My date left with another guy!!! WTF???

BADA-BING · Jan 17, 2007

So i am seeing this chick, 25 yrs old, HB 7 very funloving girl. We have been hanging out and having a good time. Last sunday we went out and she ended up taking me home that night and we hooked up. It was great and she says the same. The next day (Monday) she emails me and says that we need to talk, im thinkin "uh oh".

Last night(tuesday) she somes over to pick me up and she says that maybe the sunday night hookup wasn't a good idea and maybe it was a mistake...blah blah blah...I like someone else...blah blahh... you get the picture. So I said "well its sounds like you have your mind made up, so I won't be a dingleberry nobody likes those." We left it at that because we were arriving at the bar we were headed to.

As the night goes on we were out with friends drinking and having a good 'ol time she starts talking to this guy she knew that showed up to the bar. We ended up going to another bar and this other guy shows there too. They proceeded to dance together and started getting touchy with each other. I was about to say something when this guys friend comes over and sits next to me and says "don't think about making a move because she is taken and youll get your ass kicked" There was four of them and I was by myself. I was like WTF??? i didn't know what to do at the time so I sat there and waited a little while before the bar started closing.

She eventually comes over to talk to me and informs me that she is leaving with this other guy. She is drunk and she drove and brought me, i was not quite so liquored up so i said "how do I get home?", she gives me her keys and says I'll take you to lunch tommorow if you take my car home and my friend. So long story short she left the bar with this other dude!!!!!!!!!(smacking my head on the pavement now) and I got stuck taking her friend home and taking her car to her house this morning. WHAT THE F*CK MAN!! I felt USED, and DISRESPECTED to say the least.

I am feeling extremely AFC right now. So once I dropped her car off i deleted her number from my phone book. I feel like revenge but she is not worth my time.

Maybe i should have called for a ride or something. But I do know that i need to study the bible hard to bust the AFC out of me.

How would anyone else handle this?

MacAvoy · Jan 17, 2007

Why would you continue to go out with a chick after she dumped you? I remember a similiar situation with a fbuddy once. I was about 20 yrd old, and I had this FB in my hometown. I'd see her maybe once a month when I came home.

I seen her on a Friday night, then I left her place on Saturday morning, she asked what I was going Saturday night. I told her I had plans with some friends and that I would call her in the future.

My plans fell apart so I decided to pop in at her place. She was having drinks with two guys (ugly fat & old), I was 20, the girl was about 27-28, the guys were in early to mid 30's. We sat around for an hour or two, got a good edge on, then we decided to go to a bar on the outskirts of town. Being responsible I decided not to drive and jump in with them.

What a mistake. When we were at the bar, it became obvious one of the guys was her other fbuddy. So I pretended that I was merely a friend and just had fun. It was all good until they drop me off at the edge of town so I could grab a cab home. Well on the ride back to the edge of town, they start making out in the backseat right beside me.

I learnt not to show up unannounced. Control your environment. You got everything you deserved by goin on with this hor as soon as she dumped you. When she dumped you, you should have asked her to drop you off at home or left the bar.

speed dawg · Jan 17, 2007

Let it be a lesson.

You should have never gone out with her that night.

Same girl as here?: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=116480

Yeah, buddy, she's a keeper. She criticizes you and then dumps you, but you still hang around her. I don't know what to tell you.

BADA-BING · Jan 17, 2007

I guess I didn't really realize it was a "breakup". Should have burned out of there fast!

Hard lesson learned.

BADA-BING · Jan 17, 2007

Actually speed dawg that post is about another girl i have been seeing.

NewMan · Jan 17, 2007

next time take a cab home and don't do her dirty work for her.

Bible_Belt · Jan 17, 2007

As soon as they talk to other guys, you talk to other girls.

realsmoothie · Jan 17, 2007

BADA-BING said:
Last night she somes over to pick me up and she says that maybe the sunday night hookup wasn't a good idea and maybe it was a mistake...blah blah blah...I like someone else...blah blahh...

OK, I know THAT fvcking hurts. I've had that one before.

But this "it was a mistake" crap is such plain girly b.s., I HATE that crap. They screw you because they want to, then suddenly turn tail and rationalize it when they see someone better.

It wasn't a mistake, don't feel bad about it.

And you don't sound quite as AFC as you say you are. You obviously know you blew it, and how you blew it.

