My freshmen year of college has been fun, and I am really looking forward to an even better sophomore year. In terms of girls, things have been alright, but nothing big happened. Getting numbers was not hard, and I was able to talk/flirt with girls just fine.

One thing I've always struggled with was getting a date. Did not land one for Sr. Prom (turns out I was sick anyway on the day of Prom, but I still could have made it if I had a date) and haven't had many overall. I'm not unattractive, I have a very good personality, w/e.

This school year, I think I asked out one HB to lunch, but she "says" she had work that day (apparently she may have been telling the truth, considering she knows I can just walk there and see if she was lying if I wanted to). I don't think I've even talked to her in a few days simply b/c I've been busy, so finding the groove in terms of easing into our good rapport may take a little thinking.

With just weeks remaining in the school year, I am just playing the rest of these few weeks out and eyeing next year - the rooming situation will be great and the atmosphere will be amazing (I picked our room for next year already). Well, quite the twist has come along...

...my friend, a diehard Red Sox fan, bought two tickets to a Red Sox game @ Fenway for next week (Wed). He can't make it, and offered them to me for $90 (he paid $100). I told him I could probably make this, and will be 100% certain within a few days.

Now is my time to get my date. :yes: I brought this up with a couple of my friends (who don't go to my school) and we agreed that I gotta shell out all the dough for this one (so she isn't paying). While my wallet will feel the effects of this, it will dramatically improve the chance a girl would like to go. I have one girl in mind (the one I mentioned before) and HOPEFULLY she would say yes. If she says no to a free ticket to a Red Sox game, :trouble: :trouble: :trouble: .

I could always take one of my other friends and have him pay 1/2, but despite the $$, I would definitely prefer a date. Of course I would like if she went to the game for reasons other than that it's free, but we'll see. I think her b-day is the day after the game..that'll be interesting.

Any advice on how to bring this one up? I haven't spoken with her in a few days, since she said she was working "all day/afternoon" last week. We know each other, but not really well (the girls I do know better all have bf's, so I got unlucky there ). Thoughts here are appreciated.

P.S. I thought my two free tix I won to the major aquarium (need to use them by December) was the hot ticket for me...apparently not. :crackup:

P.P.S. Same chick as described here: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=122028 I feel I can be a little less fearful of a harsh rejection and more agressive here since I only have a couple weeks of class left.

You don't even know if she's attracted to you. Save your $100 and take her on a walk in the park. Seriously.

Serialized3 said:

You don't even know if she's attracted to you. Save your $100 and take her on a walk in the park. Seriously.

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You have a point with the attracted part and the $$ part, but this could be a bang - I am only in school for another 2 1/2 weeks. I am concerned about having to pay close to triple digits for tickets (I'm a huge baseball fan, but even I have limits). A walk in the park is nice, but I think that'll be harder to get a chick to agree to than a baseball game (I still don't know her really really well yet).

We will see...if I feel she agrees only because the tickets are free, she will not be going. The fact her birthday is the day after the game is also a little bit interesting. Maybe I could say this is her "present" from me.

So you hardly know her...don't know if she's attracted to you , but you're rationalizing paying out $100 for her. Seems like all you might be getting is an escort with no happy ending...

The Comeback Kid said:

You have a point with the attracted part and the $$ part, but this could be a bang - I am only in school for another 2 1/2 weeks. I am concerned about having to pay close to triple digits for tickets (I'm a huge baseball fan, but even I have limits). A walk in the park is nice, but I think that'll be harder to get a chick to agree to than a baseball game (I still don't know her really really well yet).

We will see...if I feel she agrees only because the tickets are free, she will not be going. The fact her birthday is the day after the game is also a little bit interesting. Maybe I could say this is her "present" from me.

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How would you know if she was going just because it was free? Think she would tell you that?

Starting off any sort of relationship with her by giving her free stuff for nothing is a bad precedent to set at best, and could coax out her inner playette if she's the type.

Anyways, "dating" college girls is the wrong way to go about things...

Wake up, chump! Have you learned nothing here? Do not supplicate! If anything, the fact that you're spending so much money will be a TURNOFF. Don't do it!

Obsidian said:

Wake up, chump! Have you learned nothing here? Do not supplicate! If anything, the fact that you're spending so much money will be a TURNOFF. Don't do it!

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Haha, whoa man you're channeling Last Man Standing in this post!

The Hor Matrix Has You!!!!

Seriously man 90 bucks on a chick that isnt your girlfriend and thinking taking her to a baseball game is better than a walk in the park, you obviously cant have much confidence in your skills DONT DO IT...

goddamn dude. I wouldnt spend $90 on a chick that I'm banging, let alone on a first date. And its true, it WILL most likely turn her off that you are so keen on getting her out with you, that you have to make the date the main attraction as opposed to YOU. bad form dude.

Aside from the fact that you'd be setting a bad precedent by spending that much for a first date (of course precedent doesn't matter if she doesn't agree,) it's kind of a big sudden move. You go from lunch to a Red Sox game in the course of a few days, you might scare her off. You said yourself you don't know her that well, Fenway ain't the place to get better acquainted. Go with a friend, chat her up some more, build some rapport.

Yeah, I slept this one over, so my mind would be thinking straight when I woke up. I think I was just excited and was speculating last night.

$90 is a lot, and I may not even take the tickets. I agree with you all here that asking her would be a decision I would regret - if we were already dating, perhaps, but we're not. As ConanTheLibertarian said, going from lunch to the Sox game is a HUGE jump. Also, I even feel like I'd be forcing things, and I don't want that.

Thanks for the insight. I wasn't going to make a decision unless I was 100% sure it was the right thing, but your opinions certainly helped (my wallet thanks you as well ).

You can feel free to send us all $10 a piece then