Wat the hell am i doin wrong! I had this girl in the palm of my hand last week, we met off of match.com a week ago on a monday night talked in a bar for 3 hrs, had 3 drinks, she was totally flirty with me, and all week long. she texted me a few times. I called her the next nite to say i had a good time, the next nite she called me and we talked for an hr. Then i skipped a day and called her thurs night to ask her out for fri nght. We went to dinner, and went to my place and made out for 2 hrs. The next morning i called her just to see if she got home alright, cuz there was a really bad rain and windstorm in ny that night, and we talked for a few mins and then i said i gotta go to make it sound like i was busy. That night she texted me to say have fun tonite when u go out! so i assumed things were still goin good from that text.

The next morning im on AIM and i im her, and we talk for few mins and she says she has to go to church but we should talk this afternoon.so i said yea gimme a ring. she said no u give me a ring so i joked - fine if i must! so i wasnt even planning on callin her for a couple days but since we left off that we'd talk i called her and she seemed so blase and almost annoyed that i called. She ended our convo in 5 mins cuz of "laundry" I asked if she wanted to hang out later that afternoon since i was gonna be in her area to return soemthin at a store, and she said she was sleepy cuz its sunday. ok understandable, she was prob hungover no prob there. so the next day i dont call her. The day after that i texted her to ask her how halloween was goin? she was so cold in her responses. i said ill give u a ring lata if ur around, and she didnt respond to that text. so i wait till like 8 at nite and call her and leave a message, she hasnt called me back. how do u go from makin out hrs to cold like that out of thin air. Is it too early to tell bou this girl yet? I mean i dont get it, i havent come on strong at all. i called her for 5 mins after our date, and then i only called her sunday cuz she told me to (albeit jokingly)

This annoys me cuz she told me on our first date that she hates when guys play games and dont call and stuff. I feel like i just fell for a girl trap. I actually beleived her wat a dope. Now that she knows i like her and i opened up a bit about myself, she seems to be turned off.

This annoys me cuz she told me on our first date that she hates when guys play games and dont call and stuff. I feel like i just fell for a girl trap. I actually beleived her wat a dope. Now that she knows i like her and i opened up a bit about myself, she seems to be turned off.

This is exactly what happens when you listen to what a girl says and try to give her what she wants, or what she 'thinks' she wants.

You paid her way to much attention and she got bored.

Kings_royalty said:

This annoys me cuz she told me on our first date that she hates when guys play games and dont call and stuff. I feel like i just fell for a girl trap. I actually beleived her wat a dope. Now that she knows i like her and i opened up a bit about myself, she seems to be turned off.

This is exactly what happens when you listen to what a girl says and try to give her what she wants, or what she 'thinks' she wants.

You paid her way to much attention and she got bored.

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sh*t ur so freaking right. im gonna tell her that too, cuz we had this whole funny argument goin bout how i told her that guys have to wait 2 or 3 days to call after a date. and she keeps asking me to prove it, so we had this flirty runnign argument every time we talked about how i was suppsoed to prove this, and how ridiculous sh ehtought it was. Im def gonna tell her - "i was right!"

ya i was with a chick for a while who was like this...i call her my experimental chick...i juss played with her in every way to see what her reactions were...she was kind of a biatch so i didnt care.

Anyways the first date she said i want the guys to do the calling...so i fooled around and preteneded to kiss her a$s...so i was like "Ohhh ofcourse its us guys'z JOBS to call the girls..."

She was like "Good" anyways nite went on, did what i usualy do to get the girl. She was intrested went in for the kiss got it...and the playing with her mind starts from here...

so after this date, i didnt give her a buzz AT ALL, when i was online i didnt even IM here...5 days passed and she calls me, i dont pick up, she leaves a message saying "hey babeh i wanted to see how you were, you have my number give me a call"...

That same day she was online, so i IM'd her and i was like "hey babe, glad you came to your senses and decided to do the calling." She laughs and says fine, but dont expect me to do all the calling...

Anyways after this point i tried out a lot of stuff that i read on this site to see if it was a success or not, i also tried stuff that i was always curious about.

Never let girls take control, its a big lose factor, and theyll instantly lose intrest in you.

Charm&Style said:

ya i was with a chick for a while who was like this...i call her my experimental chick...i juss played with her in every way to see what her reactions were...she was kind of a biatch so i didnt care.

Anyways the first date she said i want the guys to do the calling...so i fooled around and preteneded to kiss her a$s...so i was like "Ohhh ofcourse its us guys'z JOBS to call the girls..."

