I have learned so much from this site and I continue learning so much all the time. It's really true that women, regardless of nationality, devalue a man who gives them too much attention and is always there for them. It's definitely best to be a mystery...to be there one time and gone for a couple of days in silence, wondering what sort of a guy you are who just appears suddenly, disappears for a while and then reappears again. It makes them really value your time.
I learned my lesson the hard way, first from my former 35 year old oneitis at my gym, and then from another woman who used to constantly show an interest in me but who I didn't feel attracted to. The oneitis took advantage of my emotions and exploited them to perfection, breaking my heart and then bringing her boyfriend to the gym a couple days after revealing to me that she didn't feel the same attraction. I remember how painful it was for me to see both of them walk into the gym the first time, and how powerful she felt. But when we parted ways, I made it clear to her that I deserved a lot better and that she should never think that I would try to contact her again. This woman never imagined for once that I could stay for a full month without trying to contact her.
Now, she sees how much things have changed and how much I have improved. Since the end of last summer and the early fall, there's been no communication between us. When I see her and her boyfriend at the gym, I ignore them both. She can't imagine I'm the same person. It has absolutely no effect on me what they do or don't do. Sometimes she tries to make eye contact with me, but I just act as if she isn't even there. I know she had told her boyfriend about me and definitely showed me to him the first time they came to the gym. Now, when my eyes meet with his once in a while, he frowns. I don't know if it may be because both he and his girlfriend have noticed just how much improvement I have made both physically and emotionally-I've really gotten huge from weight lifting and you guys are right, it definitely pays off; my chest and biceps, legs, etc. have become amazingly huge. It does actually feel good to me to see that I have an edge over her boyfriend, who has a pot belly and is so intimidated by weight lifting that he can't even come a step close to the dum bells or machines. In terms of physical shape and many aspects, I beat him hands down.
There was a lady from Tanzania, Africa, who attended the same undergraduate college as me. I was never interested in her, but she used to chase me down relentlessly. She used to call me pretty much every two months or so, but I was never in a rush to return her calls. Then a few months after my oneitis experience, I felt really frustrated with my negative experiences with a lot of the women I had tended to meet and I started giving this Tanzanian lady a lot of attention-text messaging her back and forth, calling her once in a while, etc. Of course, what happened? Since then, she stopped communicating with me. Again...perhaps part of it may also have to do with the fact that I was doing the same thing with her best friend at about the same time, who also had a ridiculously big ass just like herself and they may have found out. But the bottom line is, she devalued me and I learned from losing her.
Since then, I don't make such a silly mistake again. Just three weeks ago, I met a lady at my gym. She happened to be from South Africa and her ass was so huge that guys were lining up like sheep trying to get her attention, even the personal trainers. I played my game right and when she came toward me, I introduced myself to her and got her to work out with me a little bit, showing her how to use some of the machines. She gave me her number after I asked her out, and the rest of the guys were so upset. Two days later, I called her and we agreed to go out on a date. Unfortunately, it rained heavily on the night we were scheduled to meet, so I called her the day before to reschedule for the weekend, if possible. I left a message on her cell phone asking her to call me back. She never did. I didn't call her either. Two weeks later, she called my cell phone to apologize for not calling me back, stating that she actually had an event to attend when I was trying to reschedule the date. She left a message on my voicemail and I called her the next night. However, I too told her that I will be busy this weekend and unable to meet with her. I proposed next weekend instead. She said that was fine.
Bottom line: If a woman doesn't return my call, I will never call her again. There's just too many women out there. And I didn't think it right to take this recent woman from my gym out after she called me two weeks later because it would have seemed as if I were desperate and just sitting there waiting for her to call me. It would have seemed as if I didn't have a life and had nothing better to do with myself. Now, she will learn to respect and cherish her time with me. It really gets to be fun when you understand how this game works.
I learned my lesson the hard way, first from my former 35 year old oneitis at my gym, and then from another woman who used to constantly show an interest in me but who I didn't feel attracted to. The oneitis took advantage of my emotions and exploited them to perfection, breaking my heart and then bringing her boyfriend to the gym a couple days after revealing to me that she didn't feel the same attraction. I remember how painful it was for me to see both of them walk into the gym the first time, and how powerful she felt. But when we parted ways, I made it clear to her that I deserved a lot better and that she should never think that I would try to contact her again. This woman never imagined for once that I could stay for a full month without trying to contact her.
Now, she sees how much things have changed and how much I have improved. Since the end of last summer and the early fall, there's been no communication between us. When I see her and her boyfriend at the gym, I ignore them both. She can't imagine I'm the same person. It has absolutely no effect on me what they do or don't do. Sometimes she tries to make eye contact with me, but I just act as if she isn't even there. I know she had told her boyfriend about me and definitely showed me to him the first time they came to the gym. Now, when my eyes meet with his once in a while, he frowns. I don't know if it may be because both he and his girlfriend have noticed just how much improvement I have made both physically and emotionally-I've really gotten huge from weight lifting and you guys are right, it definitely pays off; my chest and biceps, legs, etc. have become amazingly huge. It does actually feel good to me to see that I have an edge over her boyfriend, who has a pot belly and is so intimidated by weight lifting that he can't even come a step close to the dum bells or machines. In terms of physical shape and many aspects, I beat him hands down.
There was a lady from Tanzania, Africa, who attended the same undergraduate college as me. I was never interested in her, but she used to chase me down relentlessly. She used to call me pretty much every two months or so, but I was never in a rush to return her calls. Then a few months after my oneitis experience, I felt really frustrated with my negative experiences with a lot of the women I had tended to meet and I started giving this Tanzanian lady a lot of attention-text messaging her back and forth, calling her once in a while, etc. Of course, what happened? Since then, she stopped communicating with me. Again...perhaps part of it may also have to do with the fact that I was doing the same thing with her best friend at about the same time, who also had a ridiculously big ass just like herself and they may have found out. But the bottom line is, she devalued me and I learned from losing her.
Since then, I don't make such a silly mistake again. Just three weeks ago, I met a lady at my gym. She happened to be from South Africa and her ass was so huge that guys were lining up like sheep trying to get her attention, even the personal trainers. I played my game right and when she came toward me, I introduced myself to her and got her to work out with me a little bit, showing her how to use some of the machines. She gave me her number after I asked her out, and the rest of the guys were so upset. Two days later, I called her and we agreed to go out on a date. Unfortunately, it rained heavily on the night we were scheduled to meet, so I called her the day before to reschedule for the weekend, if possible. I left a message on her cell phone asking her to call me back. She never did. I didn't call her either. Two weeks later, she called my cell phone to apologize for not calling me back, stating that she actually had an event to attend when I was trying to reschedule the date. She left a message on my voicemail and I called her the next night. However, I too told her that I will be busy this weekend and unable to meet with her. I proposed next weekend instead. She said that was fine.
Bottom line: If a woman doesn't return my call, I will never call her again. There's just too many women out there. And I didn't think it right to take this recent woman from my gym out after she called me two weeks later because it would have seemed as if I were desperate and just sitting there waiting for her to call me. It would have seemed as if I didn't have a life and had nothing better to do with myself. Now, she will learn to respect and cherish her time with me. It really gets to be fun when you understand how this game works.
