This has probably been beat into the ground, but I'll throw it out there again. Be a man and approach.

I was listening to the radio this morning and the subject was "Why men don't approach women in San Diego?" Now, even though it's not your city, I think you can probably relate.

Women constantly called in and kept talking about how they wish a guy would approach them. How frustrated they were when they went out because no guys would approach them.

Of course there are always two part to every story and I can vouch for this. Women in San Diego are cold hearted b****** and that's no joke. I was honestly at a point where I dreaded when the weekend came and my friends would ask me to go out, because I knew once I got out I would be shot down over and over again.

Eventually, I stopped approaching, and that was probably the best thing that ever happened to me. I went out to have fun. In turn, I became the person that girls wanted to be around. My confidence grew and now I approach without hesitation. Of course I still get shot down every now and then, but the point in the matter is, I go out to have fun and in the process, I approach without realizing I actually approached. Things kinda fall into place.

I guess what I'm trying to say is. Don't feel discouraged about approaching. Girls aren't gonna come to you no matter how cute they think you are. Go out to have fun and don't think "will i get a girl tonight?". Think "I'm just here to have fun." Before you know it, you'll be approaching without realizing you're doing it.

Beat this idea dead until you are awesome.

congrats bro

kdnash82 said:

Women in San Diego are cold hearted b****** and that's no joke.

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I disagree. Maybe if you're in La Jolla, but generally, in other parts of San Diego, the women are quite friendly and inviting.

Otherwise a great post though. I agree with what you're saying. I got in a slump, and this is basically what I'm going through now - focusing on having fun and just talking to women naturally. Actually, I thought women in my area of California were cold hearted b****** too, until I finally broke free of that bitter attitude and began to loosen up and have more fun. I think that's part of the perspective, the way you see things. I find that women are more friendly when I am in a happy, fun mood myself. I was starting to hate where I live, and now I actually enjoy it a lot more.

I believe this is a fitting quote:

"If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change." - Wayne Dyer

kdnash82 said:

Women constantly called in and kept talking about how they wish a guy would approach them.

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hmm....i wonder what these girls looked like!