I usually don't listen to women when it comes to advice about dating and attraction, because I follow the philosophy of "why/how would the prey teach you to hunt?"

Anyway I was just surfing Youtube today and stumbled across this girls advice. She seems really intune with what's really going on in the dating/attracting process.

Most of what I've seen so far, although geared towards newbies, is similar to what you might hear on here, and is spot on. It's refreshing to hear from a woman's perspective.

Oh and she's not half bad looking.

http://www.youtube.com/profile?user=vanae12&view=videos

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XmAZOREunb8&feature=channel

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=INkJY4XDPA8&feature=channel

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AZU8qnYJO_w&feature=channel_page

I watched a few of those, mostly cuz I liked looking at her, but it is absolutely not real pickup material. Its only common knowledge, nothing anyone doesnt already know. Im not saying shes full of shyt, (for the most part), but I dont think anyone on this site can learn anything from her.

I think she's on coke. She has too many gestures and move-a-bouts. I once was talking to a girl, that looked surprisingly similar to her, doing all the same head motions, and wild gestures. Not that I cared, but I straight up asked her how much coke she was on. She admitted it. I went on a couple dates with her, later, and the wild gestures were gone.

"and little Ms. whatsherface...can't teach you to be the shyt...you can only learn that from a playa/DJ/ ==> "a guy who walks the talk"."

True.

Rollo or someone else wrote up a really good post not long ago that talked about why the "be yourself" advice falls flat on its face.

Basically it went something like this...

A guy that is a natural sees some loser failing with women and the guy thats a natural tells the loser to just be himself in order to finally have success with women.

The problem with the natural's advice is his natural mentality is different than the loser's mentality so telling the loser to just be himself is basically telling the loser to continue on with his failed mentality so "just be yourself" is ultimately self defeating advice for guys that already fail with chicks.

Improving yourself through physical fitness, hair and clothing styles, fixing your loser mentality psychology also known as inner game work all of that is what is important to becoming a success with not only women but it can help a guy become a success at life in general and its that knowledge that needs to be imparted to the loser.

Not the "just be yourself" rubbish fortune cookie quality advice.

KillaPetehog said:

After reviewing it...it actually is decent advice.



but you know what....

I think she's just secretly doing all of this to get attention...or to get affirmation.

but there's nothing earth-shattering...

I find it amusing that she has all this time on her hands.

None of her advice is focused on "gaming"... Her advice can be summed up in 2 sentences.

1. Leave her if she doesn't like you for you.
2. Be yourself.


Sigh....

but it's not just being "yourself" is it? Because there are a lot of single chumps that say "be yourself" You need to be the shyt..and not act like the shyt...and little Ms. whatsherface...can't teach you to be the shyt...you can only learn that from a playa/DJ/ ==> "a guy who walks the talk".

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Maybe it's to get attention. But It's also her business. She makes money off of this stuff. As I said before, the advice is geared towards newbies. I give her cred not because she's breaking new ground (I agree she's not), but because she's a female and knows 1000x more than any woman I've met. Most women just spout crap like "You haven't met the right woman yet."

Chicks can learn and give advice too. The thing is they have trouble putting it into words. They don't understand how they work any better than they do. Unless a girl has actually been educated properly with this stuff (the girls at The Authentic Man program for example) they really only describe their FEELINGS and it's up to us to join the dots. Most of what she will say is a rationalization.

"He's tall and good looking" - I'm attracted to him so I'm going to explain it by using the most accepted means in society.

"Just be yourself" - Don't be nervous. Be confident and comfortable with yourself.