Francisco d'Anconia · Jan 17, 2007

I wouldn't have gone to the bar with her. But if she had the nerve to bribe me to with a lunch to chauffeur her friend home a may have considered accidentally dropping her keys down a grate.

BADA-BING · Jan 17, 2007

O Yeah i know i messed up.

The thing is that she was telling me this stuff about it being a mistake and what not while in route to the bar and we were already 20 mins from my house. There were people waiting on us to start a trivia game at the bar.

I was definantely wanting to accidentally drop her her keys in the snow..."ooOOPS!!" I dunno what happened to them. lol

ElChoclo · Jan 17, 2007

I would have taken the keys and driven myself home, and left the friend. The next day I would have left a message telling her to pick up her car. Alternatively I would have advised the friend that I needed some compensation, and that she was it. If she didn't like the idea, then I would leave her.

In any event I wouldn't have been there. With your kind of attitude maybe you should have given the car a wash, hand wax it and fill up the tank.

Charm · Jan 17, 2007

I like ElChoclo's idea of washing the car, hand waxing it and filling up the tank and installing any new electrical components for her that she might like. Or you could have driven her car into a place with VERY expensive paid overnight parking and left it there and sent her the keys in the mail. Definetely though dont drop her car off at your place. You got used but I bet you are really going to learn from this one.

kyphan · Jan 17, 2007

I have to say one thing: you lack a sense of revenge, or evil, or even the ability to do bad things to people who deserve it. You could have gone joyriding in her car, picked up another girl and banged her in the backseat, lost the keys in a million places, used the car as a urinal (when you get drunk enough and the license plate is a Yankees one with "#1 FAN" on it, you just can't resist sometimes....), or one of the other suggestions up above. Damn, it would have been sweet to have been in your spot!

joekerr31 · Jan 17, 2007

although the thought of messing with her car is appealing, its good that you didnt. who knows what that could have lead to. her sueing you in small claims court for a n ew tranny or whatever.

that said, WHAT THE F*CK is wrong with you?!!!!! why would you take her car anywhere.

the moment she said that you should have laughed your *ss off and said "i've got to hit the can, i'll be back in a second".

then you should have left, walked a couple of blocks to a local corner store and called yourself a taxi. stick her with the tab and her problems of her car and friend.

after that you shoudl NEVER EVER speak to her again.

but you know, as absurd as your story was, i bet this kind of thing happens A LOT. once women get drunk this type of behavior is actually common place. what happened to you is that you went from boyfriend to 'friend' in the same night! usually women drag that process out, but when they get hammered and some dude hits on them, they will accelerate it to 'in the moment'. its quite hilarious to watch (once you're comfortable with the idea that there are a lot of low quality women out there).

i've got three VERY simple rules for how i judge a woman.

1) how does she behave when shes drunk
2) how does she treat others that she doesnt know (ie. waiters)
3) does she gossip negatively about other people - not just 'did you hear' kind of thing, but more like 'she is such a sl*t' type of gossip.

notice, not a single one of my factors is how she treats me. women sh*t test you all the time, you can't let their behavior towards you determine how you feel about them (unless its really bad behavior like the above). if a woman exhibits great qualities on the above criteria, but NOT towards you, odds are YOU are doing something wrong.

ive dated women that were practically begging me to f*ck them who i cold shouldered at the end of the night because they treated the waiter like sh*t.

if they do it to others, TRUST ME, once the honeymoon is over they WILL do it to you.

Cenotaph · Jan 17, 2007

BADA-BING said:
I felt USED, and DISRESPECTED to say the least. QUOTE]
Damn Bada, that's some cold cold Sh!t..... feel for ya

Just keep remembering that right there "DISRESPECTED"... She screwed ya once, good for her.....Screws you again, shame on you.

CLOONEY · Jan 18, 2007

LOL, funny story. I would have went to the bar, but just went talking to other girls, plenty of them at bars. If anything, use her as your social proof.

Definately a sl*t though!

jonwon · Jan 18, 2007

BADA-BING said:
Last night she somes over to pick me up and she says that maybe the sunday night hookup wasn't a good idea and maybe it was a mistake...blah blah blah...I like someone else...blah blahh... you get the picture. So I said "well its sounds like you have your mind made up, so I won't be a dingleberry nobody likes those." We left it at that because we were arriving at the bar we were headed to.

