I want to share with you guys some of the real life situations I' ve encountered in the past few years that show how a girl's manipulative power coupled with a guy's fear of loosing her can transform a man into a wuss. The thing is, this can happen to a lot of guys, even DJs and naturals can be broken down over time if they don't keep their guard up.
I ve been thinking about starting this thread for quite a while now, for mainly two reasons: vent off some frustration and educate those who believe they have found the one (but it s really their first girlfriend), who think they are in control of their relationship (but everyone knows they re pvssy whipped as fvck), etc...
your responses, thoughts are much appreciated!
We are moving too fast...
Might as well start with my own AFC story. To sum things up, before I was in the community i was doing pretty well on my own and most of the girls I knew viewed me as a player, even though I ll have to admit I wasn't one.
I don't wanna go through the entire history of my last LTR, but basically it was a 1 year thing were both of us lived in the same city (pretty much lived together, saw each other all the time) until the end of school. That s when the relationship became long distance and where everything went south. We lived about 4 hours away from each other and I was willing to go to great lengths to see my then gf. However, having returned home to her old friends (among them some ex boyfriends/fvck buddies), my girl didn't seem so eager to see me.
We saw each other 3 times over a 1 month and a half period and before the second time she called me, telling me how she felt we had moved too fast, that she wasn't sure it was the right time for her to be in a relationship. Like I said, at this point we had been "official" for almost a year! I was shocked. However, I was also ready to do anything to keep her. When we got together, with hindsight i realize she wanted to break it off with me, however i begged her and supplicated and basically pulled the worst AFC moves just to not break up with her.
She was getting ready to go to a trip to Europe with one of her slutty friends in 2 months time and she outright told me that she wanted to "have fun" (she denied wanting to hook up with random guys when i brought it up). So i said let s stay together until you leave, and then we ll see, which she agreed to.
however, i started to realize that some old booty calls and/or ex boyfriends kept calling her, which she had never mentioned to me. Like I said, this was many months into the relationship so I was very distressed by it. When i confronted her she kept coming up with excuses, how these guys just wouldn't stop calling her even though she told them she had a bf, bla bla bla.
After this, i saw her one more time, hang out with her in her home town. I was really happy to see her, same for her and things seemed to become better. that night my phone ran out of battery, so i asked to borrow hers and stepped outside the bar to make a phone call. Now I m generally not the supsicious/spying type of guy, but i couldn't help check her call history. Oh boy! There were at least 3-4 guys that i knew she had been seeing, including her ex who she told me she hadn't talked to in 2 years!
Yet again, i sucked it up and didn't break it with her. But my mind was slowly getting made up. I guess the last straw was when she canceled a planned visit to see me without even a 24 hour notice. Her reason: some friend of hers was moving out and she was throwing a farewell party... this seemed very bogus to me because this was happening on a week day and her friend wasn't leaving until the week-end. When I protested, she turned it right back around, getting pissed at me for trying to be too controlling.
To me this seemed very disrespectful, and, after thinking about it for the whole day, i called her up in the evening and told her it was over.
so, i don't know if she cheated on me (haven't returned 1 call/text in 6 months and she still tries to reach me) but my trust in her was def broken and i managed to find the strength to cut it off on my own. I only discovered the community after that.
i ll write about some other stories soon, let me know what you think!
I ve been thinking about starting this thread for quite a while now, for mainly two reasons: vent off some frustration and educate those who believe they have found the one (but it s really their first girlfriend), who think they are in control of their relationship (but everyone knows they re pvssy whipped as fvck), etc...
your responses, thoughts are much appreciated!
We are moving too fast...
Might as well start with my own AFC story. To sum things up, before I was in the community i was doing pretty well on my own and most of the girls I knew viewed me as a player, even though I ll have to admit I wasn't one.
I don't wanna go through the entire history of my last LTR, but basically it was a 1 year thing were both of us lived in the same city (pretty much lived together, saw each other all the time) until the end of school. That s when the relationship became long distance and where everything went south. We lived about 4 hours away from each other and I was willing to go to great lengths to see my then gf. However, having returned home to her old friends (among them some ex boyfriends/fvck buddies), my girl didn't seem so eager to see me.
We saw each other 3 times over a 1 month and a half period and before the second time she called me, telling me how she felt we had moved too fast, that she wasn't sure it was the right time for her to be in a relationship. Like I said, at this point we had been "official" for almost a year! I was shocked. However, I was also ready to do anything to keep her. When we got together, with hindsight i realize she wanted to break it off with me, however i begged her and supplicated and basically pulled the worst AFC moves just to not break up with her.
She was getting ready to go to a trip to Europe with one of her slutty friends in 2 months time and she outright told me that she wanted to "have fun" (she denied wanting to hook up with random guys when i brought it up). So i said let s stay together until you leave, and then we ll see, which she agreed to.
however, i started to realize that some old booty calls and/or ex boyfriends kept calling her, which she had never mentioned to me. Like I said, this was many months into the relationship so I was very distressed by it. When i confronted her she kept coming up with excuses, how these guys just wouldn't stop calling her even though she told them she had a bf, bla bla bla.
After this, i saw her one more time, hang out with her in her home town. I was really happy to see her, same for her and things seemed to become better. that night my phone ran out of battery, so i asked to borrow hers and stepped outside the bar to make a phone call. Now I m generally not the supsicious/spying type of guy, but i couldn't help check her call history. Oh boy! There were at least 3-4 guys that i knew she had been seeing, including her ex who she told me she hadn't talked to in 2 years!
Yet again, i sucked it up and didn't break it with her. But my mind was slowly getting made up. I guess the last straw was when she canceled a planned visit to see me without even a 24 hour notice. Her reason: some friend of hers was moving out and she was throwing a farewell party... this seemed very bogus to me because this was happening on a week day and her friend wasn't leaving until the week-end. When I protested, she turned it right back around, getting pissed at me for trying to be too controlling.
To me this seemed very disrespectful, and, after thinking about it for the whole day, i called her up in the evening and told her it was over.
so, i don't know if she cheated on me (haven't returned 1 call/text in 6 months and she still tries to reach me) but my trust in her was def broken and i managed to find the strength to cut it off on my own. I only discovered the community after that.
i ll write about some other stories soon, let me know what you think!