She was like "Good" anyways nite went on, did what i usualy do to get the girl. She was intrested went in for the kiss got it...and the playing with her mind starts from here...

so after this date, i didnt give her a buzz AT ALL, when i was online i didnt even IM here...5 days passed and she calls me, i dont pick up, she leaves a message saying "hey babeh i wanted to see how you were, you have my number give me a call"...

That same day she was online, so i IM'd her and i was like "hey babe, glad you came to your senses and decided to do the calling." She laughs and says fine, but dont expect me to do all the calling...

Anyways after this point i tried out a lot of stuff that i read on this site to see if it was a success or not, i also tried stuff that i was always curious about.

Never let girls take control, its a big lose factor, and theyll instantly lose intrest in you.

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its kinda sad. hurts to know the truth bout girls. ignorance is bliss. but then again gettin laid is bliss so im glad i know this for the next girl. I really hope i didnt blow it with this one tho, shes too ridiculous to date, but id have love to bang her.

Yeah, give her a little time to absorb you.

BTW why do you have to "pretend to be busy"? What's up with the other women you're seeing? What about your job and hobbies and such?

DJinTraining06 said:

sh*t ur so freaking right. im gonna tell her that too, cuz we had this whole funny argument goin bout how i told her that guys have to wait 2 or 3 days to call after a date. and she keeps asking me to prove it, so we had this flirty runnign argument every time we talked about how i was suppsoed to prove this, and how ridiculous sh ehtought it was. Im def gonna tell her - "i was right!"

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It's only been a little over a week! Don't throw in the towel yet, and don't blow up on her like you did with the last one.

Don't call her again, you've already done your part. If she's still into you, she'll call you back. If not, then there's your answer.

insomniac said:

It's only been a little over a week! Don't throw in the towel yet, and don't blow up on her like you did with the last one.

Don't call her again, you've already done your part. If she's still into you, she'll call you back. If not, then there's your answer.

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yea im impatient, the thing is i wanna make a plan for friday cuz im busy saturday night, and its already wed. i shouldnt call her tonite?

Im def gonna tell her - "i was right!"

Why do you want to go do that for? Keep this information to yourself bro, the less she knows the better.

so after this date, i didnt give her a buzz AT ALL, when i was online i didnt even IM here...5 days passed and she calls me, i dont pick up, she leaves a message saying "hey babeh i wanted to see how you were, you have my number give me a call"...

That same day she was online, so i IM'd her and i was like "hey babe, glad you came to your senses and decided to do the calling." She laughs and says fine, but dont expect me to do all the calling...


Nice!

Man your first post was like a big man-period. No need to get so emotional over stuff.

2 things you did/are doing wrong.

1) Dont call/txt/IM so much. CALL to setup dates TALK on the dates. SIMPLE..It makes you look busier and thus more unobtainable and unpredictable, which is good.

2) Dont EVER talk about the process/tricks/DJ **** with a girl. Eg; waiting 3 days to call.. and like someone siad, dont say "i was right"...a girl will always disagree with the **** you say about techniques etc even if they know its true. You will come accross as a trickster or a gameplayer instead of someone whos naturally charming/has othe rthings in his life/alpha whatever.

and for the record you dont need to wait 3 days. I call girls whenever i want, sometimes the day after just cos i want to. Its not when you call but what you say. Its dumb to think it really contributes THAT much.

insomniac said:

It's only been a little over a week! Don't throw in the towel yet, and don't blow up on her like you did with the last one.

Don't call her again, you've already done your part. If she's still into you, she'll call you back. If not, then there's your answer.

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Well she came on AIM today while i was still at work around 5 and i gave in and im'd her. She responded "oh i was just about to im u, but i figured u were at work" So we talk for a few mins and she says shes been looking for an apt, and just put a bid on a co-op and is so stressed over it. So it appears thats why shes been cold to me! At least i think.

I had to go home so I said "r u gonna be around lata ill give u a ring" She said yea i should be. So i called her around 8 and we talked for like an hr, great talk, she was flirty and laughed alot. I asked her bout firday night, and she said she isnt sure yet cuz her friend needed her help moving into her new apt. So she said she'll call me tom to let me know. So its hard to say. But an hr convo must mean somethin, otherwise she woulda gotten rid of me alot quicker right? She talks alot, so its not like i was bein afc, it was hard to end it. Plus we were lauhgin alot.