I desperately need help in my situation. I don't know if I should make the attempt to try to get my ex back or just leave :kick:

I was seeing this younger chick (21)..I'm 33 for almost 6 months. She was one of those girls who gets alot of attention (works in a masssage parlor). I got her by being the chase and eventually landed up sleeping with her all the time until she felt that I was "***** whipped". (Even though I still sleep around

Unfortunately, I still got Oneitus & when I realized this I told her I needed time to focus on myself and a new business I was starting. I did this on her Birthday because I didn't feel appreciated on her birthday, especially knowing that her ex was calling. I had made plans for her during the day & didn't see her until dinner. I cut off all contact with her right after. I ignored all her calls and responded to her texts that I was in meetings all the time. Eventually I land up seeing her again for a few minutes & told her that the reason I have distanced myself is that I suspect she has a drug problem & that I believed that she is better than that. I let her know that I would always be there for her if she needed help & that I cared about her - but I couldn't ever allow myself to get close to some one with an addiction problem. She becomes pissed off and explains why she is acting ****ed up since her birthday because of problems at home. I still think that there is something more than that.

I continue to ignore her & answer my phone only when I'm partying with the boyz or hanging out with my other female friends whom she is jealous of. I have being doing all of this to "get over her" as well as let her know that I can live without her. I gave her all her pictures back yesterday. However, I miss sleeping & being with her. She asked me what I was doing for Valentines & I told her that I wasn't sure yet.

Would you recommend going out with her again so soon - knowing that she seems to love drama and attention? Or should I just move on and cut my losses short after 6 months of incredible sex and being with her. How should I go about getting her back again if you recommend me being with her?

Any advice from some true players, don waans, or anyone that has suffered from oneitus before would be appreciated.:rockon:

It seems like you want to break up. giving her all her pictures back? Missing someone at night is just part of breaking up. Just let her go man. Besides, the age difference has to be crazy. 33 to 21 is a BIG jump.

Nothing wrong with the age gap but other then that get rid of her. You say you're starting a business and have been sleeping with other women so why would you want some emotionaly disrupt drug wh0re to occupy your mind with?

Seriously...this young girl got you whipped man. For shame. Move on, you can't wife one this young, you can't keep one this young, you can only enjoy one this young. Then move on to the next one.

Good looking out guys. I guess I just needed to here that. I can't confirm about the drugs but why bother with something you can't be 100% sure about.

lol 21 year old girls are ****ing all druggies and crazy...they dont even know who they are yet...believe me i'm dating one....

well you kinda already have her back....she's totally insecure now and you kinda got her because the way you described it it sounds like the shift of control is back in your court....

this type of chick lives off drama..and the only way to have her..is to not give to sh*ts about her...if you really want to stay with her you just have to moderate yourself with her...hang around her for 2 days...and then give it a rest for like 3 days... then repeat cycle... but you gotta keep her guessing..the young ones are more about the excitement than the actual commitment and love...unfortunatley..lol *sigh*

Badmanz, I really like ur plan. I have nexted with 2 other friends recently & find that I missed her even more because they weren't freaks with me in the same way.

Last night I made the mistake of taking her phone call & it was like one of the most akward conversations I have ever had with a female - nothing but small cheesy talk with alot of silence.

I was thinking about going out without someone else for Valentines for dinner but letting my ex know that I would be hitting the clubs at night with the boyz (who are all playas). She would be interested because I know that she also into girls + I always got alot of attention when I was with her from other females. It would be nice to use her to score with other babes.

What do you think about that plan? Or do you think it would backfire on me?