Being_the_Don
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For the guys who complain about not being very attractive there just might be hope for you. According to some reasearchers attractive women might actually benefit from marriage to less attractive guys. The theory is that the women are looking for supportive husbands. There could be a sliver of accuracy in this in that less attractive guys have self esteem issues centering around body image so they will be more likely to overcompensate for it by being overly attentive to women. What I mean by that is it comes down to pedestaling, guys who don't think much of their chances with women will do everything for a woman who graces them with her attention. So that is what will be the underlying factor for why she will marry a less attractive guy. He will take care of her financially and do whatever she tells him to do (in other words be less assertive which is a classic beta male trait). What does that mean for us attractive guys? Well according to the article attractive guys are less supporting (emotionally) of their wives. I don't quite agree with that, not everyone is vain, people who are physically attractive can be and are warm and supportive. As a matter of fact going strictly by the "halo effect" physically attractive people are regarded as more kind, gentle, sexually warm, etc. than average looking or less attractive people. This can be borne out in the adjectives that women use to describe you. If they find you physically attractive and get to know you a little bit they will talk about how gentle your eyes look or your smile, etc.
The bottom line is that guys with low self esteem whether they be physically attractive or not so attractive will oversompensate when they get together with an attractive women. In the long run she will not like it, she might stay with him but not really be with him. And for attractive guys it is important to be attentive to women and not come across as arrogant or condescending. Sometimes it can be funny if a woman calls you arrogant but if you think about it, maybe it's a warning to tone things down a bit and be a little more attentive to her. A good example of that is Han Solo. He didn't let Leia's insults phase him, he told her like it was. He let her know how he felt about her but he was also attentive. That's the way to be.
Anway, here's the article.
Why Beautiful Women Marry Less Attractive Men
http://news.yahoo.com/s/livescience/20080410/sc_livescience/whybeautifulwomenmarrylessattractivemen
The bottom line is that guys with low self esteem whether they be physically attractive or not so attractive will oversompensate when they get together with an attractive women. In the long run she will not like it, she might stay with him but not really be with him. And for attractive guys it is important to be attentive to women and not come across as arrogant or condescending. Sometimes it can be funny if a woman calls you arrogant but if you think about it, maybe it's a warning to tone things down a bit and be a little more attentive to her. A good example of that is Han Solo. He didn't let Leia's insults phase him, he told her like it was. He let her know how he felt about her but he was also attentive. That's the way to be.
Anway, here's the article.
Why Beautiful Women Marry Less Attractive Men
http://news.yahoo.com/s/livescience/20080410/sc_livescience/whybeautifulwomenmarrylessattractivemen
