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Don Juan
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So you've approached her, you've got the number and even had a few dates. You've screened her and she seems reasonably normal. The IL is quite high and building but you want to get it to the next stage, the worshipping the ground you walk on, gooey eyes, you can do no wrong stage. If you're the world's greatest DJ you may get that already, but sometimes things need a little nudge. How?
Basically you've got to mix up things up a bit. Think of a DJ as being somewhere on the spectrum of behaviour between Bad Boy and Nice Guy. By taking the qualities that women desire from both of these, you fill all the roles she wants you to fill and hence become by far the best option around.
However, even if this is completely genuine, she will often be suspicious of this 'perfect' guy, or even feel underqualified to be with him. The way to combat this and really get her hooked is not to have all these qualities at once, but to oscillate between the Bad Boy and Nice Guy parts. Ever heard a woman who's dating a real scumbag say stuff like 'he's so different when its just us' or 'there's a side to him you just don't see' or other such crap? Basically he's a complete cvnt most of the time but acts like the Nice Guy just enough to make her think there's this whole other side to him, if only she could know him well enough to uncover it blah blah. It's the James Dean/troubled rebel fantasy. It drives them crazy, and is a good way to get them to fall for you hook, line and sinker. You give them just enough to build their fantasy of rescuing you from yourself.
Some notes on this:
*You need a reasonably high IL for this to work - this is for taking that IL to the next stage, not creating it from scratch
*Don't be too much of a cvnt - you don't need to become a crack dealer or woman beater here, just stuff like changing arrangements to suit you, busting on her and not putting up with anything you don't want. Basically its on your term 110% and she doesn't get a say in it when it's Bad Boy time. Nothing goes against what Big Daddy says - its not even an option. This also sets an excellent frame for a future LTR
*The amount of Bad Boy behaviour should outweigh the amount of Nice Guy behaviour. This is NOT a 50/50 split. Go with your gut, read her and use some common sense. You will need to be well calibrated with women to do this well. It can be Russian roulette otherwise. Break her down then when you think she's really in need of some TLC, then give her a little
*This doesn't go on forever. She needs to feel a little more secure as time goes on. Again, you need to read when the time is right for this and gradually start to find the DJ balance at all times. This is not an invitation to become boring, you need to continue to be unpredictable in some areas but you settle in the right place in terms of your attitude towards her on the spectrum between Bad Boy and Nice Guy
*Having reread the above this is probably one for the more advanced players out there. Some noobs may not have the calibration or congruence to pull this off. Absolute congruence is the key to pulling this off without coming across as a total w@nker
This is something I've often done naturally and it works a treat for me. Only realised I was doing it lately so thought I'd share.
Basically you've got to mix up things up a bit. Think of a DJ as being somewhere on the spectrum of behaviour between Bad Boy and Nice Guy. By taking the qualities that women desire from both of these, you fill all the roles she wants you to fill and hence become by far the best option around.
However, even if this is completely genuine, she will often be suspicious of this 'perfect' guy, or even feel underqualified to be with him. The way to combat this and really get her hooked is not to have all these qualities at once, but to oscillate between the Bad Boy and Nice Guy parts. Ever heard a woman who's dating a real scumbag say stuff like 'he's so different when its just us' or 'there's a side to him you just don't see' or other such crap? Basically he's a complete cvnt most of the time but acts like the Nice Guy just enough to make her think there's this whole other side to him, if only she could know him well enough to uncover it blah blah. It's the James Dean/troubled rebel fantasy. It drives them crazy, and is a good way to get them to fall for you hook, line and sinker. You give them just enough to build their fantasy of rescuing you from yourself.
Some notes on this:
*You need a reasonably high IL for this to work - this is for taking that IL to the next stage, not creating it from scratch
*Don't be too much of a cvnt - you don't need to become a crack dealer or woman beater here, just stuff like changing arrangements to suit you, busting on her and not putting up with anything you don't want. Basically its on your term 110% and she doesn't get a say in it when it's Bad Boy time. Nothing goes against what Big Daddy says - its not even an option. This also sets an excellent frame for a future LTR
*The amount of Bad Boy behaviour should outweigh the amount of Nice Guy behaviour. This is NOT a 50/50 split. Go with your gut, read her and use some common sense. You will need to be well calibrated with women to do this well. It can be Russian roulette otherwise. Break her down then when you think she's really in need of some TLC, then give her a little
*This doesn't go on forever. She needs to feel a little more secure as time goes on. Again, you need to read when the time is right for this and gradually start to find the DJ balance at all times. This is not an invitation to become boring, you need to continue to be unpredictable in some areas but you settle in the right place in terms of your attitude towards her on the spectrum between Bad Boy and Nice Guy
*Having reread the above this is probably one for the more advanced players out there. Some noobs may not have the calibration or congruence to pull this off. Absolute congruence is the key to pulling this off without coming across as a total w@nker
This is something I've often done naturally and it works a treat for me. Only realised I was doing it lately so thought I'd share.
