coming here will result in some awesome posts by you that will entice newbies coming in as AFC's to get invloved and probably buy some of the material advertised here too. Allen will be fine as long as there are AFC's to come here and that will be the case forever.

Politicians and Organized Crime Want You to Be an AFC

Having vested interests in the media, the corporate world and the nightlife these alpha male monsters want to be the only people in the world who have a clue. Politicians need to appear more powerful than everyone else and make you believe they have something inside them that you need. You know what kind of guy puts another person on a pedistal, don't you?

Women Want You to be an AFC

This may sound questionable to you but it is true. Girls want attention, money spent on them and to be treated like princesses in every right and most guys do this for them. The catch here is that they don't reward the guys who give them what they want with sex, but rather the guys who give them what they need which is to be shown that they really ain't all that and you are the prize and the man that is going to bring some excitement into their life. There are few guys out there who really give women what they need, but all the women need is a few guys to do this. The rest will be busy simply catering to their every whim, and this works out great for the chicks.

There you have it, the truth:

THE WORLD WANTS TO MAKE YOU AN AFC, BUT WILL REWARD YOU IF YOU ARE NOT!!!

Armed with this information, you have the equivallent of lightening captured in a bottle. You will be aware of their intentions when they attempt to take you for all you are worth by luring you into the idea that you don't have to do shhit to get what you want from women and from life. Don't let this happen!

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[JUST ME]

trickster, great post! I am noticing more and more AFC BRAINWASHING- songs, t.v., movies, mags, girlproblems.com-lol- the more DJ I become the more sick to my stomach I get remembering how I used to be.

[hannibal82]

yep....I totally see what you are saying JUSTME. Since i started learning the ways of the DJ .... I can concsiously pick out AFC stuff in my everyday life , its amusing sometimes . Great post Nick , so true.......i mean everyone just look around.

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[Mark]

Thi is fvcking awesome!!!!
And it is so true. Especially the clubbing part. I should go for my own interests. Not the women of the world.

I don't want to say it but........
I love you man!!!!!!
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[koolbreeze]

right on dudes. You gotta believe that you are money and always remember...less is more
..a social paradox here.. and as a lesbian said once from a bro DJ..women like to be hurt more than you know..makes them feel the rel. means more..kinda crazy but true.

[Ashlee Angel]

I find this very true when I'm in school teachers want you to agree with them and not say what's on your mind fvck that. I'm going to say what's on my mind becasue i'm not a AFC.

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[improvingdonjuan]

great post !!!!! its really true, and to think that i use to listen to some of my friends. its all about ourselfs and what we want not the world wants us to do

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[Wyldfire]

Great post nick...

Gotta add one thing only that I think could use a little clarification. Women want an AFC/Badboy hybrid. A man who is a bit of both but knows how to keep a healthy balance of the two. Treat her well but have balls and be the man. Finding that middle ground is what makes for an amazing man.

[Mark]

Originally posted by Wyldfire:
Great post nick...

Gotta add one thing only that I think could use a little clarification. Women want an AFC/Badboy hybrid. A man who is a bit of both but knows how to keep a healthy balance of the two. Treat her well but have balls and be the man. Finding that middle ground is what makes for an amazing man.


true, true.

Women don't know what they want.
They say they want a bad boy...but when a sweety comes along their panties get wet.
They say they want a sweety...when a bad boy comes along their panties get wet.

[Specter]

''Great post nick...
Gotta add one thing only that I think could use a little clarification. Women want an AFC/Badboy hybrid. A man who is a bit of both but knows how to keep a healthy balance of the two. Treat her well but have balls and be the man. Finding that middle ground is what makes for an amazing man. ''

We call this person a Don Juan

[ESPN]

Originally posted by Mark:

true, true.

Women don't know what they want.
They say they want a bad boy...but when a sweety comes along their panties get wet.
They say they want a sweety...when a bad boy comes along their panties get wet.

Agree.
They don't know a sh*t, and say bs when asked for what they want.
WOMAN WANT TO MAKE YOU A AFC

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[DeepBlue]

Wyldfire wrote:
Gotta add one thing only that I think could use a little clarification. Women want an AFC/Badboy hybrid. A man who is a bit of both but knows how to keep a healthy balance of the two. Treat her well but have balls and be the man. Finding that middle ground is what makes for an amazing man.


Allow me to add my own clarification:

While it is true that women want a balance of bad boy (for excitement) and nice guy (for comfort) there is also a lot of confusion arising from the fact that women often PURSUE THINGS THEY DON'T WANT.

