I started using this site while I was in college to help me improve my skills with women and people in general. That was 5 years ago.

After sharpening my skill, I eventually snagged a terrific woman and had a serious relationship with her for about 3 years (almost married her). Now that relationship is over and I'm looking to get back into the game.

But so much has changed. I'm older, chubbier, and in a new city. I used to prefer dating women 5-10 years older than me, but now I'm looking for a younger woman.

I know other men on here have gone through similar experiences. Any thoughts/Tips? I used to go to bars every weekend in search for prey (and was very successful), but I may have gotten rusty after having a reliable source of sex for 3 years.

I have a date this weekend with a younger woman. Do I just pick up where I left off?

Wow.. I just posted something very similiar haha.

Just pick up were you left off. It's like riding a bike - you don't forget how to ride. Just beware of being too needy - they smell that a mile away.

I agree, Ballie, one of the easiest mistakes to make when coming out of a relationship is acting like you are in a relationship.......

Be mysterious, funny, and keep your distance emotionally.....you'll be fine. Just remember that girls like a challenge. Its not that they are thinking about all this, its a natural thing.

you want the honest truth. just treat them badly, if you get back into a relationship, dump the girl at least once. you have to let them know you have all the power.

act like you don't give a hoot about them, develop your own passions and hobbies and you'll be good to go. be passionate about your work, education, life, etc. you don't NEED a woman.

i'm trying to get myself to this state of mind.

I been through the same thing several times. including right now

get back to working on yourself - body, mind and soul, and get out there. don't beat yourself up if your not in the 'game' from the get go - may take some time to develope that killer instinct again.