Well I called one of the girls I got the number of recently and basically I called and was like "Hey, what's up" and she's like "Sorry, there's someone else on the line, I'll have to call you back". So right now I'm thinking she's a flake and I said next her. How do I know when I call her AGAIN she won't make another BS excuse, or she just blocks the number? I think the girls a flake and I should next her. I don't think after today me and this girl are really going anywhere, because when you call and she flakes, you know it's over. Basically, I want your input, flake or no flake? Should I call her again tommorow?
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Thinks she's a flake, should I next her?
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slitherjef
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Maybe there was actualy some one on the other line? Personaly, I would wait a few days, or if you run into her again, chat her up a little bit, you know the usual, "how you doing" sorta chat for a couple min then ask her out on the spot, maybe for something a bit later on in the week. If she shoots you down, wait a while then try again. And if she still does it, next her, but this is me talking so
good luck and I normaly don't respond to your post but since I am doing so right now, I thought I would give you props on being a ballsy guy on approching because honestly a lot of us can't do that, at least to the extent (volume) you have been doing. While we are on the subject, and please, don't take this the wrong way, just as constructive critisism, some of your field reports do seem a bit forced and creepy like you are trying too hard. Other then that, like I said, at least you have balls to make an approch and don't seem like you give a rip what other people think. Thats good.
Maybe try that chick later in the week. If she says something like that again, just forget about her
good luck and I normaly don't respond to your post but since I am doing so right now, I thought I would give you props on being a ballsy guy on approching because honestly a lot of us can't do that, at least to the extent (volume) you have been doing. While we are on the subject, and please, don't take this the wrong way, just as constructive critisism, some of your field reports do seem a bit forced and creepy like you are trying too hard. Other then that, like I said, at least you have balls to make an approch and don't seem like you give a rip what other people think. Thats good.
Maybe try that chick later in the week. If she says something like that again, just forget about her
Yeah, maybe. But knowing woman, it's not likely she was telling the truth because generally girls don't want to be mean and say "F*ck off" so they make excuses, some which are rather dumb. Seriously though, I've heard so many excuses in my several approaches, I wouldn't trust she was telling the truth.slitherjef said:Maybe there was actualy some one on the other line? Personaly, I would wait a few days, or if you run into her again, chat her up a little bit, you know the usual, "how you doing" sorta chat for a couple min then ask her out on the spot, maybe for something a bit later on in the week. If she shoots you down, wait a while then try again. And if she still does it, next her, but this is me talking so
good luck and I normaly don't respond to your post but since I am doing so right now, I thought I would give you props on being a ballsy guy on approching because honestly a lot of us can't do that, at least to the extent (volume) you have been doing. While we are on the subject, and please, don't take this the wrong way, just as constructive critisism, some of your field reports do seem a bit forced and creepy like you are trying too hard. Other then that, like I said, at least you have balls to make an approch and don't seem like you give a rip what other people think. Thats good.
Maybe try that chick later in the week. If she says something like that again, just forget about her
ElStud said:Yeah, maybe. But knowing woman, it's not likely she was telling the truth because generally girls don't want to be mean and say "F*ck off" so they make excuses, some which are rather dumb. Seriously though, I've heard so many excuses in my several approaches, I wouldn't trust she was telling the truth.
this is some good insight for someone at your level of experience and im being honest...most people will make excuses for the person they are after so that they can continue the chase
i wouldn't wait up for her cause she is just another stone in the road to being a dj
Yeah, in the end, it really doesn't mean much. Girl shows interest in meeting up, gives me her REAL number, then tells me "There's someone on the other line" when I call. I'm definitely thinking she's flaking and the "someone on the other line" stuff was BS. Then again, maybe I just have bad phone game(Besides, oh ho ho, wouldn't I have heard if there was someone on the other line?). I judge this girl to be a flake. And if I call her back again tommorow and get some lame excuse... NEXT.
Over analyzing will hurt your game.
Often I get multiple calls... I may be on the phone with someone, I'll jump to the other person say ' Hey You... Hey Girl... Hey Mom... Hey Buddy' whoever it is and tell them I'll call them back.
Try again later, and maybe once next week.... if she gives you an excuse then she's done.
Once is happenstance (Occurs by itself.)
Twice is coincidence (You call at bad times?)
