“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

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She just wanted to make out?

DJinTraining06

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I went on a 2nd date with a girl the other night and we went to dinner and had a good time. Afterwards we were leaving the restaurant and i ask if she wants to go get drinks at a bar down the block, cuz this area we were in is basically just bars and retaurants. So i suggest it and shes like sure thats cool.... or we could just go hang out.

Earlier, I had told her i had the house to myself cuz my mom was away for the weekend. so by her saying "go hang out" i was thinking niceeeee im getting some tonite. So im like oh ok yea if u wanna jsut come back to my place and chill there we could do that. So we go to my place and we watched a dvd.
Now the whole time she was like stiff, like she was talkin and laughing and all but like she would hardly turn to me, i could not even try to kiss her. Like i know as the guy im supposed to intiiate and be agressive and ****, but u know how a girl makes it known with body language she dont wanna kiss u yet, like they wont give u an in?
Well finally when the movie ended she opened up, she said she was cold so i said id warm her up and thats when we started making out. We made out for like 2 hrs, then she said she had to go home at 2 am.

Isn't it kinda weird that she wanted to come to my house on the 2nd date. It was her idea, yet she didnt wanan go all the way. Id think if a girl was that forward about wanting to go to my place that she'd be alot more easy lol. Any thoughts? Was she just tryin not to be a slut? Or was she just too tired for a bar maybe. She said fridays shes usually a deadbeat.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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And did you try to get any further than making out? If you didn't than theres your problem solved ;)
 

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JesterX said:
And did you try to get any further than making out? If you didn't than theres your problem solved ;)
yea i did. i was doin plenty of groping and stuff, tits and all. We were laying on each other lots of feelin. She said she needed to readjust cuz we were on the couch and her leg was fallin asleep, so im tried to convince her to come to my bedoroom but she made it clear she didnt wanna. She made some obvious exucse like, no but im too tired and lazy to go all the way over there. SO i insisted i was like ill carry ya, she was like no but i gotta go in a lil while i gotta drive all the way home and if i go on ur bed ill wanna stay. SO im like stay, but she was shrugged it ioff. So she def didnt wanna go that far.
 

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she wasnt ready for sex

dont pressure her, just make her comfortable then the next time she will want too.. keep gammign her
 

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DJinTraining06 said:
yea i did. i was doin plenty of groping and stuff, tits and all. We were laying on each other lots of feelin. She said she needed to readjust cuz we were on the couch and her leg was fallin asleep, so im tried to convince her to come to my bedoroom but she made it clear she didnt wanna. She made some obvious exucse like, no but im too tired and lazy to go all the way over there. SO i insisted i was like ill carry ya, she was like no but i gotta go in a lil while i gotta drive all the way home and if i go on ur bed ill wanna stay. SO im like stay, but she was shrugged it ioff. So she def didnt wanna go that far.

Hmmm, could be LMR or could be she'sot ready. For the record, don't ask, LEAD.

So many guys (David D. etc...) think you need an excuse to get a women to your room (fish tank, computer, whatever) and I'm sure there are times this may come in handy. But let me tell you what I ALWAYS do in your EXACT situation.

As you're sitting on the couch making out just manuever so you are sitting up and she is straddling you, face to face. Keep this position for about 30 seconds and then just stand up and carry her to your bedroom. This technique blasts through LMR very effectively. No need to ask. She has no need to answer.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Teflon_Mcgee said:
Hmmm, could be LMR or could be she'sot ready. For the record, don't ask, LEAD.

So many guys (David D. etc...) think you need an excuse to get a women to your room (fish tank, computer, whatever) and I'm sure there are times this may come in handy. But let me tell you what I ALWAYS do in your EXACT situation.

As you're sitting on the couch making out just manuever so you are sitting up and she is straddling you, face to face. Keep this position for about 30 seconds and then just stand up and carry her to your bedroom. This technique blasts through LMR very effectively. No need to ask. She has no need to answer.
yea i dunno i just got that impression from her that she wasnt ready. Cuz i def made moves. I felt all the way up her shirt, did some squeezing etc etc. I dunno its weird some girls r so easy to initiate with, and others expect every single move to made by the guy, calls, kisses, toching, groping, clothes takin off, etc etc.
 

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First, set this up so that the only place to watch a movie is on the bed, that is my first thought. That will make this easier but it isn't the whole story since many times I made out with chix on they couches then went into the bedroom later. ... but it general set it up so that they are in the bedroom with you already when watching the movie.

Second, make sure you start by holding hands, rubbing fingers, etc. That's better than trying to grope her boobs and start off by kissing her (and maybe you did this, IDK).

There is little doubt in my mind that she intended to have sex with you, but for whatever reason it just didn't go smoothly enough. That means you are doing some things right or she would've just bailed earlier. This is more of a victory than a defeat. But the comfort level has to chance next time or same thing will probably happen down the road with a different chic.

Please next time try setting it up so they can only watch movie on the bed. DOn't touch her immediately, like start the movie and just lean back. If you can make it kind of cold that's even better since you can ask her if she wants some cover. Then you can say "you're hands are so cold" and rub them gently. I would stay at that phase for a few minutes before maybe rubbing her face or something and then go into cuddling then finally kiss her. If you don't have enough comfort after all of that, then something must have went wrong earlier in the sequence or you have scary things on your walls or something!

Try that and see if it you can then get sex. Of course, it maybe different but that's some kind of outline to try that has (generally) worked for me. Lots of times that isn't needed, but see what happens.

If you MUST watch movies on the couch go as far as sucking on her tits or eating her out before moving to the bedroom. My experience is that most chicks asked to go to the bedroom when they were ready for insertion but were comfortable on a couch (even with their kids home sleeping) doing everything else.
 

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everywomanshero said:
First, set this up so that the only place to watch a movie is on the bed, that is my first thought. That will make this easier but it isn't the whole story since many times I made out with chix on they couches then went into the bedroom later. ... but it general set it up so that they are in the bedroom with you already when watching the movie.

Second, make sure you start by holding hands, rubbing fingers, etc. That's better than trying to grope her boobs and start off by kissing her (and maybe you did this, IDK).

There is little doubt in my mind that she intended to have sex with you, but for whatever reason it just didn't go smoothly enough. That means you are doing some things right or she would've just bailed earlier. This is more of a victory than a defeat. But the comfort level has to chance next time or same thing will probably happen down the road with a different chic.

Please next time try setting it up so they can only watch movie on the bed. DOn't touch her immediately, like start the movie and just lean back. If you can make it kind of cold that's even better since you can ask her if she wants some cover. Then you can say "you're hands are so cold" and rub them gently. I would stay at that phase for a few minutes before maybe rubbing her face or something and then go into cuddling then finally kiss her. If you don't have enough comfort after all of that, then something must have went wrong earlier in the sequence or you have scary things on your walls or something!

Try that and see if it you can then get sex. Of course, it maybe different but that's some kind of outline to try that has (generally) worked for me. Lots of times that isn't needed, but see what happens.

If you MUST watch movies on the couch go as far as sucking on her tits or eating her out before moving to the bedroom. My experience is that most chicks asked to go to the bedroom when they were ready for insertion but were comfortable on a couch (even with their kids home sleeping) doing everything else.

i got a single bed, tiny. We held hands first during the movie. Maybe i got too agressive right away. I keep herin u gotta be a man or the girl will think ur a pvssy to i might have started kissin her too hard. who knows. I waited over 2 hrs to kiss her tho.
 
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