Next time cut your loses when it gets to this stage, she firmly rooted you in Friends Zone and you accepted it like a total Wuss.

Sorry no sympathy, slap yourself across the face write wuss boy on your forehead wear it for a week and remember.

Dont put up with female BS.
If she says lets be friends, you say 'I ALREADY HAVE ENOUGHT FRIENDS< SEE YOU' and walk.

You dont say 'YEH thats COOL' and hope she will change her mind.

FFS man the second statements illustrates your not dating her on her terms you have handed your BALLS over to her and now she is now in TOTAL control.

Not only that she told you to take her car home, second whammy in the nuts, this girls is fuc*ing bad news! Drop her like a sack of smelly shi*.
I would have left the keys on the bar and said 'sorry i will get a cab' smilled and walked out.

You my friend are a puss* i am saying this to be cruel to be kind, get those balls in check.

Some guy tells you not to say anything, well it seems you would not have been able to do shi* anyway, also getting into a fight over a looser you have described in this post would be taking this to a whole new level of dumb, so i respect you not getting involved, what i am suprised about though is you sat there like some GEEK and did not do anything for FEAR. The difference is i would not have let it get to this stage and if it did i would have said 'hey no problem, i think i made a big mistake with this girl anyway'.

It does not matter what those guys where doing, what matters is what you where doing and it seems this girl wanted a bigger and better player then YOU not some guy who hands his balls over.

about screwing the car over, well to me it was too late, but some one got screwed over, she fuc*ed two men that night! the guy she went home with and rode till sunrise and your head.

i hope you learned this lesson and not repeat it again, sometime one as to learn the hard way.

If you see this girl again i am going to pay for a pimp daddy to come around and slap his huge **** accross your face to show you what one looks like. Man you need alot of work and you wonder why this stuff happens.

Still cant believe you took the car home, man sometimes coming on this forum makes me cringe it really does, the amount of sheer nice guy BS on here is almost stagnating, especcially confronted with the average quality women in this culture.

WOMEN OVER HERE DONT DESERVE THIS LEVEL of respect for the MOST part, stop being a pandering Puss* to women that are 100% not worth YOUR time.

edmond · Jan 18, 2007

What the fvck is wrong with you?
As soon as the BS starts, drop them.
If she wants to have a friend, tell her to buy a dog.

jonwon · Jan 18, 2007

backbreaker said:
First of all, that's why I ALWAYS drive.
I don't know about you, but the very few dates that I have been on in my life when I wasn't driving didn't go too good. NOt that they were bad dates, I just didnt' feel right. If I ca'nt drive, **** it, I won't go.

This is what I understand. your love life is nothing but a reflection of the rest of your life. As pook once said, if you have an unfinished life, you get unfinished girls (i.e, girls that **** you, get drunk then leave iwth other men the next night)

So, and this is not an insult to you whatever, I don't even know you.. but why are you mad at her and not looking in the mirror. YOu will get where you want to get faster with women when you stop blaming them for everything they do and look at WHy they do it.

It seems to me he isn't much better... following a chick from one bar to another.. having his friends threaten to beat you up if you make a move on a girl you ****ed the night before, but still.

That's only a question you can answer for yourself.

How would I have handled the situtaiton?

First of all, no way in hell I am going out the next night,...
backup

You need to expand more on the night you had sex. I get the feeling you did something to put her off. you told her the sex was great? WTF? As opposed to what?

"yeah babe, your ****s a little to dry, let's try getting some KY next time, arlright?

It's sex. Even the worse sex on earth... is good

And what is she going to say in response?

"hum..your **** is too small"

what I am getting at is, what was the point? you know it's good because you hvae sex enough to where you get enough practice and you know she wll come back... right?

And it's no way in hell I am seeing her the next night. wont' pick up the phone, wont' answer an email, nada.
if you wuld have done that and that alone, I bet you would still be tagging her.. but you have to ask yourself is having sex with trash a good thing?

Anyway, live and learn and at least you are out there, fighting the fight

Yes sorry maybe i was too harsh he is fighting the fight.

I respect that

WaterTiger · Jan 18, 2007

She gave you the keys to her car...:trouble: I'd have left it parked sideways in the driveway of the nearest police station to provide QUICK towing.

I'm sorry, what she did was just evil. Like you were her freaking servant...where does she get off???

You want me to smack her for you? :box:

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