It is at the very heart of Chick Logic to test how you REALLY are, how you REALLY think, how you REALLY feel by acting like they want something they don't, to see if you OVERRULE them to show her that NO, you DON'T go along with THAT!

In Chick Logic (Tm) this demonstrates to her the strength of your belief or your feelings in the matter. That greatly reassures her, because it enables her to feel more certain about where you stand.

If she says, "oh, I'm fine, don't worry about me, I'm not cold" she secretly wants you to OVERRULE her and say, "absolutely not, we can't have you getting a cold, here let's wrap this blanket around you".

And by the same token, if she becomes haughty and acts like a complete *****, to the point where she truly seems to be seeking to turn you into a quivering spineless heap of jellyfish, and seems to want you to say something like "yes dear, whatever you say dear" don't be fooled.

She is pursuing that goal AS IF that were what she wanted, and it may be so convincing that even SHE believes it's what she wants, but it's just a test springing from her need to know you better in her own Chick Logic way.

Behind that test, what she really wants deep down is to be OVERRULED, and for you to take a stand (especially if she is being unreasonable) and be the MAN. That is what she really wants. Give *that* to her, not the apologetic AFC her behavior would SEEM to be asking for.

DeepBlue

[Don the Legend]

Good post Nick!

[mahon83050]

Trickynick:

I kind of agree with you on the first part with friends. I have been frustrated with the woman situation and probably would feel jealous if one of my friends was hooking up with a hottie and i was not. I always seem to care what others think (my friends)...for example my friend tried hitting on some chick at the bar that i work at and she blew him off. She was smiling at me alot though...but i felt guilty pursuing it due to the fact he might be jealous. I ALWAYS SEEM TO CARE WHAT OTHERS THINK AND IF THEY ARE JEALOUS OF ME....I WANT TO CHANGE AND NOT CARE!!

[mahon83050]

I guess i am an AFC.....If i had a girl and was having success...i would feel happy for my friends if they were doing well with chicks. I guess it is true...MISERY LOVES COMPANY!! If i am not doing well with the chicks...u feel jealous when your friends do!

[Amlothi]

Just want to add my $0.02 cents on this. I'm reading a book right now called "Self Matters" by Phillip McGraw. He talks about how "external factors" can influence your self image - in turn controlling a lot of your actions. I think your AFCism is a great example of external forces that try to hinder our true selves. Maybe we are all naturally DJs and society just supresses it on us?

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[trickynick]

Originally posted by Amlothi:
Just want to add my $0.02 cents on this. I'm reading a book right now called "Self Matters" by Phillip McGraw. He talks about how "external factors" can influence your self image - in turn controlling a lot of your actions. I think your AFCism is a great example of external forces that try to hinder our true selves. Maybe we are all naturally DJs and society just supresses it on us?



Great take, Amlothi!

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[T Dog]

I never thought that my spending less money at the clubs was a result of my procress at this board.

Last Friday night, I too, spent it at home. Even got to bed early. I woke up early the next day with no hangover. I did not spend any money and spent the whole day doing fun stuff instead of nursing a hangover.

I did go out Saturday night. I got a good buzz on at my house then cabed it downtown (Austin Texas, Yeah baby!). Then I only spent $15.00 the whole night on drinks.

I don't need to get totally $hitfaced to meet women anymore. Thanks DJ Bible!

[Don-Wan Kenobi]

Great Post, Trickynick.

In reality, the world probably doesn't CARE whether or not you are a Don or a chump. It works out that there are more AFCs than non-AFCs and when you think about it, AFCs are what make the world go around. Imagine if nobody was an AFC; now, how fun would that be knowing that you've worked hard to acquire your DJ Skills and DJ perspective? Man, that sh$t you don't give away and it don't come easy.

Wyldfire sent up a red flag. Women may SAY they want both a badboy (jerk) and an AFC in the same relationship, but we know there's a difference between what the ladies say and what they ladies do. Time and time again, the badboy-AFC has found himself a helpless failure when it comes to maintaining relationships. Women want a man they're comfortable around and a man that treats them with respect and sensitivity. An AFC, even one pretending to be a badboy, has no clue about respect and sensitivity cuz' he don't even respect himself and if he HAD any sensitivity, he'd know how to read his woman and maintain a high interest level.

Whether you choose to be a niceguy or a jerk to your ladyfriends, remembmer not to confuse qualities that women find attractive and comforting with AFC qualities that drive women away by the bushel.

