I know there is always a lot of talk about rejection, and how hard it is when you get rejected, and how it sucks.

There is also always talk about how some of us guys are afraid to talk to women or approach them for that reason.

I went on a blind date, Sun, didn't seem to be the BEST, but it wasn't bad. So then I initiated contact yesterday and set up a me and her date and she was like... Time and place? So I was like ok, cool. The first one was with 2 other people, and I wanted to talk to her, and not my friend and her friend.

Thought tonight went ok, then out of know where I got the... I just see friendship. Odd cause she was all jumpy about the date and didnt hesitate to say what do you want to do?

So it backfired I guess, and for a moment it got me down, but then I thought... the whole.. I'm the prize, its her loss, she doesn't know what she is missing, and girls come and go.

Also thought... Well, that now means i'll have to start approaching again since that didnt work. And I have had a hard time with that, for fear of rejection, but i've gotten better over the years. Hardest part for me is that i've never really had to approach a woman. I've had all my girlfriends from knowing them somehow, and not just stone cold, so its a little tough adjusting from being around someone in school or at work and that way vs hey my name is....

There was one HUGE thing that really got me thinking today as I was driving to the date.

I saw this guy riding down the sidewalk in a wheelchair (motorized) and his head was down, and to the side and I was like.. damn that must be hard. Not sure how he was disabled, but he was.

The thing was at the same time I was thinking about the date, and women, and I said... You know, that guy has to FEAR for his life when he crosses streets, or just in general. What if someone just beats him up cause he is disabled. Doubt he carries money, but what if? What if some worthless person does it cause they can, and takes what ever he has on him? He has to fear for his life all the time really. More so just the fact that if he doesn't cross the street quick enough, he is dead.

Then I said... If I get rejected, i'm still alive, and why be afraid to approach another human if I have to do it again? Am I going to die if a woman says no? Am I going to die if she doesn't talk to me? She wasn't even in the picture before I tried to talk to her, so if she says no it would be the same as if I didnt.

It just got me thinking about what people REALLY have to fear. The guy in the wheelchair has to fear everyday, and be afraid.

A wrong move with the wheelchair in the street=dead
A rejection by a woman= not dead.

Now i'm sure you say... Well no joke, but sometimes things you see in life hit you more than others, and you go... What am I afraid of all the time with women? it should be absolutely NOTHING.

So after I heard the friend deal tonight, for a split second it got me down, and then I bounced right back and said... Who gives an F, her loss. Other ladies here I come

I think i was more pissed about spending money on 2 dates than anything, and thinking it was going good after tonight :cuss: That could have been a whole box of protein bars. Oh well. Tomorrow is a new day. Anyway just a thought that crossed my mind when I drove by the guy and thought I would share what went through my mind.

Amante Silvestre said:

Cold approaches are over-rated. Sometimes required, but over-rated none the less. Don't let anyone lead you to the assumption that cold approaches are cream of the crop in scoring women. They aren't.

Working social circles is the most powerful angle. Never abondon that. Ever. Use what you learn here to empower yourself in those situations. Don't aim to replace that if you can avoid it. And if you can't avoid it, aim for creating new social circles before anything else, especially before p-ssy.

You'll find that this path always leads to "social proof", which helps you along much better than mastering the newest, most unique pick-up lines.

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I do like it that way better. And even such a small thing as this for instance is so much easier.

Was at work one day. 2 girls came by and asked where something was. Showed them, talked to them, they were kind of jumpy, then a few more employees came over, talked, and even then it was much more easier to converse. Though she mentioned she had a kid and that wasn't for me, if not, I might have thrown in... So your friend is buying that PDA right, and im sure both of you want to know how to use it, so let me show you how you put phone numbers in it, and put my phone number in. There you go, you ladies now have your first number.

At that moment it was a high energy setting, people were laughing, talking, and would have been good. It opened the door to something.

So I prefer something as simple as that.

But I see what you're saying and that's prob the best thing to stick too if I dont have to go the other route. Makes sense.