Sorry to hear about what has develped, but at least you have a chance to move on and 'grow', i believe you had some lessons to learn out of this, granted they could have been learned a better way, but it seems you needed to learn the hard way, now i would take those lessons about what you learned about yourself and work on them to become a much better rounded guy.
Forget about the Ex, her problems and issues are secondary, no point blaming her shortfalls, you need to recognize why you settled for those issues in the first place, hence what is it about you that allowed yourself to be put in such a comprimising position.
Hence when you mature and realize its all about you, hence your journey, you then can move on and become a more rounded guy who has developed through the trials of life and in that be a good mentor for your son.
But i hope you understand what i write above and dont fall into the pit of external destruction and blame external sources for your issues, since at the end of the day, a real man has to own up to his short falls and recongnize his failings so he then can smash then down and start afresh, like a phenoix rising from the ashes, to be born bigger and better.
I just wanted to illustrate something for other readers that has not been addressed:
frivolousz21 said:
6 months in she got pregnant...ok...so we went threw that..she had the baby...we moved in together...good for about 2 months.
Sorry to pick this out, but its a perfect example of what problems could arise when you 'rush' into massive life changing things such has a child, 6 months was insanity and i hope other guys reading this will think twice about being this 'involved' after such a small time frame.
You live and learn, but try not to make all your life lessons be learned the 'hard way'.
My ex, used to be big in taro card readings, if she pulled your card out, it would be: the fool.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Fool_(Tarot_card)
Thats not a degrading card, all it means is, you have learned a valuable lesson in life and now, you are shacking off that image and becoming so much more.