Back in the game,
Don Robert

[Flyguy3663]

Right on trickynick. The more I think about it everything you wrote is correct. As far as media I totally agree. If you listen to what Nsync and the Backdoor boys say and all those lovey dovey songs you will become an AFC. If you are too nice and give them what they "want" instead of what they "NEED" then you get nothing. Not many people in this country will ever become the Alpha Male. That is one of my goals. A lot of the guys around you will be intimidated and see you as a threat if you arent AFC. they see u as competition. Damn that was a good post man. Keep the good stuff commin

[318 Most Hated]

True stuff at its best....seriuously....

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What you broke motherf*&kaz know about that?"-Big Pun(r.i.p.)

[stockholder]

Still one of the best posts. Society is ****ed up and we are the few who can look at the big picture. It's also the reason why so many people leave this website without having learned a damn thing. May luck be with them.


bump

[izm]

brilliant nick!

[Bones]

great post

[Turbobird]

Originally posted by Amlothi:
Just want to add my $0.02 cents on this. I'm reading a book right now called "Self Matters" by Phillip McGraw. He talks about how "external factors" can influence your self image - in turn controlling a lot of your actions. I think your AFCism is a great example of external forces that try to hinder our true selves. Maybe we are all naturally DJs and society just supresses it on us?



Do you like that book? It sounds interesting. Is it worth buying it?


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[Oxide]

bump, i like this.

adding to what wildfire was saying:

the idea that girls want jerks is rediculous...after high school
the idea that girls want nice guys is rediculious, before second marriage.




the balance is correct. a man, who does take care about his girl, but isnt afraid to tell her to go fly a kite when she steps out of line is something very rare and precious.

Too many guys read this board and become obsessed with power and "control" they think they posses when they act like hardballs. Hell, i myself was one of the biggest a$$holes to girls back in the day, and that was completely unnatural of me. thank god for some good friends who actually talked to me about it, rather than laughing and turning their backs on my dumb ass.


please guys, be natural, be a great guy, that is all you really need.

[RedZone122]

Bible anyone?


I can't believe it was 2 years before this post was dug back up - Please consider this one for the bible

[backbreaker]

true story.

In my senior year of HS, I was in HS, i played on the Basketball team, worked at Best buy, had a 1 year relationship and was taking night classes at the local IT school to learn more about computers, which is the field I work in now.

I knew my junior year of high school , that although I had a well above average ACT score, and a 3.7 GPA, I wasn't going to college. I wanted to start my own business. I knew exactly what I wnated to do, and I made me a path to better myself so that when I was out of school I could do that.

So my senior year of HS in basketball practice one day, I tore my ACL and had to miss some school for sugery. The part of school I missed were like the end of the first 9 weeks of school, where you get all of the test.

My Math teacher was a real *****. I had a 95% in her classk, which was Cal 2 and If i would have missed the test, which I did, I would have a 75% which is a C. For me to make up the test, I would have to come and take the test on a wednesday at 5pm, which is when I was supposed to be in my other class.

Considering I wasn't trying to get into college, a C was fine with me. I knew the work, I had an A for crying out loud, and that's all that mattered to me. I decided I wasn't going to miss my night class, something I am going to depend on for the rest of my life without question, or at least the better part of it, for a Cal test that I will forget in 1 year more than likely. So I told her to just give me a C becauause I wasn't going to make up the test.

She then tells me "It's in your best interest to make up this test, or else my grade and her possible college recomendation would suffer.

I told her in my exact words "you can take that exam and that recomendation and shove both of them up your ass".

She sent me to the principals office. She made this big fuss to the principal over what happened. He knew my situtation and I told him what was going on. He also knew why I missed the test, because I was on the basketball team and he knew it was understandable. He then explained to her that I didn't plan on going to college and that I really didn't need the grade or her approval. This made her even more furious. She actually held a conference with my parenets and me trying to talk me into going to college, saying it was 'my best option'

Honestly she picked the wrong parents, because BOTH of my parents are entraprenurers, and they tore her a new one.

It got so bad I had to transfer out of her class.

[Lost]

BIBLE WORTHY!!!!
SO GOOD!!!!!

[Oxide]

so how are u doing now backbreaker, that cal 2 must be coming in pretty handy...



coming from a guy who took over 8 years of math and 5 years of geometry, i never had a job where i had to calculate tangents and do logs. retarded.

[Zendryn]

I like this post, doesn't it feel different after joining this forum and haveing a entirely different view on how things work and the world around you?

And im not talking about women here.

[backbreaker]

Originally posted by Oxide
so how are u doing now backbreaker, that cal 2 must be coming in pretty handy...



coming from a guy who took over 8 years of math and 5 years of geometry, i never had a job where i had to calculate tangents and do logs. retarded.


