“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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CarpeDiem

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You could say my problem is that i'm to shy. Many people have told me in the past that I am shy. I see it different. I just think that I am very untalkative. Even when I am with my friends, I don't talk a whole whole lot, i'm more of a listener. I love taking in information. Anyways, I believe that this is the reason I don't have as much of a social life with girls as I wish I did. A few months ago I broke up with my only girlfriend of around 2 years. To be honest with you, I have no idea how I got her. To me, she was just one of the guys. I could talk to her just as easy as any other guy, if not even more easy. She is pretty much the only girl I have ever been able to talk to so easy.

I'm sure there are thousands of guys that would love to be in my situation right now. I have all the resources available to be a very popular guy. I'm a starter on both the volleyball team and the basketball team, I have a decent amount of friends, some popular some not so popular, I'm a likable guy and i'm fairly intelligent. I know I should be able to at least talk to the ladies with some success, but the problem is I don't even start. I have complete confidence in myself. Lets say there was a cute girl in the mall, that I would like to get to know. I know I have the balls to approach her, but what the hell do I say? That's my main problem, i'm at a loss for words, I just can't think up something to say. Obviously there are plenty conversation starters I could use but I just can't think of any for the peticular situation.

Any help here? I'm willing to try pretty much anything out as long as it gets me talking more.
 
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Vincent

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The DJ Bible Read it. Know it. Love it.

Welcome to the site. Even though you might be more of a listener then a talker, it still comes off as shy. Becoming an extrovert isn't hard, and it's a lot more fun man :)
 
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Bjj_playa

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dude, im in the same situation as you, but i've made some improvements so far. i have friends and random people always mentioning that im shy or why i dont talk. and when i do manage to hold conversations i find that it feels very awkward at first. but it will only get easier with practice.

i was talking to a good friend, he mentioned that alot of people in our situation, who are shy or quiet, reply to what people are saying in their head...for example if your in a group and everyone is having a discussion, you might be contributing but only with your thoughts without speaking it. this becomes habitual and were more comfortable not talking....i dont think it made sense how i typed it..but w/e the point is you need to practice and get yourself in as many situations as you can that involve talking.
 
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GaryUranga

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thats me too, since I started working in it and putting effort Ive got comments like "you talk a lot" "dude you actually talk" and some old lady I recently met (yeah I practise on old ladies) "youre not shy" still working on it, quite some way to go
 
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CarpeDiem

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Ya, once school starts back up in a few days i'm going to try and start talking a lot more I guess, nothing really else I can do.
 
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"If you feel like you are comfortable, then you know you will be."
repeat that to yourself, and believe it.
 
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Bjj_playa said:
dude, im in the same situation as you, but i've made some improvements so far. i have friends and random people always mentioning that im shy or why i dont talk. and when i do manage to hold conversations i find that it feels very awkward at first. but it will only get easier with practice.

i was talking to a good friend, he mentioned that alot of people in our situation, who are shy or quiet, reply to what people are saying in their head...for example if your in a group and everyone is having a discussion, you might be contributing but only with your thoughts without speaking it. this becomes habitual and were more comfortable not talking....i dont think it made sense how i typed it..but w/e the point is you need to practice and get yourself in as many situations as you can that involve talking.
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Thats EXACTLY what was happening to me...and still is sometimes when i don't feel like talking.
I noticed this a long time ago and since then i just spoke my mind instead of replying in my mind. After a while you will get use to talking and holding a conversation it'll be second nature for you. :up:
 
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CarpeDiem said:
You could say my problem is that i'm to shy. Many people have told me in the past that I am shy. I see it different. I just think that I am very untalkative. Even when I am with my friends, I don't talk a whole whole lot, i'm more of a listener. I love taking in information. Anyways, I believe that this is the reason I don't have as much of a social life with girls as I wish I did. A few months ago I broke up with my only girlfriend of around 2 years. To be honest with you, I have no idea how I got her. To me, she was just one of the guys. I could talk to her just as easy as any other guy, if not even more easy. She is pretty much the only girl I have ever been able to talk to so easy.

I'm sure there are thousands of guys that would love to be in my situation right now. I have all the resources available to be a very popular guy. I'm a starter on both the volleyball team and the basketball team, I have a decent amount of friends, some popular some not so popular, I'm a likable guy and i'm fairly intelligent. I know I should be able to at least talk to the ladies with some success, but the problem is I don't even start. I have complete confidence in myself. Lets say there was a cute girl in the mall, that I would like to get to know. I know I have the balls to approach her, but what the hell do I say? That's my main problem, i'm at a loss for words, I just can't think up something to say. Obviously there are plenty conversation starters I could use but I just can't think of any for the peticular situation.

Any help here? I'm willing to try pretty much anything out as long as it gets me talking more.
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u dont have to be the loudess guy in the room. you dont even have to speak up a whole lot during a group conversation. u just have to be able to talk and hold a conversation well. just talk more and say wat comes to mind, and it will get easier quickly.

remember, people can make a point better sometimes with one direct comment than just yammering away about nothing.
 
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