“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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DarkShade

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Hey all, I figured I'd start a field report for new guys who are looking for some pointers. I'm still quite new myself but I am a very quick learner, and would like some feedback as well. I've only decided to really start playing the field in the past few weeks, but I'll keep the reports flowing.

All names have been changed to protect the 'innocent' :whistle:

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Tuesday, November 25th


Myself and a bunch of friends go out to a bar in Dayton, one of which had a black girl with him. There's a reason I mention her. Anyway we head in, .50 cent draft nights so everyone's getting slobbered. I get this great idea while we're getting drinks for a prop: I had taken out an extra dollar from my pocket and didn't need it, so instead of putting it in my pocket I tucked it in my collar so everyone could see it. If anyone asked about it, I'd say "There's a dolla in my colla yo", cracked people up. Got a lot of looks just from that.

We grab some drinks, chill at the somewhat crowded bar, then decide to go for a smoke break on the balcony patio. While we're out there, I'm chillin next to my dude who's with the chick and I give him props for looking out for the 'sistas' because they are some lovely ladies. She's digging this pretty hard and I'm not trying to c0ckblock so I lay off a bit. Everyone starts to head in and I kind of chilling with my back to the balcony fence and "Swing" by Savage comes on, so I start bobbin my head to the beat and this girl with another guy sees me, gives me this huge smile (I still have the dollar in my collar) and runs over and tells me she had to get a picture with me, with the guy she was with as the photographer. We pose, get the picture taken and she introduces herself to me as "Laura", and I do the same. I tell her then with a wink that I definitely need to see that picture on the Internet. She's all bubbly and giggly, pretty cute too. I decide to play it a little cold and head inside at that point to meet up with my friends, because I'm there to have fun, not to chase tail all night.

So I meet up with my buds and have a few more brews over by the dance floor when "Tina", the girl my buddy was with, asks me to dance with her, a.k.a. grind me like a cement mixer. So we start grinding good, she turns around while we're dancing and takes the dollar out of my collar with her TEETH, I'm just lookin' at her like "Dayum that was slick." So we both have a good laugh, song ends, we head back to the bar where I tell my buddy to start dancing with her (not a c0ckblocker, like I said)

...and that's when I make eye contact with a girl cattycorner across the rounded bar, and she greets me with a gigantic smile and looks away, now that I'm noticing her. I look back every once and a while to catch her spyin on me, so I'm nodding my head towards the dance floor in a gesture like "Let's dance", but she's surrounded by guys, maybe one of them was her man, and she's acting all shy and shaking her head no. I just shrug and have another beer.

I'm pretty tipsy at this point so I'm going back and forth dancing around the dance floor going from girl to girl and I see the girl at the bar is still looking at me. I give her the 'come hither' finger gesture and she still won't come out, big shy grin and looking away. Finally after someone moved out of the way she walks towards me when I was done dancing and we introduce ourselves. Apparently she's a school teacher (that's what I'm studying to be as well) so we kind of hit it off. I gave her some guff for not dancing with me and I can't remember her excuse but it was weak. I said nice to meet you and left it at that.

So we head back home around 2:30am and my friend drops myself, my buddy and Tina at our cars so we can go the rest of the way on our own. I give daps to my friend and Tina gives me a giant hug and tells me that "I'm awesome", so we part well and it was a great night. I go home alone but it doesn't matter, I can't remember another TUESDAY night where I had so much fun doing random sh!t.
 

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Saturday, November 29th

Went to the same bar, absolutely nothing went on. I think it's interesting how some places have 55/45 ratios of women to men in population in a certain demograph and yet there never seems to be a shortage of sausage hanging around bars and only a few quality ladies.
 

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Monday, December 1st

My first class was canceled this morning at 8am, so I walked over to near my next class and sat at a table in the hall with my laptop and browsed the internet for a while. One of my classmates, "Chanel", comes in and greets me. She's kind of cute, a little on the chunky side but nothing that can't be solved. She asks to read the newspaper I brought and I obliged, and we started talking about sports. She's a big football fan so we pretty much talk about football till the next class was ready. We head in, I'm flirting and goofing off with "Lisa" who sits next to me, who used to go to school with me in elementary school. It's too bad she's already hooked up and has a kid because she's simply gorgeous, nice slender build, about 5'6" with a great smile and sense of humor. But I digress....

Class ends and Chanel and I walk out of the building doing some casual chatting, and I ask her what she's doing right now. She replies she's going on lunch, and so am I, how about that? I ask if I can tag along and so we head up to a Panera Bread and have good conversation and lunch. She's a local girl (I go to a university so I always like to ask where they are from) so we have several similar interests and dislikes. We seem to have a good mental chemistry but not much sexual tension, but I'm still new at this 'socially adeptness' so you'll have to forgive me for not escalating immediately. :p We part ways when our next classes are about to begin and we exchange phone numbers so we can hang out again.

