Hi Guys,

Just a quik scenario. i f****d up. basically, i work with this girl, and have been interested in her 4 awhile. i didn't really make any big moves because she has a b/f. i always did however flirt whilst at work, and noticed a big change in the last following months with signs of interest with her asking me to come over etc.

last weekend, i got a call from her saying she wanted to catch up. i said i was at the club with my boys, she said she was with her b/f, but he wasn't next to her at the time. so i thought well f**k that why waste my time. around 20 mins later, i get a call from her saying she was at the club where i was, and she had a fight with her b/f and left him where she was last. so i met up with her, we danced a bit, all was good.

later on, i dropped my boys home and she was in the back seat, so i ended up goin back to her place.

back at her place, she started tellin me about how she felt aout me sayin she reckons i'm hot and wants me etc, and i stuffed up by tellin her that i had feelings for her to. we started makin out, one thing lead to another, but we didn't have sex. she got all weird on me (I'm thinking because i exposed my feelings, not looking like the prize). now what's weird is that she only contacted me a few days afterwards and seemed flirty with some messages, but when i called her she seemed distant.

i still have the hots for her, i don't want a relationship with her obviously based on shes a cheat, but prob do wana hook up with her in the future.

what do you reckon guys, any feedback how i can organise a way to meet and hook up again, or is it ruined you rekons cause i spilled my emotions?
-Peace

Looks to me you were a shoulder to cry on. It might be the true that she is having feelings for you but that doesnt mean she is gonna give up her boyfriend. By making out with her she might lost attraction to you. Slow down a bit, take some distance to her.
Personally i disrespect man who are after girls who have a boyfriend. But okay, you have feelings for her. If you wanne have this girl and do not wanne be just a friend then act like nothing specials happened. Stay cool, don't mention your feelings but try to find out what her feelings are (about everything). Try to find out what she is missing in her boyfriend and fill in that need. Do that several times and you might get in the picture...slowly. As long she doesn't break up with her boyfriend you should not be into her. Keep the mystery and indifference.

Thanks Little Big 1, everything you've said makes pretty good sense. Take care, cheers 4 the reply

Try to find out what she is missing in her boyfriend and fill in that need. Do that several times and you might get in the picture...slowly.

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Or you might waste a whole lotta time.

Her boyfriend has her questioning herself...she's a low self-esteem case and with him being mad at her she's desperate for some validation that she's still desirable. You provided that. She doesn't want to break up with him and go with you...she wants to use you as emotional leverage so she can feel better about herself.

You honestly gave her too much credit. You could've taken advantage of her. I wouldn't have, either...I'm usually not that kind of guy. But you COULD have. Instead, you validated her. I'm sure she thinks of you as a stable and trustworthy friend at this point...unfortunately being her friend isn't enough to generate attraction.

I think you're letting her steal the frame. You need to explore your options and use this girl only when you sense it's available.