Honestly, I do use it, but not at work, which is ironic.

I use it for two things, gambling, which I bet horses on the side and make a decent income, and programming, which I dabble into when we are shorthanded at work, but haven't touched in over a year.

It really was a pure waste of time, as I wanted to tell my teacher, but I am good at math and it was the only math class they had taken that I hadn't taken yet, plus I would rather take math and somehow better myself than take an additional PE class that would do absoutly nothing for me.

[Ol'BlueEyes]

My first double-post!!!:D

[Ol'BlueEyes]

*click* ....bookmarked.
This is good. It's funny how every once in a while, there will be some reference in pop culture about "where have all the good men gone?" or something similar.
Paula Cole wtote a song about it "Where have all the Cowboys Gone?"
No wonder I barely watch TV anymore. Who's filling the male role model niche? Thuggish rappers? Metrosexuals? Queer Eye for the Straight Guy? :rolleyes:

[Austin Allegro]

Originally posted by Ol'BlueEyes
*click* ....bookmarked.
This is good. It's funny how every once in a while, there will be some reference in pop culture about "where have all the good men gone?" or something similar.
Paula Cole wtote a song about it "Where have all the Cowboys Gone?"
No wonder I barely watch TV anymore. Who's filling the male role model niche? Thuggish rappers? Metrosexuals? Queer Eye for the Straight Guy? :rolleyes:

True dat.

I read a quote from a woman in the paper who said 'In the USA, all the good looking men are gay and all the straight men are like Homer Simpson'. :D

[duke007]

Originally posted by trickynick
This begins in elementary school and continues through college. A kid who is is Don Jaun material will be confident enough to challenge the teacher possibly exposing their lack of knowledge. AFC kids are so much less threatening.
Yes! And then the DJ kids get detention for speaking up.

In kindergarten, I was travelling pretty nicely. I got along well with the all kids, and was confident enough to read a picture book to everyone. I was then popular in Prep (First year in elementary school).

The principal decided I was too intelligent for Prep and I was shifted up to Grade 1. In one week my social standing was destroyed...I was a lot younger than everyone and felt intimidated. I remember hiding in my closet so my mother wouldn't take me to school. This was the first stage of me becoming a shy AFC.

Just after settling in, I did a non-AFC boyish thing. Ran around on the oval in the rain after lunchtime finished with friends. I was heavily berated by a female teacher and sat in detention for two painful hours. Through negative reinforcement I never did a "bad" thing at school again.

In third grade, as a quiet nice-boy I made up lies to my teacher (female again of course) as to why I didn't bring my glasses to school. After the excuses became obvious, my teacher publicly humiliated me by making me show my bag (with glasses inside) to her in front of class.
Confidence and any DJness left in me plummets.

Luckily, my 5th and 6th grade teacher was a man, a very genuine and respectable one. Looking back I think he understood how boys should be treated. He restored some of my potential DJness but AFC was too well-entrenched by this time. But god knows what would have become of me if I got the witchy woman as a teacher instead (this was a very real possibility at the time).

So yeah, school pretty much wanted me to be, and made me AFC. And I think my story really highlights what has been written in the media and literature lately. Boys need more strong male influences in their formative years. Male teachers are integral to society.

But..... since the AFCness was artificially manufactured in me, I can now "re-manufacture" myself to become a DJ.

[Dirtheart]

Excellent tip and well worth the read for anybody - DJ or not!

It's also interesting to note that all the world leaders and people who have power and success are people who take control and don't let anybody stand in their way.

A very inspiring post indeed!

[Slimijs]

It always amazed me, how the player always ends up as one of the bad guys in the movie (see SWAT), and the AFC's save the day.

Brain manipulation. Are all these movies written by females or fags?

A good FIGHT THE POWER thread. 5 stars

[Dirtheart]

*bump*

This is one of my favourite tips and one which I think all AFCs and newbies to this site need to read.

[comic_relief]

Bible Worthy

[comic_relief]

Bible Worthy, if it ain't there already

[SexPDX]

I had forgotten all about this post until I saw it just now (trickynick was my old nic a couple years ago for those who may not know).

Not that anything I wrote here is "wrong" necessarily, but it doesn't even seem to me now like myself who would have written a post like this. I am amazed at how preoccupied I was with things like what is or is not AFC. Also, at that time I read WAY too much into things like what is alpha and what is suplication.

Anyway, it was interesting to read this post of mine again.