Three times is intentional (she's done.)
Often I get multiple calls... I may be on the phone with someone, I'll jump to the other person say ' Hey You... Hey Girl... Hey Mom... Hey Buddy' whoever it is and tell them I'll call them back.
Try again later, and maybe once next week.... if she gives you an excuse then she's done.
Once is happenstance (Occurs by itself.)
Twice is coincidence (You call at bad times?)
Three times is intentional (she's done.)
I tend to give women the benefit of the doubt, and most of the time they don't disappoint. I strongly believe in the rule of 3.
Just do what you think is right. If the second call you get a really bad vibe, don't call her again she's done. However if she seems frantic, busy, etc... maybe and only if you think so, give her that last chance next week.
Just do what you think is right. If the second call you get a really bad vibe, don't call her again she's done. However if she seems frantic, busy, etc... maybe and only if you think so, give her that last chance next week.
My question is, could I just have bad phone game? I mean, who's to say she even knew it was me, she could've thought it was some random guy. Perhaps instead of just saying "Hey Meghan what's up?" I should of gone "Hey, is this Meghan?" then she'd go "Yeah, who's this?" and I'd say "Mike".
ezily
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Yeah I really think this shouldn't come as a surprise. You talked to this girl about rockband and stuff. That didn't create any attraction. Look rockband is a cool game but you don't talk about it and tell her that you guys need to play together. That's both really lame and really nerdy. Playing at a party or with friends is different than trying to set up a date with a girl to play. Try something else next time. NEXT her. She said she would call you back so if she doesn't call you back she obviously doesn't care about you at all.
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Wow even if I get the number you're still hating. It's only lame and nerdy if you think it is and chick must be lame and nerdy too because she said she thought it was cool. In the midst of giving so much advice I haven't seen one FR or successful number close from you. Anyway, this girl seemed cool, but if she's doing sh*t like this, I doubt she's really the nice cool vibed girl I met on Thursday. So I'm going to call her once more and if she flakes, it's over. I did kind of get the vibe though that she didn't even know who I was.
Congrats, for that excellent demonstration of trolling, you're not only ignored, but reported. But I'm pretty much planning to call her and if she flakes again, NEXT. I mean, what makes her so special? I'm just going to go back to school on Monday and get more numbers.
ezily
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that's because you generated no attraction within her. Kino does not necessarily create attraction. You also have to have the personality.ElStud said:I did kind of get the vibe though that she didn't even know who I was.
Besides, I said playing rock band is not lame and nerdy. What is nerdy is inviting a girl to play with you as a date or something. If that's the idea she got I just somehow doubt she would want to do that. Girls aren't sitting around their room playing rock band like guys sometimes do. They'll play in certain situations where it's OK to play. So this girl probably just played at a party and liked it. No girl I know is going to go out of her way to meet up with a guy to play video games. That's just not the stuff they're in to. So you need to try and find something else you have in common.
But because you keep calling me a hater and what not this is the last time I will give you advice. Good luck (and believe me you're going to need it if you think video games is the way to get a girl).
You're still ignoring the fact that she was the one who said it would be cool and as I said before, that would make her lame and nerdy as well. If it's so lame and nerdy, tell me how I've already got 2 numbers in 2 days by doing that. But hey, I guess you're basically saying being lame and nerdy is how to get the girl though, now aren't you. The thing you don't understand about Rock Band, is that it's not the whole video game factor, it's the fact that girls just think Rock Band is fun and girls like having fun. Overall, who knows, I might call her back, I might not, really doesn't matter to me now because regardless when school starts back on Monday, I'll be getting more numbers.ezily said:that's because you generated no attraction within her. Kino does not necessarily create attraction. You also have to have the personality.
Besides, I said playing rock band is not lame and nerdy. What is nerdy is inviting a girl to play with you as a date or something. If that's the idea she got I just somehow doubt she would want to do that. Girls aren't sitting around their room playing rock band like guys sometimes do. They'll play in certain situations where it's OK to play. So this girl probably just played at a party and liked it. No girl I know is going to go out of her way to meet up with a guy to play video games. That's just not the stuff they're in to. So you need to try and find something else you have in common.
But because you keep calling me a hater and what not this is the last time I will give you advice. Good luck (and believe me you're going to need it if you think video games is the way to get a girl).
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You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
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