She sends me photos...

[RogueWarrior]

FYI, I'm over 25 so I'm inquiring of DJs with a few years under their belts.

Okay, so this girl I've known for a while mailed me photos of herself. Nothing racy...in fact she's really beautiful. HB-turned-up-to-eleven.
Trouble is that recently she let slip that she got herself a new BF. *GRRRRRR* I of course proceeded to back off and severely limit contact.

Now having been around the block few times I can tell an attention-***** when I see one. She doesn't fit the profile (unless of course you assume that all women are attention-*****s).

We have a great deal in common and have fun when we've gotten together in the past. So how would you proceed with this? Is there anything active I could do to foster this? (IMHO, passive is spinning plates and being unavailable.) I don't know what the BF status is. How does one find out that sort of thing without tipping your hand?

[Latinoman]

FYI, I'm over 25 so I'm inquiring of DJs with a few years under their belts.

Okay, so this girl I've known for a while mailed me photos of herself. Nothing racy...in fact she's really beautiful. HB-turned-up-to-eleven.
Trouble is that recently she let slip that she got herself a new BF. *GRRRRRR* I of course proceeded to back off and severely limit contact.

Now having been around the block few times I can tell an attention-***** when I see one. She doesn't fit the profile (unless of course you assume that all women are attention-*****s).

We have a great deal in common and have fun when we've gotten together in the past. So how would you proceed with this? Is there anything active I could do to foster this? (IMHO, passive is spinning plates and being unavailable.) I don't know what the BF status is. How does one find out that sort of thing without tipping your hand?

What is your exact age and her exact age? Are you two from the Internet or did you meet her in person?

The thing is, your thread is way too vague.

Another thing...women either find you very attractive or they don't. The "gaming" thing is a waste of time. If she has not attraction or if her attraction if very little...don't waste your time.

[KontrollerX]

Was there ever a time you could've made a move on her but you didn't?

[STR8UP]

There's this thing called a "window of opportunity".

With most women if you don't act in short order, that window closes forever.

The only exception would be if a woman hasn't displayed her attraction for you (in a subtle or not so subtle way) or if you have escalated the sexual tension the entire time you have known her, even if you haven't had sex yet.

[jophil28]

One 'method' that women use to create attention from men is to set two guys up to be rivals for her. Remember, women will do anything for attention - it is emotional FOOD to them. They do NOT care about the possibility of triggering drama. If a B/f gets upset ,then all the better. That proves how HOT they are. Sheeesh !

So this little lady thinks nothing of sending you a few pictures of herself(behind her new B/fs back ) hmmm !

Q. What is the purpose of a picture ?
A. To present the merchandise to potential buyers.!

She knows how to market herself ,dude.

She wants you to bid ...or she is just a tease.

KInda tacky chick if you ask me.

[joekerr31]

who cares what she is doing.

what do you want? do you want to bang this chic? do you want her as a friend? what do YOU want.

whatever it is you want then go after it. if you want to bang her then escalate things and tell her that you want to take her on a date.

with regards to the pictures, odds are she's not all that happy with the boyfriend - probably just with him so shes not alone. she's setting you up to be a potential branch to swing to.

[RogueWarrior]

As to my age, I have one or two grey hairs. Damn it starts early.
She's quite a bit younger...early 20s. Normally I wouldn't bother with someone that young because they're usually pretty immature.

We've known each other for a long time, have worked together before and our common interests give us endless choices for convo. In the past she's complimented me on some aspect of my appearance that quite frankly is bullsh*t.

I'd like this to develop into an LTR but currently we live far enough apart that getting together requires advance planning. I've been working my butt off starting up a business. Her situation is temporary however.

One reason why I would bother is the simple fact that she understands my work and wants to be part of it. I've seen way too many couples over the years where the husband has a passion and the wife thinks it's childish and he should go take out the garbage. Don't get me started on how annoying I find every TV ad or sitcom where the husband is a moron and the wife is a fugging rocket-scientist. Uh huh...dry that one out and fertilize the lawn.

So the question is: is she interested or is she just trying to make sure I stick around? And how do you find out without coming off like a complete AFC?

[Latinoman]

I am not going to give you advice if you don't provide your age and her age.

She might be 21 or 25...which in relationship situations is NOT the same.

You could be 28 or 35 or 40 or 47...none of which will get you the SAME type of advice.

This is an anonymous forum and you have an anonymous name. But if you are secretive in something that if you think about it you should NOT be secretive about as it is a requirement to post in this Forum for you to have your age in your profile....then why even come in here and ask for advice?

The age thing is to better gadget her frame of mind and to better gadget yours (and even determine if you are advance or not or if you can take your time developing certain skills or if you should short cut through the process).

[Metro3pilot]

I'd like this to develop into an LTR

I've seen way too many couples over the years where the husband has a passion and the wife thinks it's childish

woooooooooooooohhh slow it down man ! ! !

without coming off like a complete AFC?

too late or will be soon ....

slow down junior

:rockon:

[grinder]

The BF is irrelevant. You’ve been on this site a while so you know the only way to find out is to escalate and completely ignore the so-called BF issue.

The distance IS relevant. I’ve done the Im, the pic swapping, even live video: none of it is real if you can’t touch them. Please don’t waste your valuable time on this emptiness.

You also know that unless one of you is willing to move the LDR is DOA.

How the hell do you know you want an LTR?

Pining away for someone from a distance is a special type of hell. You put yourself there for a reason. Figure that out first.