Later that same night I'm coming home from a friends house when I text her to remind her to 'do her homework' from our class, and we text back and forth about random stuff:
Code:
Me:   Remember to do your homework
Chanel:   We had homework?
Me:   Yes we had to read "Book XYZ" by "Jimbo"
Chanel:   Oh the reading lol
Me:   Hehe
Chanel:  thanks
Me:   No prob babe
Chanel:   So what are you up to tonight?
Me:   Heading home from friends house, then chilling, you?
Chanel:   Just chillin too could be reading but who does that?  thanks for the company this morning it was fun
Me:   Yeah I had good fun.  You have class tomorrow?
Chanel:   Only from 12 to 3:40 you?
Me:   Nope no class.  We could hang for a bit if you are up to it
Chanel:   Yeah sounds good before or after my classes?  im cool with either
Me:   Either or.  I got nothin on the agenda on Tuesdays generally
Chanel:   Ok you like coffee?  we could get coffee in the morning if you want to
Me:   Not much of a coffee guy but I can drink cappuccino :P
Chanel:   Well we dont have to do coffee we could go somewhere and contemplate life and talk about platos philosophy
Me:   It's all good we'll figure something out.  How late are you staying up tonight?
Chanel:   I don't usually go to sleep til at least 1
Me:   Well did you want to hang out?  I don't mean to impose, I just got nothin to do for a few hours :P
Chanel:  I totally would but my "friend" jenny borrowed my car she said she would be back by 10 but it's ****ing 11:30 if she was back I would
Then after that was some nonsensical texting, finally I ask her to just call me since that's what phones are supposed to do, and we chat on there for a bit. Still not a lot of sexual tension, though I think that may be because she's rather young (18) and inexperienced. Tomorrow I go meet up with her and then maybe we'll discuss Plato's philosophy on top of black satin sheets. :D
 

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Not really a field report, but I found out my store manager has the hots for me and I'm heading out Friday to have a drink with her. Woo a cougar! :D
 

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Friday, December 5th

I obtained two phone numbers today, "Lisa", from my above post, gave me her phone number because the semester is coming to an end and she wants to keep in touch, so I call her number so she has it. 20 minutes later I'm in the library waiting for my next class in poli sci and I get a call from her boyfriend, who sounds rather furious. I explained that we were in a group for a project and needed to keep in touch, and he layed off. I get a call from Lisa a few minutes later and she apologizes to me that her boyfriend is insanely jealous about anyone talking to her, and I told her that to be on the safe side that she should call me instead of me calling her, and she agreed. I don't want to be "Captain Save-a-ho" so I will play this one cool.

Later after my poli sci class, I'm heading back to my car and conversing with one of my classmates, a girl about my height, somewhat athletic, HB6-7 or so, about the class in general. She's a sophomore and sounds rather intelligent, so as I approach my car I ask her what she's doing this weekend. She's busy this weekend but after break she said she'll be less busy, and I ask for the digits. She immediately whips the phone out and calls me from it, so I tell her I'll chat with her later and save her number. Unfortunately I forget her name, so she's 'poli sci girl' in my phone. :whistle:

After work, a very feminine yet lesbian coworker, "Jeanette" needed a ride home 30 minutes after my shift, so I drive home and got dressed up for a night at the bar with my boss (from above post) and some other coworkers. I come pick her up and she tells me that I'm looking very very nice, she likes my car apparently, so I drive her home. She doesn't believe in being bisexual but I know she has the hots for me.

Later, I get a text message from "Abby", a girl I had a ONS with, that she can't come out tonight because of overtime, and we end up having a text convo about how she's in utter love with a friend of mine and he doesn't return the favor, so I friend zone a bit and tell her I'm there for her as an ear and a shoulder, and that "I still think of her as a worthy girl". Maybe once she realizes logic she'll want to tussle around again.

Finally I get a text from my boss, "Danielle", that they are at the bar and are waiting, so I make my way over there and they are shooting pool. Also there are the day shift workers "Tasha" and "Cindy". We are all getting along, I shark them a bit in pool, even though these ladies are slightly older than me, we still have great fun. Cindy I believe is around my age but Tasha is around 30 and Danielle is 38, and I've made it quite obvious that age is just a number.

