I know that I like this girl. But we have seen each other so few times since meeting it's like starting over everytime. We hung out this past Saturday, she met me up with some of her friends at a live music venue to check out my brothers band. I enjoyed myself and her and I were talking and laughing. She was flirting with me, touching my arms and shoulders when she would speak. Everything went well, but I am not sure if I am reading too much into this or not. She did show up and I would think that if there was no interest on her part then she wouldn't have shown up. She definetly is the type of girl who injoys being pursued and doesn't chase guys. Well, I am use to girls giving me more to go on and I don't usually chase girls that often. She hasn't really given me anything to go on. The time before that we hung out at Jillians, which is kind of like a Dave & Busters; video games, restaraunts and stuff. We chilled drank a lil bit and talked but I got the impression she wasn't interested. I am not sure if asking her out is a good idea or not. I know for a fact she has a busy shedule during the week and does bar promoting on the weekends. But if she wants to hang out again then she will make time, right? Thoughts?

CJC, you were with her on two dates, or you were with her in the "out", you know what I'm saying.. You don't escalate right away and you are thought of as a safe hang out buddy, a fiend..

Then, you change all of a sudden.. Show to her that you want to bone her, such as by asking her out.. Before you was quet and safe and now you are a friend and all of a sudden you want to fvck this girl..

What do you call this? Women call this Ewwwwwwwwwww... Disgusting.. Almost like your best friend George you hang out with every week, holds your hand, and says, I'm attracted to you dude, I think we should explore it..

How about you follow the routine:



Follow that link in my signature and start from basics.

Naw, we haven't had sex man. It's never gone that far. I mean I am pretty much asking if it's worth pursuing, am I putting too much into this or should I ask her out? I don't know about me being a safe hangout buddy either. There isn't much there but I would like to establish something.

CJC, I didn't ask if the two of you had sex.. I'm speaking pimperish, so maybe someone else would explain it to you better.. You have no chance with her, unless she gets really drunk and passes out..

Alright, but tell me why?

I got your last e-mail man, I mis understood what you were trying to say. My bad man. Yeah, I don't think I was just with her in the out. But then again, she might have. Most of the girls that I talk to I have no interest in, I could care less if they think bad of me in any way and we always would end up fvcking. This chic was someone that I actually started to like so I didn't want to go that route with her.

She might be interested in you..





However you do not come across like you have a clue what you doing.. Thus, you have no skill to get her.. Thus no chance.. It is totally fixable, I already told you how..




I suggest you try to get her with whatever you have or you just remain friends with her.. Trying to get her will teach you some lessons and you will advance.. Being friend with her might get you other friends, on which you can try and become better.. Decide for yourself..

Get her number - ask her out - check her response...

Hey Monkey,

Yeah I got her number but I am not into sitting on the phone for a long-ass time chit-chatting. I mean I mainly text or IM her. But if I do call her I usually keep it short. I guess the best thing to do is just ask her out to lunch or something chill this weekend or if anyone else has a suggestion, let me know.

Oh, something that has been on my mind is dealing the word "no." I have asked a girl before to go out and have been told no and I felt like an idiot and I was all quick to get off the phone with her. What's the best way to handle that. I don't want to seem too bothered by it ya know?