Hi --

So based on some previous posts I created here in the last 2 months, you'll find that I've got out of a 2 yr relationship. While I have been looking for someone else, I have been very happy with myself recently.

So... My buddy hooks me up on a blind date. I said what the heck lets give it a shot. Well -- I met her last night and she seems like a nice girl and very cute. I got a few good signs from her like her asking me to take a sip of her drink (is that even a good sign?). Anyway, considering I've been out of the game for so long, I need some advice on how to handle a new girl after not dating for a good while. Links? Threads? any quick great tips would be great.

Thnx.

Brush up on the DJ bible and browse the forum. I don't mean to be patronizing, but if you feel lost in the game, you should take it and yourself seriously and invest some time in getting up to par again by reading through insightful, supportive and stimulating material. And practice of course. Think of this "first" date as re-orienting yourself.

As for quick tips, I think the only one I feel I can offer you right now is to proceed without being attached to a positive outcome (meaning: getting her). Nothing kills attraction as fast as wanting something from someone and having it written all over your face and body. Neediness, in other words.

Be detached. Centered in your universe. She can come in and admire the furniture. That's what it ultimately means to be yourself.

If you lose her, then it's not meant to be. Simple as that.

Good luck!

I once screwed up the "take a sip" IOI - and she was ridiculously hot too. I rationalized the encounter later and was happy I was even talking to her for as long as I was without saying something really stupid, stuttering, or being really needy.

It wasn't obvious to me at the time, but simply put, why would a girl who doesn't like a guy have his mouth on her drink? She wouldn't.

This time around, take your time and not settle with a girl until have dated multiple girls and she is the best pick of the litter. Even when you are in a relationship down the line, make sure you still brush up on your dj skills.