For the aspiring DJ currently known as AFC, you must break the mold of proving to a woman that you are the PROVIDER. Do you want to be seen as the provider of gifts and expensive dinners or of great love-making and passion? :trouble: This post is not just about the very first date but about all the dates that follow as well. Notice it says First Dates (implying several).
Many of you guys wonder why you get no booty after you take a woman out on an expensive date, buy her flowers or a nice gift and spend your entire day or week trying to plan the perfect date. :nono:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=115014
This is one of hardest lessons is for the AFC whose never been a DJ who is climbing the ladder. You have read the DJ bible, you’ve begun mastering many of the skills required to get women and here is what happens:
You, the aspiring DJ:
1. Gets over fear of approaching women and smiling at them
2. Gets over fear of conversations and building rapport with random attractive women/strangers
3. Gets over fear of number-closing
4. Gets over fear of calling numbers of women you get
5. Gets over fear of asking women out on a date
6. Cant get over fear of being thought of anything but PROVIDER so takes women on expensive date and costs him time, money and leaves him with empty wallet and no pvssy.
OR
7. Cant get over fear of the woman not showing up to the date so you call her numerous times before the date happens, talking on the phone for hours and without realizing it, her interest is dropping like a turd from the empire state building.
These fears are a stage that must simply be overcome to grow as a DJ. Some aspiring DJs get the picture quicker than others and start saving their money for their own exciting lives and take women somewhere like a walk through a park or some place that doesn't give them buyers-remorse. No matter how perfect you act on your date, if the date itself is seen as an attempt to buy her affection, the damage is done.
True, some women might put out after an expensive date, but the greater majority (and I speak from the experience of many dates like this) will see you as supplicating and you'll need major recovery skills (and a lot of luck!) to turn things around after she sees you in that light.
I'd reached the point where I could make the approach and land the date with any HB I wanted. Of course not all agreed but I could approach anyone. The conversations and rapport building had become all too easy and I thought I'd had it all figured out because now I had the date with the HB9 I always dreamed of.
But guess what?
After my expensive dinner and watching her stuff her face with over-priced sushi or crab legs or lobster, I ended up alone at home at the end of the night. Learn from this aspiring DJs. She saw me as a provider and as an affection buyer. The more flamboyant the date you take her on, the more you have to actually overcome in order to show her that you are the prize. By taking a woman an this amazing expensive classy date early on, she sees that she has you and may even disrespect you just to see how badly you are spun around her little finger. You’ve given her this power and by the time you are on the date, it’s too late to take it back.:kick:
The way to win the woman and show her you are the prize is with sexual tension. By letting the resturaunt or event be the star of the show rather than YOU, the tension disappears. Keep this in mind and pick your dates wisely, keep your early conversations short and you will save yourself countless dollars and hours that belong to you, not her.
Many of you guys wonder why you get no booty after you take a woman out on an expensive date, buy her flowers or a nice gift and spend your entire day or week trying to plan the perfect date. :nono:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=115014
This is one of hardest lessons is for the AFC whose never been a DJ who is climbing the ladder. You have read the DJ bible, you’ve begun mastering many of the skills required to get women and here is what happens:
You, the aspiring DJ:
1. Gets over fear of approaching women and smiling at them
2. Gets over fear of conversations and building rapport with random attractive women/strangers
3. Gets over fear of number-closing
4. Gets over fear of calling numbers of women you get
5. Gets over fear of asking women out on a date
6. Cant get over fear of being thought of anything but PROVIDER so takes women on expensive date and costs him time, money and leaves him with empty wallet and no pvssy.
OR
7. Cant get over fear of the woman not showing up to the date so you call her numerous times before the date happens, talking on the phone for hours and without realizing it, her interest is dropping like a turd from the empire state building.
These fears are a stage that must simply be overcome to grow as a DJ. Some aspiring DJs get the picture quicker than others and start saving their money for their own exciting lives and take women somewhere like a walk through a park or some place that doesn't give them buyers-remorse. No matter how perfect you act on your date, if the date itself is seen as an attempt to buy her affection, the damage is done.
True, some women might put out after an expensive date, but the greater majority (and I speak from the experience of many dates like this) will see you as supplicating and you'll need major recovery skills (and a lot of luck!) to turn things around after she sees you in that light.
I'd reached the point where I could make the approach and land the date with any HB I wanted. Of course not all agreed but I could approach anyone. The conversations and rapport building had become all too easy and I thought I'd had it all figured out because now I had the date with the HB9 I always dreamed of.
But guess what?
After my expensive dinner and watching her stuff her face with over-priced sushi or crab legs or lobster, I ended up alone at home at the end of the night. Learn from this aspiring DJs. She saw me as a provider and as an affection buyer. The more flamboyant the date you take her on, the more you have to actually overcome in order to show her that you are the prize. By taking a woman an this amazing expensive classy date early on, she sees that she has you and may even disrespect you just to see how badly you are spun around her little finger. You’ve given her this power and by the time you are on the date, it’s too late to take it back.:kick:
The way to win the woman and show her you are the prize is with sexual tension. By letting the resturaunt or event be the star of the show rather than YOU, the tension disappears. Keep this in mind and pick your dates wisely, keep your early conversations short and you will save yourself countless dollars and hours that belong to you, not her.