I'm not much of a cold approach kind of guy. I meet most of the women I know through my social network or my business.

And there's one thing that I have noticed, one variable that when used, often results in a woman becoming attracted to me. And that is a BOLD introduction.

I have noticed that many, many times when I sense a woman is attracted to me soon after we meet, it was usually after I had made a very strong first impression by "inflating" myself.

I'm a pretty laid back guy by nature, so I am generally not the gregarious guy you see who smiles real big and leans in to enthusiastically shake your hand when I meet someone for the first time. It's usually more like "Hey, whats up, nice to meet ya" with a half smile and uncomfortable body posture, just like a lot of people.

What I have come to realize is that the times where I was in a good mood and in my element (familiar place, amongst friends), I'm usually a much different person. And when I meet a new chick in that mode, they see a different side of me, one that is obviously much more attractive.

I firmly believe that if you make a strong enough first impression, and I'm talking within SECONDS, you have already won half the battle. If a woman sees a bold, confident, enthusiastic, happy guy when she first meets you, you can have HER putting the moves on you in short order.

I have tested this theory a couple of times recently when being introduced to new women through friends.

If I am aware that I am about to be introduced to someone new, I "inflate" myself the second she lays eyes on me. The second she sees me I;

-Speak with an authoritative tone

-Make an opening statement, usually humorous

-Make grand gestures to emphasize my message

-Demonstrate social proof by welcoming my friends "with open arms"

-Go for the HUG instead of the handshake

I have found that the majority of the time when I follow that formula when meeting a woman for the first time, i can usually at minimum sense interest, and often times it results in full on ATTRACTION.

Got a party coming up and I will definitely be "in my element". Gonna have to do some further testing

I'm pretty much the same way, laid back and reserved, but I do a lot of cold approaches at the night clubs on younger girls. I totally agree if you open the girl confidently and in a relaxed. secure manner it makes a good first impression and often makes the differences between everything going smootthly and a possible lay or if you don't do this getting blown off. I've noticed most guys when they cold approach a girl at say a night club act like entertainment monkeys and after they've exhausted themselves entertaining the woman she blows him out and dismisses him.

STR8UP said:

I'm not much of a cold approach kind of guy. I meet most of the women I know through my social network or my business.

And there's one thing that I have noticed, one variable that when used, often results in a woman becoming attracted to me. And that is a BOLD introduction.

I have noticed that many, many times when I sense a woman is attracted to me soon after we meet, it was usually after I had made a very strong first impression by "inflating" myself.

I'm a pretty laid back guy by nature, so I am generally not the gregarious guy you see who smiles real big and leans in to enthusiastically shake your hand when I meet someone for the first time. It's usually more like "Hey, whats up, nice to meet ya" with a half smile and uncomfortable body posture, just like a lot of people.

What I have come to realize is that the times where I was in a good mood and in my element (familiar place, amongst friends), I'm usually a much different person. And when I meet a new chick in that mode, they see a different side of me, one that is obviously much more attractive.

I firmly believe that if you make a strong enough first impression, and I'm talking within SECONDS, you have already won half the battle. If a woman sees a bold, confident, enthusiastic, happy guy when she first meets you, you can have HER putting the moves on you in short order.

I have tested this theory a couple of times recently when being introduced to new women through friends.

If I am aware that I am about to be introduced to someone new, I "inflate" myself the second she lays eyes on me. The second she sees me I;

-Speak with an authoritative tone

-Make an opening statement, usually humorous

-Make grand gestures to emphasize my message

-Demonstrate social proof by welcoming my friends "with open arms"

-Go for the HUG instead of the handshake

I have found that the majority of the time when I follow that formula when meeting a woman for the first time, i can usually at minimum sense interest, and often times it results in full on ATTRACTION.

Got a party coming up and I will definitely be "in my element". Gonna have to do some further testing

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I think you hit on something that bring's great results when applied.

This all stems from the 'power of positive thinking'

Belief in yourself and what you can achieve, to rid yourself of limited beliefs and kick out thoughts of negativity.

The night that i am the 'most' succesful are nights when i will tell myself:

I am worthy of attractive women.
Women will be lucky to be with someone like me.
I am a desirable guy.
I am attractive.
I look great tonight.

e.t.c

When ever i get a negative emotion i totally and completly reframe it to a positive affirmation:

For example:

passing a mirror 'i look rough, i think i have had too much beer'

I kick that thought out and reframe it to:

'dam i look great, i can wait to show just how dam hot i look tonight'

It seems wierd but if you do this and tell yourself enough, you can believe your own so called BS, even if deep down you dont think its true.

'i am the funniest guy in the bar'
'i am an interesting guy'

What ever mental negative frame a guy has HE MUST reframe that into postive affirmation.

I believe at the CORE of your post, is this message.

The results i think you define are products of a healthy thought process of self actualization with a healthy dose of positive affirmation, instead of negative framing.

Some of the worst bouts of negativity, once turned around have been some of my finer moments of attracting women.

sometimes i have gone out feeling like real shi*, but after 30mins to an hour of CONSTANT reaffirmation and positive re-framing in my head, has turned me from the guy looking into his pint all night to a social animal!

Our minds are simply our biggest prison, in all truth, but the simple solution or keys to that prison are always ours and always where, its just some, well rather alot dont fully understand the cage they are contained in hence they dont look for the keys to be able to understand the concpet of 'self actualization or on another term, to be able to love yourself and remind yourself just how fuc8ing great we are.

That is so true. When I first read "Your thoughts transmute into reality", I didn't really comprehend it. One thing that i find is this: when I KNOW I look good and I go into a girl cold or through a referral, it's a WRAP.

It is the nature of opportunity that it simply refuses to attach itself to negative thinkers. It's a law , such as the law of gravity. Negative minds breed failure. When you approach every challenge with a Positive Mental Attitude, you will always discover opportunities.

