hey is it bad form if the bill comes and the waiter asks who should pay and she offers... to let her pay... cause apparently i got dinged because of that... there were 4 of us altogether.. and i already made the effort to fly over to see her... i did do the asking out though... lol..

thanks

Atldude said:

hey is it bad form if the bill comes and the waiter asks who should pay and she offers... to let her pay... cause apparently i got dinged because of that... there were 4 of us altogether.. and i already made the effort to fly over to see her... i did do the asking out though... lol..

thanks

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Okay screw the bill but you flew over to see a chick ??? You wasted hard earned cash to go see tits and a$$ for a date, cant you find a chick in your own city ?

I just find that stupid actually and also the last time I had a "date" was around 2 years ago cause the whole go eat and talk crap bores the sh!t out of me.

Always pay for the date/dinner - NO exceptions

But remember this - you should always be the one asking her out AND planning the date anyways

So you should never be shocked by the cost of the dinner since you obviously already took that into account when you chose the place

Remember the words of the legendary poster Pook - the girl is in YOUR world now - and chosing the restaurant and paying for it solidifes that

NOTE - you don't have to take her to an expensive restaurant - your goal is not to please her, but to please YOURSELF and have fun. I've done cheap, simple dates that ended up with simple dinners (~ $20 at a Thai restaurant) - but I've also planned dates that were a bit more 'upscale' - where I dropped $150 - try Hot Chocolate in Chicago

Open question to all - do you actually like it when a girl offers to pay?

I actually hate it when a girl offers to pay.

The girls I like and take out are always the hyper-feminine, super passive, dependent spoiled types - they just expect you to pay.

Eh, it depends on the situation.

If she offers to pay, I don't see a problem. But don't think buying dinner is going to get her into the sack.

She made that decision long before you two met up.

Trader, you sound like you need some Leykis. $150? Are you nuts?

Hm well u asked her out so yeh u pay for date, but if she says no and offers to pay it herself let her. With any girl i have dated i wud usually pay first even if they offered then next time she usually buys me something or pays for something and i accept then a continuous cycle of that again and again. If my date was to always make me pay i wud ditch them, but thats just me. Go to pay and watch what she does and decide on ur own what actions to take.

From a cultural standpoint, society assumes that the man will pay for at least the first couple dates.

While that trend has changed slightly over the past couple decades (women lib, etc) - many still hold the opinion that the guy needs to grab the check.

It appears that your date was one of the ones whom felt that it was your responsibility.

Good Luck,
Relationship-Buddy

Rhoto said:

Eh, it depends on the situation.

If she offers to pay, I don't see a problem. But don't think buying dinner is going to get her into the sack.

She made that decision long before you two met up.

Trader, you sound like you need some Leykis. $150? Are you nuts?

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Ha - I agree that taking her out for an expensive dinner does nothing to help you have sex with her.

But sex is not my goal. My goal is to have fun. Sometimes I just want to take my girl to a high class place and relax.

But if the girl started to demand that I take her to a high class restaurant - I would NEXT her in a heartbeat. I call the shots - I decide whether the date is simple, or a bit more up-scale.

BTW - Leykis is the man