Need your input here guys! - I had a version of this situation happen once, now again!
First some background on my DJ buddy. He is a good looking, natural alpha male who has WAY more game then me. He is 26 and has a live in girl who is also the mom of his two kids. She is outta town and is watching the kids. We both dig women and the game as he is not into his girl/baby momma. We are both equally in shape and good looking - the main difference. This guy does not care about women and what they think nor anyone else for that matter.
Here is what happened.
He calls me this morning while I am on on my way to work and tells me he is at the skate park with his kids and there is a SUPER hot mom there with her kid. So I make a detour to check her out. Bring something for his kids.
She is a 9.5 on my scale - Short, in shape, hot body - ass, fake nice tits, nice tummy no stretch marks, dark hair and eyes, etc. She has her 7 yr old boy there skating too.
She is sitting on a bench and my buddy is holding is 2yr old next to her. I come up say "hi" to her and start talking to my buddy. He is playing with his lil one and coaching the his older one on skating. He hands me the little one to watch and I take a seat "next" to her bench (so not on the bench).
Here is the part where my buddy says I phucked up and I feel like an idiot for it.
I have the kid and she seems "interested" in me, but I get the sense that she is "attracted" to my buddy already. Which by the way he is just playing it cool kinda talking to her but not really.
Now, she asks me if I have kids and say no. She says really, are you married. I say no I just got divorced about 10 months ago (which I did) and from that point, I get the sense that she just wants to have small talk with me. From there we talked for like an hour. She divulged personal stuff and so did I. Stuff like her status (single dating here and there), new house, scared of spiders, birthday this coming friday and she is turning 30, etc. Me, basically the same, I single dating, maybe want kids but no marriage plans. SHe also asked my buddy the same questions about his status, etc.
During the hour she mentioned that this is her first time at this particular park and she liked it. My buddy tells her he is there with his 5yr old all the time (she came with her 7yr old and he hit it off with my buddies 5yr old skating), So she mentions getting his phone # to hook up the kids to skate (here is where I was positive that she was into him). So we are getting ready to leave and I leave a bit quicker on purpose to give them time alone.
Now keep in mind I was chatting with her more then him and watching the lil one. I immediatly felt like this was just a friendly adult convo - I was not running any game on her, etc. Just chillin being Mr. Uncle.
Now, I see them talking when I drive off and so I call my buddy a while later for the scope (this is normal). When he answers he immediatly starts giving me a hard time - which he never does. He is like, yo I call you about a hot ***** and you come try to run game on her. I was like what? He is like yeah dude I heard you talking about having kids, I was like - no man, not even. So then I was like did you exchange #'s and he said yeah. Then he proceeds with this comment, which bugged me. So right when you left this girl was like "man i know your friends whole life story" I was like what? And he tells me that she asked him for his # So I am like cool, but dude I was not gaming the *****, and was...what ever, what ever.
So here is why this bugs me. Not to long ago (so this is a factor I am trying to improve on), I was gamin a co-worker from another country (cananda) and we hit it off, I have her in my hotel room alone and we are making out, etc. I did not plan on phucking her, it was a a self test to see if I could 1.) create enough attraction to get her in my room that night. BOOM it worked. So while we were alone I asked her why she was attracted to me, what I can change in how "i got to know her that night", etc. Basically looking for feedback. The only thing she said is that I could have "held back on how much I described about myself - leave more mystery - she said, you came across like you might be trying to sell yourself to much"
That really hit home for me because I am naturally friendly guy and I am in people managment so i am always being social with people, employees, co-workers, etc. Any how, I took that feedback and worked on it. And tried to apply it in situations where I am "gaming" versus just "out and about" or in social setting like todays. I revert to my old friendly self where I talk to much about me.
What do I do here?
Thanks in advance all,
E.D.
First some background on my DJ buddy. He is a good looking, natural alpha male who has WAY more game then me. He is 26 and has a live in girl who is also the mom of his two kids. She is outta town and is watching the kids. We both dig women and the game as he is not into his girl/baby momma. We are both equally in shape and good looking - the main difference. This guy does not care about women and what they think nor anyone else for that matter.
Here is what happened.
He calls me this morning while I am on on my way to work and tells me he is at the skate park with his kids and there is a SUPER hot mom there with her kid. So I make a detour to check her out. Bring something for his kids.
She is a 9.5 on my scale - Short, in shape, hot body - ass, fake nice tits, nice tummy no stretch marks, dark hair and eyes, etc. She has her 7 yr old boy there skating too.
She is sitting on a bench and my buddy is holding is 2yr old next to her. I come up say "hi" to her and start talking to my buddy. He is playing with his lil one and coaching the his older one on skating. He hands me the little one to watch and I take a seat "next" to her bench (so not on the bench).
Here is the part where my buddy says I phucked up and I feel like an idiot for it.
I have the kid and she seems "interested" in me, but I get the sense that she is "attracted" to my buddy already. Which by the way he is just playing it cool kinda talking to her but not really.
Now, she asks me if I have kids and say no. She says really, are you married. I say no I just got divorced about 10 months ago (which I did) and from that point, I get the sense that she just wants to have small talk with me. From there we talked for like an hour. She divulged personal stuff and so did I. Stuff like her status (single dating here and there), new house, scared of spiders, birthday this coming friday and she is turning 30, etc. Me, basically the same, I single dating, maybe want kids but no marriage plans. SHe also asked my buddy the same questions about his status, etc.
During the hour she mentioned that this is her first time at this particular park and she liked it. My buddy tells her he is there with his 5yr old all the time (she came with her 7yr old and he hit it off with my buddies 5yr old skating), So she mentions getting his phone # to hook up the kids to skate (here is where I was positive that she was into him). So we are getting ready to leave and I leave a bit quicker on purpose to give them time alone.
Now keep in mind I was chatting with her more then him and watching the lil one. I immediatly felt like this was just a friendly adult convo - I was not running any game on her, etc. Just chillin being Mr. Uncle.
Now, I see them talking when I drive off and so I call my buddy a while later for the scope (this is normal). When he answers he immediatly starts giving me a hard time - which he never does. He is like, yo I call you about a hot ***** and you come try to run game on her. I was like what? He is like yeah dude I heard you talking about having kids, I was like - no man, not even. So then I was like did you exchange #'s and he said yeah. Then he proceeds with this comment, which bugged me. So right when you left this girl was like "man i know your friends whole life story" I was like what? And he tells me that she asked him for his # So I am like cool, but dude I was not gaming the *****, and was...what ever, what ever.
So here is why this bugs me. Not to long ago (so this is a factor I am trying to improve on), I was gamin a co-worker from another country (cananda) and we hit it off, I have her in my hotel room alone and we are making out, etc. I did not plan on phucking her, it was a a self test to see if I could 1.) create enough attraction to get her in my room that night. BOOM it worked. So while we were alone I asked her why she was attracted to me, what I can change in how "i got to know her that night", etc. Basically looking for feedback. The only thing she said is that I could have "held back on how much I described about myself - leave more mystery - she said, you came across like you might be trying to sell yourself to much"
That really hit home for me because I am naturally friendly guy and I am in people managment so i am always being social with people, employees, co-workers, etc. Any how, I took that feedback and worked on it. And tried to apply it in situations where I am "gaming" versus just "out and about" or in social setting like todays. I revert to my old friendly self where I talk to much about me.
What do I do here?
Thanks in advance all,
E.D.
