Okay, I've had enough!

I'm ready to kick my Fears in the Nuts! I'm going to *****-Slap all the lame excuses I typically come up with to NOT go out and be successful socially.

But first, I want to give everyone a little background about myself and my current situation in life. I hope this will help you understand more about who I am so you can give me the best advice.

I'm 29 yrs. old, (I'll actually be 30 in Nov).

I'm a virgin. Hell, even worse than that...I've never even had a real date, a kiss or any kind of relationship with a woman.

About the most interaction I've had with females in my life are some good friends from college (at least one who was drop-dead gorgeous, like a 9 or 10 and real friendly...almost flirtatious...I think I didn't mess with her because she was still in H.S. and had a B.f.)

So for all those high-school/college kids thinking they're in some kind of "American Pie" or "Superbad" movie where they NEED to get laid No matter what it takes or think they're the Worst AFC ever because they're 20something and don't get laid at every party....Relax. It could be worse!

I'm sure you're asking yourself now, "How the hell can someone get to be 29 yrs old and NEVER have a relationship or even get laid, not to mention never experienced a kiss or even a real date with a girl?"

Well, I guess the main reason is the way I was raised and how I haven't had a great social life or attempted to get girls on a consistent basis.

First of all, I'm Christian and I was raised to believe that Sex is something that should be saved for marriage.
I'm not 100% sure I'll get married before I have sex, but I'm definetly not your typical guy whose trying to get laid with any random, attractive girl from a local bar or club.
I know you probably think this is some AFC/Wussy way of thinking, but I want to have my first sexual experience with someone who deserves it, which will probably be someone with whom I have a pretty solid relationship. Only the best for my c*ck.

Another possible reason is that most of my friends were more into gaming than going out to meet girls. Not to say they aren't successful now, a few got married to girls they met in college or through friends, another finally met a girl on Match.com after years of focusing on getting a decent paying job (he was one that always thought you either had to be good looking, rich or use lots of alcohol to talk to girls).

Probably the WORST and only real reason though, was ME. I'm was (and still am) your typical shy, low confidence wussy, who doesn't consider themselves the type of man that women would be attracted to.

Now, it's not all bad.
I've taken some steps to recover from being a total loser.

At one point, when I first joined this site a few years ago, I went out with a friend of a friend who moved up to Ohio from New Orleans to live at my house because of Hurricane Katrina.
He was all about going out and doing approaches at bars and clubs every night...or at least getting drunk. I didn't exactly share the same standards or motives as he did, though. He was more interested in getting a quick one night stand whenever he could. There were a few times when he got either really drunk or really desperate and went home with some girls that were definetely not up to my standards.

But thats beside the point. He definetly had more confidence/game than I did and he tried to help me with my game a little. I actually was out there talking to girls at bars and even some IOI's from drunk girls and a few phone #'s.


However, in the past 18 months I've been pretty busy with a few things like
1. Finishing an Online Career Training course, AnimationMentor.com. I plan on having a career in animation within a year or less, so I can finally move out of Ohio and not be such a broke-ass...Oh yeah, and have the career I've always wanted.
2. Trying to sell a house which I bought as an investment a few years ago. It's in the ghetto and when my friends moved out, it got to be a little more
than I could handle. (long story)

So that's my life in a nut-shell! I do feel I have a few things to my advantage. I'm getting better at holding conversations with random strangers. I work at a hotel where I occasionally get to pick people up at the Airport and for that 20min van ride...I don't really care whether they're young or old, man or woman, single, ugly, cute...I basically just try to carry on interesting conversations. Believe it or not, I actually have learned a LOT of interesting things from a variety of people, so I actually DO care about where people are from and what they do. Just today I had a decent convo with some attractive women (who were all married, unfortunately) that I took to a salon and then to Martini's.

Ironically, I still feel the lack of "knowing what to say" is my biggest reason for not approaching more strangers that have no real reason to want to talk to me. Aside from generic and mundane introductions and small talk,I seriously don't know what to say.

At any rate, I definetly plan on reading the DJ Bible, and doing that Boot Camp program. I was also thinking of starting a progress journal or a Boot Camp thread, in order to recieve encouragement and advice, but sometimes those things don't seem to get much attention.

If you're a Christian then find someone in your church. She'll be in the same boat as you. You both I assume believe that sex is bad and shoulf only be done in married life. What attracts women is the idea that you might have sex with her. Then you cannot. Hmmmm. Problem.

I find that most born-agains are frauds and they are porking everything that moves. Sorry. I was one of 'you' and I found it to be a bad experience.

Almost every church has as singles group. The one I used to attend did. It was rather notorious for people banging each other and then repenting. Then banging and repenting. Again and again.

Just lead a healthy life. Improve your confidence and women will approach you. You have to know they are interested in sex. Women are not the frail innocent things that I was taught (and you were taught, most likely) they were.

Get over the guilt. She'll feel like a slut and a sinner after. You'll both will just have to grow out of what your parents rammed dowm your throat. Probably what your parents did would shock you. I found out later on what my mother did and I was shocked, since she is so religious.

Yeah, you're probably right Saucy Boy.

I'm not sure where I stand on the issue of no sex before marriage right now.

I don't know if it's seen as "Bad", but something that is best if saved until after marriage, which is pretty much against society's way of thinking. But trust me, I know lots of people that ended up having sex before marriage and a few (like one of my sisters and probably my parents), who didn't have sex before marriage. It's not that these people are "frauds" they just sin like everyone else. Trust me, just because people are Christians or religious, they definetly aren't perfect or free of fault. Nor should they be expected to be.

Anyways, is anyone else going to reply to this thread? I was hoping to get a few more responses after 50 reads. Is it too long? It seems a lot of poeple around here don't like to sit through long posts. I've been thinking about shortening it up a little.