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Don Juan
[From Zen-Articles.com]
Anyone with even a modicum amount of experience with women can tell you that it's much harder to maintain an existing relationship than it is to initiate a one night stand.
Here's some tips to help you keep that girl of your dreams by your side-
1) Spontaneity
I've seen many otherwise healthy, happy relationships devolve because the man did not take even a minimal amount of effort to spice up the relationship. There were no random adventures, no midnight joy rides, no spontaneous activities whatsoever- not even deviating from the handful of restaurants he normally frequents.
Women want a man who can whisk her out of her heels and abscond off to Vegas for a romantic weekend. Predictability is akin to death- she has to know you're capable of doing anything at any time. Now I understand that to most men, being in this constant heightened sense of excitement would probably be undesirable (at best). But for women it's different; this exciting state of mind is something thoroughly intriguing and strangely romantic.
"The essence of pleasure is spontaneity." - Germaine Greer
2) Needy
Weak and detrimental emotions like jealousy or neediness must be placed aside once you're completely committed to the relationship. So if you don't feel like you can trust your partner, you shouldn't be engaged in a committed relationship with her. But if you can trust your partner, it's vital to close your trap and curb all ******d signs of jealousy or envy.
Now of course it's only natural for humans to feel like they possess their significant other since they have so much history together. But on a deeper level you must understand that you do not own your girlfriend, nor does she own you. By restraining ourselves from being needy, our brains are more apt to behave in similar patterns in the future. Even after a couple weeks of suppressing your needy attitude, you'll find those emotions will cease to arise in your brain any further.
"That is ever the way. 'Tis all jealousy to the bride and good wishes to the corpse." - James M. Barrie
3) Unconditional Love
If you're going to love someone, love them all the way. Do not give (and never accept) half a heart. Being in a loving relationship requires making sacrifices which you have to be ready to accept (and even desire). If your whole heart isn't into the relationship, she'll know it, usually instantly if only subconsciously at first. She'll respond by testing you with questions or comments, and the relationship usually degrades from there.
"I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word." - Martin Luther King, Jr.
Bonus: No Gifts
You only give gifts on her birthday and (maybe) your yearly anniversaries (Valentine's Day is completely optional and I think excessive). You should never feel forced to give gifts to your partner - after all, what gift can be greater to a woman than her man's undying love? If you love your partner unconditionally, material gifts just seem to be a wholly inadequate way of showing your affection.
Anyone with even a modicum amount of experience with women can tell you that it's much harder to maintain an existing relationship than it is to initiate a one night stand.
Here's some tips to help you keep that girl of your dreams by your side-
1) Spontaneity
I've seen many otherwise healthy, happy relationships devolve because the man did not take even a minimal amount of effort to spice up the relationship. There were no random adventures, no midnight joy rides, no spontaneous activities whatsoever- not even deviating from the handful of restaurants he normally frequents.
Women want a man who can whisk her out of her heels and abscond off to Vegas for a romantic weekend. Predictability is akin to death- she has to know you're capable of doing anything at any time. Now I understand that to most men, being in this constant heightened sense of excitement would probably be undesirable (at best). But for women it's different; this exciting state of mind is something thoroughly intriguing and strangely romantic.
"The essence of pleasure is spontaneity." - Germaine Greer
2) Needy
Weak and detrimental emotions like jealousy or neediness must be placed aside once you're completely committed to the relationship. So if you don't feel like you can trust your partner, you shouldn't be engaged in a committed relationship with her. But if you can trust your partner, it's vital to close your trap and curb all ******d signs of jealousy or envy.
Now of course it's only natural for humans to feel like they possess their significant other since they have so much history together. But on a deeper level you must understand that you do not own your girlfriend, nor does she own you. By restraining ourselves from being needy, our brains are more apt to behave in similar patterns in the future. Even after a couple weeks of suppressing your needy attitude, you'll find those emotions will cease to arise in your brain any further.
"That is ever the way. 'Tis all jealousy to the bride and good wishes to the corpse." - James M. Barrie
3) Unconditional Love
If you're going to love someone, love them all the way. Do not give (and never accept) half a heart. Being in a loving relationship requires making sacrifices which you have to be ready to accept (and even desire). If your whole heart isn't into the relationship, she'll know it, usually instantly if only subconsciously at first. She'll respond by testing you with questions or comments, and the relationship usually degrades from there.
"I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word." - Martin Luther King, Jr.
Bonus: No Gifts
You only give gifts on her birthday and (maybe) your yearly anniversaries (Valentine's Day is completely optional and I think excessive). You should never feel forced to give gifts to your partner - after all, what gift can be greater to a woman than her man's undying love? If you love your partner unconditionally, material gifts just seem to be a wholly inadequate way of showing your affection.