[From Zen-Articles]

"Men and women are so different its amazing they can even talk to each other." - Uncredited



Short answer: You can't so don't bother trying. Go concentrate on the hundreds of millions of other awesome single girls available to you in this world.



Long answer: No seriously, its next to impossible. You're wasting your vital energy even thinking about it.



I know this girl might seem like "the one" or she may even be the girl of your dreams, but the cold fact still remains-- you're in the friendship zone with her and once you are in this zone, not even a blessing from Lord Shiva can lift you out of it.



The secret is to not ever get in the "friends zone" in the first place. You do this by asking women out. If you clearly state your intentions at the very beginning of your relationship, there will be no mistake in her mind which group of people to lump you in (the potential boyfriend group or the girlfriend group). Don't be another one of her girlfriends.



Its much better for a woman to know your intent than for you to be nebulous around. That just creates mixed emotions in her mind. The man of her dreams isn't someone she has mixed reactions about. Be bold, be yourself. Not every woman is going to like you, but they will all respect you, and that makes all the difference.

Ahhh if only someone had sent me the memo on this six months ago. Would have saved me months of agony...

Now I'm not saying you're wrong, but I've had girls who are friends (granted we flirt) and they've gave me some very big opportunities to sleep with them from in the past.

Unfortunately I this was before I visited this site and understood what they were trying to tell me.

Jon55 said:

Now I'm not saying you're wrong, but I've had girls who are friends (granted we flirt) and they've gave me some very big opportunities to sleep with them from in the past.

Unfortunately I this was before I visited this site and understood what they were trying to tell me.

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This was my problem. I had a friend who was flirting with me and maybe wanted something physical...but she wouldn't even consider a relationship.

whatever guys i can turn a platonic friendship into more very easily and have dont many times and continue to do so. yes, fair enough sometimes you'll simply be in the friendzone and thats it but if you have that edge then why wouldnt they be interested?

thing is, you HAVE to have social status, good looks, good personality or something that causes her to be attracted to you. the reason alot of people struggle with the transition is because the girl knows you and then its too late to put on an act. if she knows you as a winner then this is different. i broke up with my gf of 3 years and have got off with several 'friends' i was previously in the 'friendzone' with - i found it easier than getting new people actually!


i dont believe in that friendzone BS for the most part. if you're attractive in some way then girls will be attracted to you sometimes moreso if you had prior sexual indifference to them in my experience

haha grate post mate

As long as there is some form of CHEMISTRY even just 1% between the two of you then MAYBE (big, big MAYBE) you could amplify it, but if the friendship in her eyes is absolutely platonic then go find a new girl ASAP