Finally, the night wraps up and we're leaving, Cindy and Tasha each drove their cars and Danielle rode with one of them to the bar. She's asking each one who would drive her home as she was close by, and she suggested me, "How about if DarkShade takes me home?". I offer at that point, just to drive her home, no moves from me. She seems hesitant, probably because her two managers are there with her and I'm just a lowly employee :)P), and she asks me for some "honest time" for a few seconds. She explained to me that it probably wasn't a good idea because she had been drinking, and I told her that I understood, I didn't want her to think I was taking advantage of her. She responds that it had nothing to do with taking advantage, but if it had something to do with it, that she would be taking advantage of me(!). For a little honest time myself, I told her I can keep a secret and outside of work, we are just two people and private matters are just that, private. The mood pretty much boiled down to, "not on the first date" type idea, so I suggested that next time we head to a bar of MY choosing, and she agreed.

On my way back home, I texted her thanking her for inviting me out:

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Me:  Thanks for the invite tonight
Danielle:  im glad you showed.  ur funny
Me:  I'm just good at enjoying what life has to offer :)
Danielle:  and that would b?
Me:  Anything that I am determined enough to chase
Danielle:  what r u chasing?
Me:  Things that make me laugh..smile..intrigue me.  Or are you looking for a more tangible answer?
Danielle:  and that means what?  ur talking in circles and ive been drinking.  come on be nice
Me:  Haha...sorry.  Guess it isn't easy to bare ones soul in a text msg
Danielle:  that's when its the easiest silly
Me:  I prefer the voice myself
Danielle:  im a coward by nature.  sorry
Me:  I don't believe that.  Fear is a thought, and thoughts are not facts.
Danielle:  fear 4 me is a fact.  remember I have a good 10 years on you.  way 2 many life experiences
Me:  So you learn and move on.  To live in the past entails ignoring the present.  Besides, I may be youngER, but I've been through my fair share
Danielle:  ur past has this way of dictating ur future, even when u dont want it to 2.  fear is real, and sometimes it can be what keeps u sane and "ok" with life
Me:  Fear is both positive and negative, true, but you can't give it that much power.  You have nothing to fear from me, especially my voice
At this point it's about 4am and we both passed out without saying an official 'good night', but I will see her next time I go into work. I look forward to the next time we meet.

I wake up the next morning and I have a text message, from my ex-girlfriend, "Shae", who tore my heart out, but I have become a stronger man because of the situation. We are on talking terms again and I've made it quite clear that I'm not interested in serious relationships anymore. We watched a few movies the other day and have been getting along just fine. The text:

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Shae:  This will sound absolutely retarded.  But for ****s and giggles, would u wanna go on a date sometime?  No idea if it would work out... But like I said.
Me:  I wouldn't mind going out and having some fun, just know beforehand that I don't do the boyfriend thing anymore.
She's been at work all day, so I await the response to this.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Some updates:

Nothing has gone on with Danielle, so I'm gonna play that cold till she calls me.

Poli Sci girl has a boyfriend, but I still have her number :rolleyes:

Chanel challenged me to a game of NCAA Football '09, and the loser pays for dinner. Where should I decide to go? :whistle:

Last night my coworkers Cindy from the previous post and another lesbian, "Brandy", went out to a strip club, but Brandy's photo ID was expired so they turned us away. We ended up coming back to my house and playing Kings and getting pretty sloshed drunk. Cindy seemed kind of worried about Danielle and if she found out that we all got drunk together, if she would have some jealousy issues. I won't think too hard on it, but maybe Cindy wants a lil' lovin' too?

I've been sleeping with Shae again recently, she finally came around to my charm. Here's an excerpt from our AIM chat earlier:

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Shae: I figured we could actually do some stuff tomorrow night... like game it up or something. Watch a movie. Chill. Tonight I would not be any fun.
DarkShade: If you don't wanna come over just say so :-P
Shae: no fool, that's not it
Shae: it just seems silly to only come over to sleep though :-P
Shae: Well, I think I will just stick it out tonight. But, let me know if you wanna hang tomorrow. I get off at 8.
DarkShade: I dont get off till 11 tomorrow
Shae: don't matta to me
DarkShade: whatev
Shae: I dunno why I thought of this ... it's pretty silly
Shae: But I was thinking, not sure how seriously, but thinking... that if we are both single in ... I dunno, 5 years from now? We should go on a date and see how it goes. lol
DarkShade: Maybe maybe
Shae: lol
Shae: I get bored, what can I say.
Shae: Besides, what are the chances of either of us being single in 5 years? ;-)
DarkShade: For me probably pretty high
Shae: Yeah right
DarkShade: I plan on being single
Shae: I think you'll at least be engaged by then
Shae: If you plan on being single you better slow down your game. You are gettin girls hooked.
DarkShade: And?  If you can't hook a girl she's not interested.
Shae: Why do you want them to be interested if you aren't interested in relationships?
Shae: That's kinda effed up. Like Chanel, sounds like she's interested to me.
Shae: Gonna use her and lose her?
DarkShade: No, like I said, I'm friends first
DarkShade: I don't get deeply involved in anyone anymore
Shae: anymore... psh
Shae: like you did before :-P
DarkShade: Well I dunno what I did before, I just know what I'm doing now :-)
DarkShade: If a girl isn't comfortable being around a guy then nothing will ever escalate
Shae: obviously
Shae: who says no one is comfortable around you?
DarkShade: I let them know beforehand like I did you that I don't do the boyfriend thing, and once that's out then we can move on
DarkShade: Otherwise we stay just friends
Shae: Well I will say, I totally agree ... I'm not looking for that either, but at least let me know if you are sleeping with someone else to so I can make an informed decision
Shae: about sleeping with you, that is ... not being your friend :-P
DarkShade: I know, and I will
Shae: I will say
Shae: I know that if you did some of the things you've done with me, with other girls, they'd take it the wrong way
DarkShade: What do you mean
Shae: You were awfully kissy in the middle of the night last time I stayed. Heck I dunno. You almost make it impossible for someone to not want more
Shae: Not saying I do :-) But simply stating
DarkShade: I guess that's another way I 'hook'... 
Shae: well... I don't know why you want to do that though
Shae: so that they end up wanting you more than you want them??
DarkShade: If I didn't want to do it I wouldnt do it
Shae: you boys are so mean jeez
Shae: No, I mean, so that they end up wanting something more than you want from them
DarkShade: I'm just a friend who can make you comfortable enough to sleep with me and not feel guilty about it
DarkShade: I make it obvious up front that I dont do that anymore
Shae: ok.. ok... I'm just saying I almost feel bad for Chanel. I don't know why you don't just actually date her and give her a shot
Shae: I don't know her at all, but it just seems like she's trying to impress you and such
DarkShade: Mostly because I don't date anymore :-P
Shae: Hah. I've heard that one before
DarkShade: She's not my type for dating, I haven't actually considered sleeping with her fyi
DarkShade: I consider her just a friend
Shae: I see
Shae: Oh well
DarkShade: ?
Shae: anyway
Shae: what's the '?' for?
DarkShade: Just wondering what you were getting at
Shae: It's just almost a shame
DarkShade: I don't see it that way I guess
Shae: You seem like perfect boyfriend material NOW
Shae: And you are wasting it
DarkShade: My method is what makes me seem that way
Shae: Lordy. You are a dork.
DarkShade: How else would I attract girls?  By seeming like someone who would make a terrible boyfriend?
Shae: No
Shae: You just act like a cool, fun guy to hang out with and leave out the boyfriend material all together
Shae: you don't want to come off as Mr. Perfect
Shae: if you don't want to be him to some girl
DarkShade: Yes that's exactly how I want myself portrayed
DarkShade: I'm not saying I may never date again but not now
Shae: At least you give me hope that guys can change and maybe there are some born-again good guys out there!
DarkShade: Make sure you don't mix up 'good guys' and 'nice guys', I used to be the 'nice guy'
DarkShade: It made me miserable
Shae: well, exactly
DarkShade: Now I'm looking out for my self interest which also happens to interest other people in me
Shae: so wait wait
Shae: I never made you be the 'nice guy' and you sure didn't seem to do anything you didn't want to with me
DarkShade: No I was the nice guy before we met
Shae: you are doing now all that I wanted you to do then
Shae: being more open minded and getting out and enjoying yourself
DarkShade: Right
Shae: and I'm the person I should've been before we met, had I not been wallowing in self pity and whatever
Shae: Funny how our break up seemed to help us both in the end. :-)
DarkShade: Yeah I think we are both better people now
Shae: Yep
Shae: My attitude has changed. I take things  less seriously, am also a little more open minded. Very rarely am I negative or angry or sad. I'm still shy, but not half as shy as before. I find I don't give a **** anymore. People will feel however they want to feel and think whatever they want to think.  You can't control that, and you shouldn't have to try.
DarkShade: Yup
DarkShade: Why let other exterior forces change how you feel, only you should be doing that
Shae: indiddles 
Shae: and more importantly, don't waste your time on people if you think you'd need to change
Shae: you shouldn't want to change someone 
DarkShade: Or don't waste your time on people who aren't worth your time to begin with
Shae: ahah! now you are onto something
Some positive reinforcement from my FB!
 
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