I like to simplify things so I hope this helps somebody. Its a way of looking at the interaction between man and woman and shows that women don't have all the power as I and others do/used to think
Man is out to get a woman and woman is out to get a man. Think of it as trading each other.
When chatting to a woman a man is checking her out as she checks him out. They are both checking to see if the other is good enough to invest a relationship in. There is a 2 way trade going on and you being the man its your job to show the woman you're good enough for her but also to see if she is good enough for you.
The woman will put a value on herself and she'll look for the value you put on yourself. This gives you control of the situation. Here are some scenarios:
-IF you want the woman badly you're lowering your bargining position. She has higher value than you and she will see you as being needy.
-IF you're not confident enough you're lowering your bargining position. She will see you as having lower value than her and will not buy.
-IF you are not looking for a relationship or you are choosy then it's up to her to persuade you to invest in her as you're not looking to sell cheaply. Therefore you've a higher bargining position. You're worth more and will have more offers for you and you'll be able to turn down offers that you don't like.
-IF you start off by putting a HIGH VALUE on yourself (inner confidence), she will see it too and you'll have a higher value. You'll have a good bargining position and plenty of options.
-IF you start off by lowering her value and putting a HIGH VALUE on yourself to create a big difference then she'll see you as being a bad boy! She's not important enough to care for but she'll want you like a drug as you've such a higher value than her it makes her feel good to be around you!! Beware though in the long term (like drugs) things won't work out as long as there is a big difference in your values.
Instead of going into a date etc wanting to impress (desperate to sell), go into it with the mindset that you are buying as well as selling so there is a trade going on and you have a big say in it and you are not going cheap!!
Be worth it!
Man is out to get a woman and woman is out to get a man. Think of it as trading each other.
When chatting to a woman a man is checking her out as she checks him out. They are both checking to see if the other is good enough to invest a relationship in. There is a 2 way trade going on and you being the man its your job to show the woman you're good enough for her but also to see if she is good enough for you.
The woman will put a value on herself and she'll look for the value you put on yourself. This gives you control of the situation. Here are some scenarios:
-IF you want the woman badly you're lowering your bargining position. She has higher value than you and she will see you as being needy.
-IF you're not confident enough you're lowering your bargining position. She will see you as having lower value than her and will not buy.
-IF you are not looking for a relationship or you are choosy then it's up to her to persuade you to invest in her as you're not looking to sell cheaply. Therefore you've a higher bargining position. You're worth more and will have more offers for you and you'll be able to turn down offers that you don't like.
-IF you start off by putting a HIGH VALUE on yourself (inner confidence), she will see it too and you'll have a higher value. You'll have a good bargining position and plenty of options.
-IF you start off by lowering her value and putting a HIGH VALUE on yourself to create a big difference then she'll see you as being a bad boy! She's not important enough to care for but she'll want you like a drug as you've such a higher value than her it makes her feel good to be around you!! Beware though in the long term (like drugs) things won't work out as long as there is a big difference in your values.
Instead of going into a date etc wanting to impress (desperate to sell), go into it with the mindset that you are buying as well as selling so there is a trade going on and you have a big say in it and you are not going cheap!!
Be worth it!