This is kind of an update from an earlier thread I posted. I met this chick thru a mutual friend, kinda like a blind date thing. Anyhow that was about 2 or 3 weeks ago and we have continued to stay in touch thru phone conversations and small texting. I have kinda hinted around a couple of times that we need to go have some drinks one night again and even flat out and asked her one night but she had her kid, who is 13. This is the deal tho, I kinda have been standing off from this chick because I'm really not interested in a GF right now and she didn't really seem interested. But the thing is SHE is the one that always calls ME all the time! And she fricken talks forever!! She seems pretty cool but I don't understand what her intentions are. She called me last night again and i finally just asked her if she had plans for this weekend to see if she wanted to do something but she said she would have to let me know because she didn't know if the kids dad was going to watch him or not.

Any insight?

I know what you are saying. Sometime there is no clear green light. I admire you for asking her out. She can't keep making excuses for her 13 year old all the time if she's interested. Watch out for friendship zone!

It sounds like she doesn't have any friends or anyone else to simply conversate with. It definitely seems like she just wants friendship and nothing further if she keeps putting off going out with you.

this is not looking good. seems like if she was attracted she would find a way to make some time for you. but you do provide a SERVICE to her as a kind of girlfriend. A mistake we often make is spending Far too much time talking to women on the phone in the hopes that she will see how nice and understanding we are. She is using you as a sounding board with emphasis on Using. You need to be clear with her that you want more and get a direct answer. Be proactive not reactive. If she is not interested she gets no more phone time with you. Even if she is, you need to cut way back on your phone time with her. Remember that if you believe you are the prize you need to get "paid" for the time you tolerate her yapping.

single mom and playign around.

ask directly ...I think that we have a connection, would you like to find out over few drinks..?

Then you know if she is interested..Sometime you have to be direct and not wasting your time

persistent exaction said:

this is not looking good. seems like if she was attracted she would find a way to make some time for you. but you do provide a SERVICE to her as a kind of girlfriend. A mistake we often make is spending Far too much time talking to women on the phone in the hopes that she will see how nice and understanding we are. She is using you as a sounding board with emphasis on Using. You need to be clear with her that you want more and get a direct answer. Be proactive not reactive. If she is not interested she gets no more phone time with you. Even if she is, you need to cut way back on your phone time with her. Remember that if you believe you are the prize you need to get "paid" for the time you tolerate her yapping.

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Yeah, thats what i was thinking as well. I think she just likes to talk. And I try to shorten the conversation like I did last night but I don't wanna be too rude. I feel like all this crap we're talking about on the phone could be done sitting next to each other in a bar! If she makes an excuse this weekend I'm gonna bail on her.