The biggest problem with sex is that people, whether men or women, tend to assume that their partners like the same things that they do. Men love to have their penises touched, fondled and sucked any time, provided a five seconds notice is given. With women it’s different. They don’t like to have their genitals touched just like that. Women are not ready for action at the drop of a hat and do not like it when men move right to the main course without bothering to get the lady properly aroused.
So the basic idea is to get the woman into the right mood by playing on all the sensitive spots that we have discussed before. After the usual wining and dining, or whatever your approach is, check to see if the lady is willing and go into the foreplay mode. I know that some men find foreplay boring and useless and like to think that driving her home should be considered part of it. But they are missing all the fun that ladies love the most. Foreplay is all about exploration, pleasure and building up the passion. It’s a primer for sex. Lying on the couch in the same position for 10 minutes and kissing is bad foreplay. Asking the lady if she would teach you how to please her by masturbating in front of you is hot foreplay.
The only thing that you cannot learn from articles and books is how to judge the individual situations. This you will have to learn yourself. For instance, many women like to be kissed all over, but if you make it look like something you do only out of obligation, then you’re spoiling everything. Some women like to see that they can drive men crazy with their bodies, but don’t be focus solely on her body. It will insult her intelligence. If something you do is not working, change it as soon as possible. Don’t spend a minute kissing a spot that the woman doesn’t care about. And if she tells you to stop in a serious manner, don’t assume that she’s joking. Stop whatever it is you’re doing and talk to her.
Always read the body signs. The three things you can do to any erogenous zone are to kiss it, lick it or caress it. Her body will tell you if she likes what you’re doing and how you’re doing it. She’ll try to guide you toward getting the best stimulation possible, but she won’t use words every time. Go with her hands when she’s pushing you toward a certain spot. Maybe that squirming is not pleasure but an attempt to get a better position or to change your angle of approach so try to guess what she’s trying to do and move accordingly.
Feel free to add your own thoughts and experiences.
So the basic idea is to get the woman into the right mood by playing on all the sensitive spots that we have discussed before. After the usual wining and dining, or whatever your approach is, check to see if the lady is willing and go into the foreplay mode. I know that some men find foreplay boring and useless and like to think that driving her home should be considered part of it. But they are missing all the fun that ladies love the most. Foreplay is all about exploration, pleasure and building up the passion. It’s a primer for sex. Lying on the couch in the same position for 10 minutes and kissing is bad foreplay. Asking the lady if she would teach you how to please her by masturbating in front of you is hot foreplay.
The only thing that you cannot learn from articles and books is how to judge the individual situations. This you will have to learn yourself. For instance, many women like to be kissed all over, but if you make it look like something you do only out of obligation, then you’re spoiling everything. Some women like to see that they can drive men crazy with their bodies, but don’t be focus solely on her body. It will insult her intelligence. If something you do is not working, change it as soon as possible. Don’t spend a minute kissing a spot that the woman doesn’t care about. And if she tells you to stop in a serious manner, don’t assume that she’s joking. Stop whatever it is you’re doing and talk to her.
Always read the body signs. The three things you can do to any erogenous zone are to kiss it, lick it or caress it. Her body will tell you if she likes what you’re doing and how you’re doing it. She’ll try to guide you toward getting the best stimulation possible, but she won’t use words every time. Go with her hands when she’s pushing you toward a certain spot. Maybe that squirming is not pleasure but an attempt to get a better position or to change your angle of approach so try to guess what she’s trying to do and move accordingly.
Feel free to add your own thoughts and experiences.