I had a breakup about 1-2 months ago which ended in me cutting all contact. It was partially a last ditch effort to salvage the relationship but it didn't work out.

Now I hear that this girl is spreading rumors about me being a bad person to everone in an organization in which I am running for office for.

What is the best strategy to calm her down? I don't know if I'll be able to stand being an AFC and apologizing for things that weren't my fault.

Don't apologize for anything.

Simply explain to people that your ex is bitter and on a smearing campaign and then say no more.

The more worked up you get over things and apologetic moronic people then begin to think you are at fault.

Don't let this be the case.

Explain the situation to people as needed and laugh it off and say no more about it.

Don't let people question you farther, grill you, interrogate you or whatever.

Say your piece and if they insist on more juicy gossip explain to them that there really is nothing more to say.

Oh and if your question was how do you apologize to her...

Dude she can go to hell.

Anything you say to her now will just make it worse.

Fvck her.

Yep, if it's just a case of a social circle type thing, I would just ignore it, and address it as it comes up. The more dwell on it or mention to others, the more it will serve to validate her claims, and that you are concerned about her comments.

Just be dismissive, and she will get bored, and probably make herself look really bad in the process. It's highly likely that this is not her first time engaging in this type of behavior, and even her closest friends take what she says with a certain grain of salt.

The situation is strange guys. She is a VERY influential figure in this organization. The worst thing that could happen is losing in a race because of this. I have other **** on my plate and am thinking about just dropping out and focussing on it.

I hate even entertaining responses about these allegations.

Also for the record, my clout much supersedes hers. But she is big enough to make a lot of trouble and accentuate criticisms that others have had of me recently.

Sadly, this is why I always make sure that I have some leverage in case something happens. For example, my ex deals pot. Therefore, if he ever started some similar crap with me, I could rat him out. He knows this very well. Another time, I was being hounded by a guy whose student visa expired. I told him that if he didn't f*ck off, I'd report him to immigration. I'd only use these trump cards in desperate situations, but having some kind of leverage has saved my butt several times. Don't ever come off as threatening when stating that you have this knowledge, especially with an AW who will use anything to play the victim.

You're going to have to confront her, but I can't guarantee good results. She might get some perspective and realize that she's being unfair, but she also might get satisfaction knowing that she's hurting you and keep doing it. Explain the consequences of her actions, and how she's mixing personal with work life. Point out that you've had the decency not to pull a smear campaign, and offer her the chance to tell you her feelings right then and there so you can get it out. You may have to suck it up and apologize for things that you didn't do, but this is your public image at stake.

Oh, for future relationships, "Don't meet your honey where you make your money." In other words, "Don't sh*t where you eat."