So all the while I was chasing this one stupid redhead at work, I found out her friend liked me for a long time, and I just could not see the her signals...everyone at work was asking me if I had a thing for her, but it turns out that was because she had a thing for me...and all the while this was happening i was chasing her friend...who also happens to be seeing someone right now, but as I've already explained her friend is too much of a drama queen so she's not my type...

Now I just don't know how to approach this girl next time I see her...she always seems to know when something's wrong with me, she will definitely see right through me this time too...suggestions?

.....you're gonna fvck this up. Sorry.

I don't understand.

But there is no sense in chasing a girl that you think is 'stupid' unless you think you're 'stupid' too.

wjh said:

I don't understand.

But there is no sense in chasing a girl that you think is 'stupid' unless you think you're 'stupid' too.

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I just realized she's stupid and I see how stupid I was to chase after her...she's deifinitely not my type...but this other girl, her friend has had a thing for me ever since we started working together...which was probably back in august. I'm not sure how to approach this. A buddy at work yesterday told me that she's had a thing for me for quite a qhile...and a few weeks ago this girl that i was chasing was hanging out with us and she gave it all away...she drew a heart with our names in it on a piece of paper and i happened to glanced at it when she was doint it...i don't know why i didn't do anything then...and by the way that she reacted to it i could tell that she was starting to regret it...i dont know if there is anything i can do now or if it is indeed too late...

Ask her to join you for a cup of coffee. Simple as that.

Dont fiddle with words and analyze how you're gonna approach or you'll be calling yourself stupid. Let it be natural and flow with it.

smooth guy said:

Ask her to join you for a cup of coffee. Simple as that.

Dont fiddle with words and analyze how you're gonna approach or you'll be calling yourself stupid. Let it be natural and go with and flow with it.

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you know...you're right...i had no problem asking her to hang out before, why wouldn't i be able to do it again...but with a twist to it. i think it would definitely surprise her being that i never gave out any signs of liking her.

seek&destroy said:

you know...you're right...i had no problem asking her to hang out before, why wouldn't i be able to do it again...but with a twist to it. i think it would definitely surprise her being that i never gave out any signs of liking her.

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Yes and that works in your favor. It's really easy for you the ball is in your court. All you gotta to is just be calm about it as you escalate.