[chicksrock]

i think you were going through the beginning stages of trying to inspire yourself to break out of AFC ness? .. \

Adding to your orginal post... i think your missed out on your FAMILY wanting you to be an AFC as well

one really needs to grab on to their balls and DJ all over the world...it takes a lot of balls

[neobrood]

Hehe...

A couple days ago, I was in a party. I was talking to this 40 year old friend of mine... and sometime along the conversation, we talked about that pesky chick that I talked about in my first posts...

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=52917

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=52891&perpage=&pagenumber=2

Anyway, his advice:

"Don't worry, you'll find someone soon who will LOVE you."

And then I talked to him about ALL the mistakes I did. Especially about BEING A BIG NEEDY WUSS to her.

And guess what:
The guy was surprised and looked shocked when I was talking about exerting a little more CONTROL over the woman. As in I told him that you must show her who is in charge... and then show her that YOU ARE A MAN WHO WILL NOT TAKE SHlT FROM HER.

He said "that is not the way you should treat women".

I said "No no no... its not like I'm gonna treat her as if I was a dictator... Just exert a little force. A little effort just enough to put her in her place"

He still said "that is not the way you should treat women".

Therefore, HE IS AFC!!! I kinda pity him... AFC for 40 years... AFC married... But his wife is pretty hot for someone in her late thirties... she looks 20 something!!! :)

[neobrood]

i think your missed out on your FAMILY wanting you to be an AFC as well


... VERY TRUE!!!

U know wat, I was just talking and smiling at the lady in the veterinarian office... crackin a few jokes here and there... and she was smiling too and enjoying it.

And my mom was "pssht..." She was trying to stop me. As if its a bad thing to talk and smile at the receptionist (who looked like 2 or 3 years older than me, tho...)

I got some NEW ISSUES with my mom tho. Now, she thinks I'm "disrespectful" just because I talk to everyone (including her friends who range from people in late 20s to late 50s) as if I was at their level. For f*ck's sake!!! I AM 20 YEARS OLD!!! I AM A FRIGGIN ADULT!!!

OMG!!! I WAS BROUGHT UP AND RAISED AS AN AFC WITHOUT ME KNOWING IT!!!

[comic_relief]

yeah, I have the same problem. My dad is sitting there and talking to my cousin's saying "eventually, he will treat all women with respect that they deserve." I burst out in laughter and ran out of the room. So I did not insult him at all for those "words of advice on how to get a woman" from my father.

edit: My parents last night thought I was disrespectful to this elderly person because I talked to her. The parents want me to stay quiet and boring because it is "Safe"

[chicksrock]

Originally posted by neobrood
I got some NEW ISSUES with my mom tho. Now, she thinks I'm "disrespectful" just because I talk to everyone (including her friends who range from people in late 20s to late 50s) as if I was at their level. For f*ck's sake!!! I AM 20 YEARS OLD!!! I AM A FRIGGIN ADULT!!!



neobrood you are on the right track buddy...
you should be getting out there and talking to older people and be at their level..
be able to communicate and talk to them..
I encourage you 10 times as much to do that as your mom discourages you ..

it is amazing what you learn from older people..plus gaining lots of social skills which you can then use on women

[neobrood]

you should be getting out there and talking to older people and be at their level..


"Some people here... just because they are 20 years old, they refuse to say "po" and "opo" or bless or call em "tito" or "tita"

Notes on Filipino culture:

- "po" and "opo" is said in every sentence as a sign of respect when talking to an older person in Tagalog (Filipino Language).

I'Il say "po" and "opo" to older people who are BLOOD RELATED to me. Not friends of my mom.


- I call em "tito" (uncle) or "tita" (aunt) if they REALLY ARE BLOOD RELATED. Not someone who is a friend of my mom and is 40 years old.


- The words "ate" (pronounced a-te... used when addressing an older woman) and "kuya" (used when addressing an older guy) are also words of respect.

When I call mom's friends "ate" or "kuya", my mom still thinks I'm disrespectful.


- "BLESS" = you grab the hand of the person, lower your head, and make the knuckles touch your head. Sign of respect to older people with a big age difference when meeting them. I only do that to BLOOD RELATED people. Not to friends of my mom.


***CHILDREN are SUPPOSED to do that or else they are RUDE. But I am no longer a "Children". :cool: I would rather call em "kuya" or "ate".

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This is an AFC part of Filipino culture that I dislike. I'm rebelling against it... :D

[James Dupri]

brilliant post. should be archived.

whatever happened to trickynick? It says his last post was in june 2002...did he get a new screen name or something?