met this girl a few months ago. I thought it was just going to be a f-budy relationship, I thought she had a really hot bod and fun and exciting, but in her head she thinks of me a lot more of boyfriend material and she already introduced me to all her friends and buys me clothes/colgnes., and already made space for me to move in with her.
anyway I want to break this up , I am not ready for comitment and I want to be more single. , If I was going to commit, I would be a much better girl that than, but I am not sure what is the best way to do so without hurting her too much since she has risked her reputation ( telling her friends ) and invested in me so much (in terms of Time and literally attention)

These are the options in my head of what I think is the best way to break up with her:

A
what really borthered me was she told me she had a relationship with a married guy before me. I felt really disgusted that she would be so 'don't give a ****' attitude and it was ths source of all of arguments between me and her, but its not the reason I guess my logic for using this as an excuse to break up with her is 'to teach her a lesson' just to 'make her feel bad' for what she did , its more as a reason to make a statement but that IS not the reason I want to break up with her.
B
Tell her I 've moved away from the town. Although I would really like to tak her with me, I know she has engagements here (like her work etc) so unfortunetly she and I will have to break up or
C
Just tell her directly

how do i post my own questions?

really how?

guy412 said:

really how?

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You just did.

nono

i mean how do i post a thread i got a topic that could help a lot of guys in my position

mackdaddy27 said:

....what really borthered me was she told me she had a relationship with a married guy before me. I felt really disgusted that she would be so 'don't give a ****' attitude

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I have had three women in my life who admitted to having prior relationships with married men. All three eventually revealed themselves to be low quality women in MANY ways, and I am not only refering to their lack of morals.

Not one of them was emotionally fit to be in an adult relationship.

guy412 said:

i mean how do i post a thread i got a topic that could help a lot of guys in my position

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Go back to the Mature Man menu (one step back from here)and click the "New Thread" button top left.

OH, amd you will need to post your age first or RT will get tense, and we will need 100 points of ID and your ATM pin# too as well as your age.. he he.

why do anything? Hang out with her when you want, **** her when you want, and just enjoy what you got. Go out with your buddies look for other women, if you have had no type of talk about being exclusive, and you do not spend every weekend together you are just dating, What she thinks, and what is reality are two diffrient things...

vitor said:

why do anything? Hang out with her when you want, **** her when you want, and just enjoy what you got. Go out with your buddies look for other women, if you have had no type of talk about being exclusive, and you do not spend every weekend together you are just dating, What she thinks, and what is reality are two diffrient things...

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Exactly. Do what you want to do in the relationship and if she gives you an ultimatum, do what you want to do at that point. Don't live your life according to someone else, silly

face to face.

re: plans A & B: How elaborate. All that bother.

re: plan C: Tell her directly that you want to break up? But you're not "a couple". There's nothing to break up.

Of course, if you just don't want to see her face anymore, you tell her, it's not working for you, it's not her fault, it's you not her. Because it is about you and not her.

Better would be just pull back some, see her less often. Then she'll get to feeling you're not the boyfriend type.

Hey, but if she wants to buy you gifts, so what? That's nice of her, it's what she wants to do and gifts don't have strings attached.

Actually, I think the bigger issue is this: you see her as a f#ck buddy, but that she fooled around with a married guy is something you argue with her about? She's a f#ck buddy, who cares? Let me tell ya, if you were seeking a LTR with a woman, and she told you she messed around with married guys, even then there'd be no point in debating her morals. You think people are going to make changes in their character because you had a talk with them about it?