Epic
Senior Don Juan
I think there is one thing above all that you need to keep in mind in order to maintain a solid mental and emotional balance until you've developed a solid foundation:
The dating game IS a competition, but you are a JUDGE, not a competitor; so you can NEVER lose at this game.
The girls that you date are the only ones that can lose. The prize mentality is a MUST. This doesn't mean that you should be arrogant. It means that you recognize your own worth. Think about the auditions for American Idol or So You Think You Can Dance? This is the same situation except in this case it's DJ Idol.
Do you think the people behind these shows were nervous and afraid that no one would show up for the auditions and actually put in effort during the steps to follow? Of course not, because they understood the value of the opportunity they were presenting. Sometimes there were people that would come in acting as if they had already won, being arrogant, throwing tantrums, and making demands. These people always got rejected. What do you think the judges did? Apologized? Gave them another shot? Nope, the only ones that ever got another shot were those that had the proper attitude. The judges said NEXT! They did this as many times as necessary without hesitation, without remorse until they had enough worthy candidates.
It only got more difficult for the competitors as they progressed through the show, but they worked harder and it became that much more important to them because there were others just as talented and working just as hard to be the winner. People value what they've earned especially when someone else could have been enjoying their earnings. The judges sit back and enjoy themselves throughout this. There's no reason to worry. They're good at what they do and they know it. They only selected candidates that had potential and over time the ones who didn't care enough, weren't good enough, or were just too weak weeded themselves out through their onstage and offstage performances. No matter what, every single time the judges end up with a winner that they're satisfied with, and who is going to make them money.
Anyway, to sum it up:
Show your worth and give multiple women the opportunity to audition. Only select those that you consider to be worthy candidates. When they disrespect you or don't live up to your standards call them on it. You have to make it known that they could lose, that you won't bend for anyone, and that they have competition. Don't worry about the ones that have earned a rejection. They're doing you a favor by letting things get to that point.
As you progress you can focus on the finalists, the real talent. Only enter into LTR's with winners.
You value yourself and create your own experience, so remember the purpose of the DJ Idol. You didn't create this competition so you could praise the talented, you created it for two reasons: to add to your own experience and to give the winner/winners an ongoing opportunity to experience you.
The dating game IS a competition, but you are a JUDGE, not a competitor; so you can NEVER lose at this game.
The girls that you date are the only ones that can lose. The prize mentality is a MUST. This doesn't mean that you should be arrogant. It means that you recognize your own worth. Think about the auditions for American Idol or So You Think You Can Dance? This is the same situation except in this case it's DJ Idol.
Do you think the people behind these shows were nervous and afraid that no one would show up for the auditions and actually put in effort during the steps to follow? Of course not, because they understood the value of the opportunity they were presenting. Sometimes there were people that would come in acting as if they had already won, being arrogant, throwing tantrums, and making demands. These people always got rejected. What do you think the judges did? Apologized? Gave them another shot? Nope, the only ones that ever got another shot were those that had the proper attitude. The judges said NEXT! They did this as many times as necessary without hesitation, without remorse until they had enough worthy candidates.
It only got more difficult for the competitors as they progressed through the show, but they worked harder and it became that much more important to them because there were others just as talented and working just as hard to be the winner. People value what they've earned especially when someone else could have been enjoying their earnings. The judges sit back and enjoy themselves throughout this. There's no reason to worry. They're good at what they do and they know it. They only selected candidates that had potential and over time the ones who didn't care enough, weren't good enough, or were just too weak weeded themselves out through their onstage and offstage performances. No matter what, every single time the judges end up with a winner that they're satisfied with, and who is going to make them money.
Anyway, to sum it up:
Show your worth and give multiple women the opportunity to audition. Only select those that you consider to be worthy candidates. When they disrespect you or don't live up to your standards call them on it. You have to make it known that they could lose, that you won't bend for anyone, and that they have competition. Don't worry about the ones that have earned a rejection. They're doing you a favor by letting things get to that point.
As you progress you can focus on the finalists, the real talent. Only enter into LTR's with winners.
You value yourself and create your own experience, so remember the purpose of the DJ Idol. You didn't create this competition so you could praise the talented, you created it for two reasons: to add to your own experience and to give the winner/winners an ongoing opportunity to experience you.