i did a search, and honestly i think a lot of the times this forum skips over telling aspireing DJ's or scared dudes out there when and how to make the first move.

This isn't one of those long drawn out preacher type post.. lets just make it short and sweet.

you like the girl, your pretty convinced the girl likes you.. your alone hanging out or whatever and you want to kiss this girl. Its harde to judge weither or not she wants you to kiss her. But if the girl is letting you in her space. and by that i mean letting you touch her, massage her, play fight with her chances are high that she'll let you kiss her.

however you'll reduce those chances if you ASK to kiss her, most girls want to be taken by surprise and i've noticed just in previous encounters asking a girl to give her a kiss doesn't work. IT does in some cases where the girl is acheing for it.. but in a case where your just hanging out.. asking for a kiss will only result in her shying away from it. NOT because she didn't want it but because in those few seconds of thinking, she could have came up with reasons not to. (bad kisser, wrong moment etc..)

what i've always done to make a move is rub the girls back.. hold her hand play with her hand and then just to see take my hand and move her face towards mine. if she allows this to happen i take that as a huge green light to kiss her.

however the fact that the girl let me touch her hands, hold her hands rub her legs and back was more than enough to let me and any of you know their ready.

buckle down, try it.. you'll find this to be spot on more cases than not.

good post!


luckily my last time with a girl she actually kissed my hand when we were caught up in the sexual moment....that was obviously enough info for me to know she was ready to be kissed!

I think it has a lot to do with the eyes too. Sometimes (when the fires start up between us...) she'll just give you that look. It's almost as if she's telling you with her eyes.


I'll always look into her eyes and hold it for a little bit longer time than is comfortable (but not too much...like 3-5 seconds). It's like one move. You both make eye contact, and both like dear in the headlights. And as you hold it for the 3-5 seconds you can almost feel pressure building...like the passion between you two almost erupted....almost.


One thing I had an old gf do was....well, we were play-fighting over the tv remote and she made me chase her around the house. Finally she put it behind her back while laying down on the couch....forcing me to put my hands behind her...which brought us very close...the rest is history.


I remember reading somewhere once to ask her if she like surprises. If she says yes, kiss her. If she says no, kiss her anyway and tell her "Oh, I forgot you didn't like surprises."

The idea about the girl letting you touch her is good advice. What I usually do is have them sit/lie in my lap, and so I can touch their neck and work my way down to their breasts. If they don't object to you touching their breasts, you're almost gauranteed they'd be ok with you kissing them.

Leporello said:

The idea about the girl letting you touch her is good advice. What I usually do is have them sit/lie in my lap, and so I can touch their neck and work my way down to their breasts. If they don't object to you touching their breasts, you're almost gauranteed they'd be ok with you kissing them.

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defenitly, the neck is a good place to start with the touching.. although if a girl is letting you rub her neck, that should be a sure fire sign to at least attempt something else.. if unsure she wants you to kiss her, yeah move down to her sides squeeze and back up to her lower breast.. if she let you in that close..

man not doing anything would be a crime