You know it's funny. I remember a while back, I met this girl. She was SO Negative. She was real cute as well. But I remember thinking 1)I hope I never turn into this 2)I want to get out of here.

I think the core belief behind confidence is positive thought. My greatest months in life were months of complete positive thinking. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

guru1000 said:

That is so true. When I first read "Your thoughts transmute into reality", I didn't really comprehend it. One thing that i find is this: when I KNOW I look good and I go into a girl cold or through a referral, it's a WRAP.

It is the nature of opportunity that it simply refuses to attach itself to negative thinkers. It's a law , such as the law of gravity. Negative minds breed failure. When you approach every challenge with a Positive Mental Attitude, you will always discover opportunities.

You know it's funny. I remember a while back, I met this girl. She was SO Negative. She was real cute as well. But I remember thinking 1)I hope I never turn into this 2)I want to get out of here.

I think the core belief behind confidence is positive thought. My greatest months in life were months of complete positive thinking. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

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Indeed, to me the single biggest seduction technique that works for everyone, is 'self belief'. Turn around every negative thought and reframe to postive affirmation.

Book on the subject:
Magic of thinking big.
How to win friends and influence people
Feel the fear and do it anyway.
tons and tons of this stuff.

If anyone looks at any 'growth' type self help book the underlining concept is the 'power of positive thought' to tell yourself your 'worth' that which you dont think you capable of attaining.

That hot girl.

Negative thought: 'she is out of my league'.

Positive reaffirmation:
1 'Dam i look great tonight, i am going to give that girl the pleasure of my company'.
2 'all this seduction and know how, girls like that are begging for guys like me, its time to give her what she really wants, i.e me'
3 'You know i just feel so dam great right now, that girl over there seems a good target'
4 'ok i count 4 attractive girls and i am the dam sexiest mother fuc*er in the place, like a kid in a candy shop.

Negative frame: 'I cant go out tonight, i have wierd bags under my eyes'

Positive affirmation: 'Dam that mirror never had it so good'.


Easily turned around! and probably the most powerful thing anyone can do in terms of dating women, imo.

this is one of my favourites:

Negative frame: talking to a girl 'this girl thinks i am a dork, she is not interested'.

Positive affirmation: look deep into her eyes and say in your head 'I am going to be fuc*ing your brains out, you lucky bitc*'

I have had girls tell me 'lets head back to yours' when i have done the above, more then a few times for it to be ignored.


take it to the extreame, postive extreame rather then negative, it works like a magic bullet.

This has so many levels of attraction variables to list them all here would take too much of my time at the moment.


(general) I dont care how stupid you feel, if you do this your success is guranteed, every guy i know who follows this concept gets massive results in all area's.

I am not a big fan of 'the secret' i like the down to earth method of loving yourself enough to reframe negative thoughts to positive thoughts that will move mountains where mountains once stood!

Speaking of positive thoughts and books; Here are a few books I recommend that I read when i was young that I can honestly say through application were life changing:

Napolean Hill : Think and Grow Rich (#1 since 1960, Must read)
Anthony Robbins: Awaken the Giant Within
Anthony Ronnins: Unlimited Power
Stepen Covey : The seven Habits of Highly Effective People

If I had to take one saying that described life, I would use Pook's which BTW he stole from Napolean Hill:

As you think, you shall become.

guru1000 said:

Speaking of positive thoughts and books; Here are a few books I recommend that I read when i was young that I can honestly say through application were life changing:

Napolean Hill : Think and Grow Rich (#1 since 1960, Must read)
Anthony Robbins: Awaken the Giant Within
Anthony Ronnins: Unlimited Power
Stepen Covey : The seven Habits of Highly Effective People

If I had to take one saying that described life, I would use Pook's which BTW he stole from Napolean Hill:

As you think, you shall become.

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i have read those too, very good books nice work

I dont think we could ever get enough of this stuff, it is probably one of the hardest things to ever do is 'control ones destructive negative thoughts' but once done, dam the change is immense.

I listen to the 'power of positive thinking' every few weeks or so, the religious indocterine is hard to take though.

I firmly believe that you can make a woman attracted to you in a matter of a few seconds if you have the right presentation.

And you don't even have to keep up that energy level to maintain attraction. Of course you can't turn into a wallflower, but I have found that if you get that instant interest going the chick will often take the ball and run with it making it very easy to keep things going to establish rapport.

Of course it's possible to make a neutral impression in the beginning and work to establish more later, but I think the reason this is so effective is because it is YOU setting the frame and establishing your dominant stance as a man.

If you do it right they don't even know what hit them.

Like awhile back when a couple of my lady friends stopped by before we went clubbing.

I went down to the lobby to let them in, big greeting, hugs and kisses all around, then I see a third girl, a Russian chick I had never met. Went in for the hug and cheek kiss and got serious fukk me eyes. I'm pretty sure I could have started making out with her right there in the lobby of my building within a few seconds of meeting her.

I'm telling you, this is powerful stuff that takes SO much work out of the attraction process. I just need to get myself accustomed to using this type of greeting anytime I meet a new female, even if i'm not attracted and even if I'm not "in my element".

Dayum...are you sure you guys aren't my long lost brothers???



Great minds think alike!

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skirtChaser said:

uncomfortable posture ?...yeah ok...go back to the anti depressants. and if you have bags under your eyes try preperation H. trust me it works a lot better thAn telling yourself you don't have them. telling yourself you don't have them maybe helps your mind but doesn't do anything for reality. positive thinking is great but don't become blind to reality.

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That was about the most incomprehensible post I've ever read.

Preparation H? WTF?

Rollo, could you please show this troll the exit?

Dude, you need to lay off the crack pipe