I have noticed that a lot of the people who complain about not having enough success with girls usually complain about either not being able to approach, or not being able to close. I experienced both of these problems in the past too (building comfort was not too hard for me since i was usually relegated in the LBJF category) and i came up with the conclusion that the solution for both of these is persistence.
Part 1 The approach
Remember, PU is a numbers' game. The more girls you approach (i.e. the more persistent you are) the more closes you will get. However, focusing too much on numbers can also screw you up, for example if you set a certain goal of closes for one night and you don't even come close to it. So, for beginners, the only goals to set should be about your TOTAL number of approaches. So if you set your goal at 30, even if you get rejected 30 times in a night (which i can almost guarantee will never happen) you still scored a victory against your AA. The big positive behind having this attitude towards approaching is that you win no matter what.
My advice to everyone suffering from AA is: (this is a reply to another thread that i wanted to expand on) next time you want to approach, don't think about the f-close, k-close, #-close or even getting her name. All those things in fact are not completely under your power. Focus on the one thing that is under your power: starting an interaction with her. You are the only one in control over that. So don't worry about what kind of opener you re gonna use, how she might react to it, how to transition, etc... Just go out there and throw the ball in her court and see what happens.
Once you get over your AA, you can start focusing on the other steps, like finding out her name, building sexual tension, getting her number and so on. I can't tell you how many approaches you will need to get over it, or even if you will totally dominate it (sometimes my AA comes back to me if i'm not feeling the vibe of a place or am not in a good mood but i always fight back). However i can guarantee you that doing even an extra 5 approaches a week will be 10x more useful to your game than spending 5 hours a week in front of your computer reading seduction forums.
Part 1 The approach
Remember, PU is a numbers' game. The more girls you approach (i.e. the more persistent you are) the more closes you will get. However, focusing too much on numbers can also screw you up, for example if you set a certain goal of closes for one night and you don't even come close to it. So, for beginners, the only goals to set should be about your TOTAL number of approaches. So if you set your goal at 30, even if you get rejected 30 times in a night (which i can almost guarantee will never happen) you still scored a victory against your AA. The big positive behind having this attitude towards approaching is that you win no matter what.
My advice to everyone suffering from AA is: (this is a reply to another thread that i wanted to expand on) next time you want to approach, don't think about the f-close, k-close, #-close or even getting her name. All those things in fact are not completely under your power. Focus on the one thing that is under your power: starting an interaction with her. You are the only one in control over that. So don't worry about what kind of opener you re gonna use, how she might react to it, how to transition, etc... Just go out there and throw the ball in her court and see what happens.
Once you get over your AA, you can start focusing on the other steps, like finding out her name, building sexual tension, getting her number and so on. I can't tell you how many approaches you will need to get over it, or even if you will totally dominate it (sometimes my AA comes back to me if i'm not feeling the vibe of a place or am not in a good mood but i always fight back). However i can guarantee you that doing even an extra 5 approaches a week will be 10x more useful to your game than spending 5 hours a week in front of your computer reading seduction forums.
